Make new friends, but keep the old....
ok-i can only sing that --it's from Girl Scouts --sung in a round........and i used to know who actually penned it....i am sure it was not written for Girl Scouting ....
anyhow- my point....
making new friends has always been a passion for me ...and that includes on obesityhelp--yesterday; i got a friendslist request from someone who has their profile private--so i wrote back to them but did not add them as a friend......
in this day and age...i tend to get leary...there are some folks out there preying on some women on the boards and i just cannot be too sure...do i flatter myself in that (women) category ? no....i simply like to know with whom i am communicating!!!
i feel some satisfaction in knowing that perhaps i have imparted some knowledge or a genuine feeling of friendship and i have had occasion to be told by "lurkers" that something i said prompted them to feel better about an issue of their own ...or to find some interest in something i have said or shared over the years.....i feel respect from many and i have been shunned by some ,as well.....that's life!
i value the friends that i have made thru obesityhelp (formerly known as AMOS)--some i have had the pleasure of speaking with on the phone and some i have had the true honor of meeting in person, sharing a meal or a cuppa , a special hug or a prayer....and i feel that there are some lifetime true friends from this....
last week, i had an instance of reading a post - a very telling post- on another board -and wrote to the gal (thru the contact button) and asked some questions- personal questions-i prefaced by telling her where i saw her post and what my own "story" was in re her post-she wrote back a wonderful reply and encouraged further discussion-or not!
so--my question today would be -how do you feel about adding someone to your friends list who has a private profile and won't tell you anything about themselves????? are they simply wanting friends? do they just simply KNOW that i am an awesome human being cuz of my darling fairy girl in her pretty red Christmas dress with white tights??? (humor here folks!!) --do they want dialogue in future ? --or am i being cynical? --why did i not simply "add" them to my list?????
talk to me about this......please..........
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White
Margo,
We all do it, but there have been instances where people have posted and profile or not, they are not who they were made out to be. In some really unusual cir****tances even when they were known to many and were met my many, they were living the lie".
I add people to my list but they are not privy to anything anyone else is. I may be mistaken about that so if I am, someone please correct me.
I'm pretty cynical... yep... ME.... silly, silly me.
Do what your gut tells you.
Janet
I have never completely understood the reason for the friends list.
Over the years I have had some very nice communications with new people. Some write back and forth, others it may be a one time deal.
Only once have I blocked a person because they started friendly then got rather vulgar. The creep wanted photos without my dress - ugh!!
Go slowly and follow your instincts.
We KNOW you are the darling fairy girl in her pretty red Christmas dress with white tights? Let them wait if you are unsure.
Kisses
Annette
Annette 
I too would find it odd that they go private on being new. I would say that red flags are going up there and with good reason.
Please let us know how this develops or even if it develops. I just know the people that are on my friends list is the ones that I chose. Even tho there is a couple on there that I have no idea who they are. I am not sure how they got on there at all. It must have been when I was in twilight land at one point. Ha Ha!
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
Ditto on all that's been said, trust your instincts and keep that sense of humor!!!
Hugs, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
margo i know i have alot of friends on my friends list and i have no clue who most are...lol do they keep in contact with me?? nope not at all...just seems that they liked my attitude or whatever and wanted me for a friend...guess it was to see how many friends they could add to their friends list....so far i have been lucky and not have any weirdo's but now that you mention it about them being new and profile blocked..i would be cautious...
hugs
