New man friend likes me "as is"

I don't know what to do. A month after having WLS I met a really nice, wonderful man WHO LIKES ME AS I AM NOW (219 pounds). We are meeting in person August 7th and I haven't told him about my WLS. I am not sure if I should tell him or just hope that he doesn't notice I am shrinking ... lol He lives in another state. We met through a dating site.

Hi...until you know him better I wouldn't mention the surgery just yet. I would just say you are eating healthier and losing weight for yourself.
He should care about you for you.... not what size you are.
You are the same person.

Hugs....connie d

lol ... now Connie dear ... you know how men are! They get a certain "thing" in their head and that is all she wrote. And we know which head they do most of their thinking with

Thinking.... so it starts with an idea.....      

He's using his head to let me know the idea:..... 

He's encouraging me to go along with the idea.....  

It's a good idea for the most part... and we're so in Like....  

Hey, Honey,  Was this part of the idea? ....  

Hey, Honey,....Honey,  Was this part of the idea?...  

Honey?  Are you awake?   Was this part of the idea? ....   

Hmmmm.... I liked him better before he started thinking!    .....


Keepin' it rated PG-13.... is a good thing!
Being Silly!!!!  .... is another good thing!
Ro




      

    

TOO CUTE RO! Thanks! I needed that!

I am quite intrigued with this man

I agree with Connie!  This is your "time" to get healthy and happy.  You'll know when it is the right time to mention your "life", if things click between you two.  After WLS, things changed a bit for me; how I felt about myself and my new goals.  I'm married and I still needed wiggle room to put myself first.  Relationships are always exciting in the beginning, but you've already gotten a little hint from your new friend... He's opinionated about how you look.  As you don't know him that well, I'd give him the benefit that he means this as a compliment. 
If you feel pressured, Run Forrest!
Enjoy Life!!!!
Ro

Run Forrest! Run!!!!!

lol ... well he thinks I am beautiful so we shall see when we meet very soon. I am just going to tell him that as time goes by there will be less of me ... with or without him.

Thanks for the words of wisdom

and so -let's play here...you meet and you both fall madly in love-or at least in like...are you gonna stop losing cuz of him?????????

i would certainly hope not!!!! i would think you had wls to improve your health!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sorry! it's a sore subject with me!

We are madly in like for sure ... lol ... and are meeting very soon.

OH NO! I am losing weight with or without him in my life. I didn't go through all of this to stop losing for anyone!!! I just don't know how to tell him ... I think I should NOW and get it over with. I am 1/2 way to my goal (only 74? to go ... would be thrilled with 50) and there is NO WAY I AM STOPPING!!!! NO WAY!!! I really like him but I like me more

Thanks!

My personal opinion and  remember this is MY opinion is to always be honest in any relationship. If the person can not handle the idea of you having WLS for your health now, will he later?

Obesity is a disease just like diabetes and is treatable, that is what your doing now, treating your obesity.