Coming Down off the High: Post-Op Reality Setting In
My scars would not be little ones that fade. I had a repair to a multiple compound fracture on my forearm. That was 14 years ago. Though it has faded to a light pink/clear colour, it is about as thick as my thumb, where as a normal person would have a line as thin as a string of wool. All of my lap scars are raised and thick as well, so yeah....for me scars are an important consideration... And let me tell you, it is not for wanting to wear a bikini. I guess it is what you precieve as "normal". If I am self conscious about saggy arms, I'm pretty sure I'd feel the same about a long scare under my arm.
Referral Sent: March 19, 2010
Surgery date with Dr. Denis Hong: December 9, 2010
I totally get that, Marny. I scar like that too. i had a breast reduction a few years back, and, although the ones under the breast look ok, my nipples are weird looking (not sure if a scar revision would fix them, or if i should just leave well enough alone).I shudder to think what kind of scars i'd have on my arms, or my thighs. My belly i could deal with. But i have to wear sleeves anyway to cover up scars, then what's the point of having surgery to get rid of the wings?
I get that "coming down off the high" thing. Although i appreciate how far I've come, and I'm so very grateful to this surgery, and to OHIP and to my surgeon for helping me through this, i've still got issues.
I hope that they get better with time. I have to have faith that it will.
Hugs, chickie. You're beautiful.
I get that "coming down off the high" thing. Although i appreciate how far I've come, and I'm so very grateful to this surgery, and to OHIP and to my surgeon for helping me through this, i've still got issues.
I hope that they get better with time. I have to have faith that it will.
Hugs, chickie. You're beautiful.
I think venting helps - it's like poisen you need to get out. Go ahead and vent, then find your sunshine again. I think the previous poster is right - some of what you want to lose may be excess skin. Also, losing a pound or two a month is way, way, way better than gaining a pound or tow a month!!!!
Good luck with fining your mojo again!!!
Good luck with fining your mojo again!!!
TBIYTC-The Best Is Yet To Come Referral-Mar 2011 Surgery Feb 29th, 2012
True, true. I'd rather not be gaining a pound every month. I will find my sunshine again :) Just needed a day to complain I guess. To tell you the truth, I am already feeling better. There is something about writing it all down that helps for me. My family and friends are a great support, but the people who truly know this experience are those on this board.
Referral Sent: March 19, 2010
Surgery date with Dr. Denis Hong: December 9, 2010
Funny that you put this up today...I've been feeling the exact same way! My surgery was Feb 2011, and I too am down to 170-173 depending on the day. I fit into a 12/14..etc...but I would like to lose another 20-25 lbs and can't seem to do it. I've been at a standstill for awhile now. I feel bad about myself and start putting myself down when I see others who have done so much better. Today, I decided to go back to basics, write out everything I eat, count calories and really look at where I can improve. I've been doing more walking but that may not be enough, I have to bite the bullit and try a little harder...It's summer and I know we can do it! Let's do it together Marny! Let's support each other! Big Hug!
Life is full of challenges...we take things one step at a time...
I love to journal. I should get back in the habit of journalling my food- like you said. There is something about ritual and habit that really helps to keep you on the right track. K- tomorrow, I'm breakingout the food journal. I will also get out and exercise. Since last weekend when I finished my big race, I haven't done a darned thing for exercise. I was taking a break. But after 18 weeks of running 4 times a week, it felt like my whole life. Now that i've missed a week and the weather is so nice, I think I've been feeling itchy to get back out there. Maybe I'll start by walking to coffee night tomorrow evening! :)
Referral Sent: March 19, 2010
Surgery date with Dr. Denis Hong: December 9, 2010
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on 5/16/12 1:21 am - Canada
on 5/16/12 1:21 am - Canada
I think your post is very helpful...it's a reminder that everything isn't sunshine and roses after the weight loss. Which BTW...congratulations! Awesome work! 
This is a good reminder to everyone that we always think that losing the weight will solve all of our problems which it doesn't. It's good that you vented (because you'll feel better) and you've given us all that reality check. For that, I thank you. And I'm sending as much positive energy as I can your way...plus that the perfect feel-good outfit is at the mall on your next shopping trip (in the skinny store...you lucky girl!)
Tammy
This is a good reminder to everyone that we always think that losing the weight will solve all of our problems which it doesn't. It's good that you vented (because you'll feel better) and you've given us all that reality check. For that, I thank you. And I'm sending as much positive energy as I can your way...plus that the perfect feel-good outfit is at the mall on your next shopping trip (in the skinny store...you lucky girl!)
Tammy
Yes...I should probably give the mall another go! Can't manage to stay out of there for very long. haha Most Active
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