Don't men ever grow up?

No offense to our nice men on here!!!

Here I am almost 55 and almost 1/2 the woman I used to be. I decided it would be nice to meet some men and date. Well, I am finding that even the over 60 guys are just looking for a roll in the hay not actual "dating" as we ladies perceive it. Can't these men at least take you out a few times before getting around to sex???

"Can't these men at least take you out a few times before getting around to sex???"

Yep... men can, boys who happen to have been on earth a long time can't....

Quit selecting boys

I know, easier said than done.... I am afraid it is really true that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince... lots and lots of frogs...

I somehow managed to find my wife only after having decided that every woman on earth was a psycho.... so I can sure empathize with ya....

Only thing I can tell ya is; If you want to not have sex until uhh.... you are ready, then make sure you tell him right up front.... if he hangs around after that, you have a chance.... if he bolts immediately, then you have dodged a bullet and not wasted a bunch a time either!

I was gonna come over and have sex with you but I am getting a plane ticket to Maui to shower with one of the ladies there....

Ya, Marc, don't spread yourself too thin.  Once you committed to Maui you committed to all the single women on this board so you have a lot of traveling to do.  Good way to see the country.

Marc,
I'm suprised you didn't end with. So many women.......so little time.You're a good man to want to help Karen in Maui with her shower.What a guy.

Mary

depends on what sites your looking in and lots depends on what you put in your profile, you need to say up front what your looking for and what your not looking for. I know lots of nice men that are "friends"....

Thanks for the MAN ADVICE Marc. I guess I am a tad old fashioned in that respect. Sex comes with time and a development of ... dare I say it? LOVE??????

Yes, I had a coffee date with a really nice guy (hunky too) who has experienced his share of psycho women. haha

I am not in to "friends with benefits" ... no thanks. I feel that friends do not have sex with friends.

Unfortunately you don't know they are "boys" soon enough Marc. Generally not until they start with the hands etc.

But Marc isn't it true that men do not respect you if you are intimate with them too early on in a relationship???

I have been out of the dating scene for a long long LONG time.

Hmm... that's a tough one. I don't associate one with the other at all...

It probably has to do with the definition of "too early" ... for a woman that means a few dates... for a man "too early" means before desert but after dinner

Contrary to what most believe, men and women have the same desire for sex, but men are a lot more outgoing and unafraid to act on their impulses.... you know, we are such simple creatures... there isn't that complexity of thought like "is it too soon?" or "she wont respect me" or any forward thinking at all really.... it's more like "wow, nice butt!... want sex... NOW!"

I am just being silly..... sorta

I have always read that what we want is really attention and affection.... I know that's the case with me... but we would have to turn in our penis's (penii??) at the Men Shop if we ever asked a woman if she would like to snuggle rather than ask her for sex ... plus be thought Gay if that happened!!

As with everything, generalizing will almost always result in a wrong analysis.... Men, like women are all individuals...

I would like to take you skiing, then dinner... then straight to a motel for an exciting night of Nintendo... you any good at Mario Cart??

I am looking for a companion type of relationship ... not just the flavor of the evening if you know what I mean? I want a man friend to do things with (including THAT ... yes I said THAT!!!) but I don't want to be one of MANY that he is juggling.

So I met a really nice man who wants to cook me dinner and snuggle in front of the fireplace. hmmmmmmm Ok, is he going to be mad when I say SORRY ...

Do I look like a loose woman in my pics? Hottie? ... well maybe clothed ... naked NOTTTTTT! At least he wants to FEED ME ... lol We talk a lot on the telephone and e-mails. I like him but I don't want him to think I am an easy u know what!

Honestly, if I were the man, I would appreciate it if you were right up front with me about it.  Explain it politely.  Tell him "I am new back on the dating scene.  I am looking to develop a relationship.  That relationship does not start with a jump in the hay.  I am open to dinner and then talking in front of the fireplace.  But that will be as far as it goes for now.  I have to take it slow.  You have to understand and take it at my pace."