Fun Poll: Compliments that are just NOT compliments.
Does this happen to any of you? Please say I'm not the only one. Please.
So, I've gotten used to people not recognizing me. I understand people's obsession with my numbers. But, seriously:
Her: You are looking AWESOME!!
Me: Thanks. I feel great.
Her: I can't get over it. You look so incredible.
Me. Thank you. (... yes, I was smiling inside at her gushing over me, until....)
Her: Yeah, I look at you and you really don't look like you anymore. You look great!
Seriously? SERIOUSLY?? Did you not realize how insulting that is? Smile and nod. Smile and nod. *sigh*
Good thing I'm not as sensitive as I once was.
Anyone else with a similar story? Please share...
One other person at my work has had the surgery (she's two years out). Another person also lost a lot of weight by doing the Atkins Diet.
When I returned to school in September those that knew I had the surgery said "wow Katie you look great. You know Erin lost a lot of weight too, and she didn't even need surgery."
Yep.
HW 282 OW 273 SW 247 CW 232
Yup. You get it. LOL!
I think I find this one the worst of all. To me it's like saying there is something wrong with you at your core.
I can get the other comments. Fat is not attractive, let's be real. And no we don't look like ourselves anymore. I've had several people not recognize me. It's a shock for us and we see ourselves change every day, Can you imagine someone who has only seen us after the weight has come off? I can imagine how difficult it its for them to get their heads around it.
A parent of one of my students stopped me for a chat. She ended our conversation by saying " Well, you are looking a whole lot better, and that's all that matters!" She is a drop-dead gorgeous woman who works at a center for "personal enhancement"; I think she actually meant what she said!!
Gotta shake your head and laugh!
Cheers,
Sandy
Yeah, who cares about better health, better mobility or better quality of life. You look better so you've succeeded.
**SHEESH**
Yes, nod and laugh.
on 11/14/12 6:36 pm - Straford, Canada
No, I think its just you Thea! 
I had a person I grew up across the street from from infant to age 18 tell me I was not me... In a line at a movie theatre, after I said Hello Peter, he asked my name, I told him and he did four double takes then told me I wasn't me... The movie playing in the back of my mind was you're as large a jackass now as you were then and I can't wait to hear your response... so I said yeah you're right, I'm Neil Purvis, which seemed appropriate since we were waiting to see 'Skyfall' and Neil and another guy wrote the screenplay. I thought using Daniel Craig or Ian Flemming as a name was too cheeky! Seriously, you're not you... how do you argue with that? I suppose I have been a tub of lard so long that some folks can't get by the morbidly obese me. KInd of tired of the "BUT you look so YOUNG"... one. my internal movie just says *sigh* when I hear that one AGAIN!
Love your posts Thea, thanks! 
Nice to meet ya, Neil!
Yeah, I get the "You look so young" thing, too.
So, let me get this straight: I was an ugly, old, fat hag before WLS. Hmmmm... wonder if Dr. Gmora would be interested to learn how miraculous his surgical technique is. He thought he was rerouting my innards but, as it turns out, he's turned me into a (physically) completely different person. I guess you could say the same for your surgeon, Ian... oops, I mean Neil! 
