New man friend likes me "as is"

Hi Ro ... we are very compatible. That is why we want to meet. We have been talking daily for weeks now. I will tell him when we meet abut the WLS. There really isn't anything to discuss. I am losing weight ... PERIOD. I hope he will be able to accept it. If not, it was fun while it lasted. I will miss him but I am not going to lose my goal for anyone. This is just too important to me.

Thanks for your help!

I have a feeling that you'll do just fine....   So enjoy your first meeting...

I mentioned in my reply to Marc that I'm going to "unplug" now for 2 weeks, but I'll try to check-in from time to time.  Unplugged.....!!!!

Please read the info that I replied to Marc about... it could come in handy...

Gotta Go.... Bye...
Ro

 

Have fun at the beach Ro! I am headed there myself August 7th to meet my friend (Alabama coast). I did tell him I am losing weight, but did not tell him about the WLS itself. Glad Marc chimed in with a man's point of view. Take care!

by God i think she's got it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ro  said this beautifully!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! she hit the nail on the head i believe--just my opinion ---

this is not being dishonest-it is simply allowing everything to take it's course.....and getting to know core values.....

i did some online dating-matter of fact my hubby and i met online-by accident tho! anyhow- he is so much different than things he told me online- and i found out some of them too late....gifts and cards and all are nice...and i truly  hope this is good for you-i just do not think that your wls is something that has to become an "issue"--i would think it can be broached thru topics of foods or somethig of that nature...get to know him for real  and go from there-who knows! maybe you told him already today and i am typing for naught!

Thanks for the advice and insight. I just want to make sure he understands that I will be "shrinking" and I don't want it to become an issue or a disappointment (for him). I sent him an e-mail and last line I asked him if he would still like me this much if I were to lose weight ... no response. lol

Thanks, Margo!! 

Sorry that you had some "bait & switch" going on with your DH about himself.  Hope that things have improved for you.  (((Hug)))

I have to go... but I'll pop-in from time to time.
  Ro

Well, let's see.....

Mike had no problem with my weight.  He just found an ex-wife of a gay Lutheran pastor who had children.

Jim had a problem with my weight and wanted a size six.  He was out of the picture and I had WLS....so it wouldn't happen again.

Steven loved fat redheads.  Married three of them.  I got thinner and he's with a fat redhead.

MEN!!

Now that I'm where I'm at in life... I don't say anything unless it's just in casual conversation or I'm foaming at the  mouth and hurling in the bathroom....:)

I often wonder if men 'feel the need' to share they've had prostate surgery.

Janet

Heya...

I'm a guy... (I have pics if ya want proof... Kidding!)

Although I kinda bridled at the "men do this, men think that" comments, I ate a Reeses Cup and feel better now...

He said he likes you the way you are... It's a standard Tell-all-women comment... kinda like "OfCourseYouDon'tLookFatInThat"

.... anyhoo, as with ALL women (hehe...) you read waaaayyyy too much into this innocent comment. If he is worth anything at all, he will like you the way you are, the way you are going to be, the way you want to be, and the way you see yourself.... period.

Best of luck... hope it all works out for you two...

Hi, Marc... Excellent Info.  The standard guy comments are just a part of the dance.  HeHeHe

I'm going to be "unplugged" in a few minutes, as I'm leaving now for 2 weeks at the beach.  It would be great to be able to check-in from the local library, but I'll have to see if that happens.

My last point here is that there should be some balance in the amount of conversation.  If the new guy let's her ramble on or asks a lot of questions to keep the WLS issue going, it is buying him "out time".   His limited input about himself will be her "missed opportunity".  Most first meeting are usually kept on the "light-side" and that makes it enjoyable. 

For either men or women, if the other person limits your contact with their friends, family, events... etc...., after dating for a while, take the "hint".... There's usually someone else in their lives already.  Just keep an open mind and open eyes... and have some fun... and I will too!!!

 Ro

Hi Marc ...
I very much appreciate your input. I probably am making a mountain out of a molehill. SO ... I flat out asked him this morning when we talked on-line.



me: would you still like me if I lost weight?



him: of course silly I think you are beautiful I like you alot







So Mr. Marc the Man ... what do you think?







Thanks for the well wishes. At my age (54) nothing ventured nothing gained





OH ... I haven't told him HOW I am losing yet ... I don't think he would care about WLS.