I love my family but...I don't think they understand what just happened
It's always been my families way to bring something when you go to visit I would have made do with the flowers and the cards. That was thoughtful. But I've been open and honest from the beginning and my mom knows I'm full fluids right now. I just don't get it.
Last weekend was similar, they tried to get my wife who is one year banded today to eat a candy cane donut. Lol I know it's what they've been like my whole life. My grandmother would say I was overweight and then force me to eat. Lol it makes me laugh now thinking back.
Anyways thanks for listening/reading. I kinda told them no thank you and my stepdad scooped them up quickly!! Lol god luv em
Well, you can always feed them to people who come to visit you! :) At least they gave you oatmeal and Crystal Light - that was thoughtful!
Kind of shows you, doesn't it? We don't become obese in a vacuum - we are socialized by society and the people closest to us, and we get into patterns like this. It's hard to break them!
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In the end, we are the ones who put the food in our mouths. I am now double or triple the age I was when I moved out of home. So it is now MY issue what I put in my mouth.
All you can say is no thank you and roll your eyes.
Re unsupportive husband, I had to dump a sabotaging husband, I wasn't going to stay fat and miserable to make him feel less insecure. He made it come down to him or me. And it was sad.
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Oh, I agree! I'm not saying we're without responsibility. I'm just saying that these patterns aren't just hard for US to break, but also for the people around us, too - they're used to spoiling us with delicious food that they know we'll love, and they do it out of love.
My husband and I, when we got together, completely spoiled each other with food. We both gained a LOT of weight when we got together, because we both love food and wine, and we would joke, "Food is love" while we fed each other up.
Well, food is still love, and he is really enjoying the food I'm making that's WLS-friendly for dinners and such. (This from a woman who hardly ever cooked at all before WLS.) And he's being completely supportive. But it's definitely a learning curve, not just for me, but for him too!
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