OT:Update on my son
For those of you who sent so many sweet encouraging messages, I thought I would update you all about my son James. As you know he has been in a mental facility in AL. Well, today they released him. He has been taking his medication and co operating so they had no recourse but to release him. They bought him a bus ticket to Nashville and put him on the bus, thats where he said he was headed.
As an adult, James was allowed to make all his own decisions, refused to even talk to all of us, said he was born in Illinois (he wasnt) said he is married to a woman who works for the government (he isn't). So he is still talking crazy stuff, yet they let him go. It makes me wonder how many other mentally ill people are on the streets, simply because they have no insurance or income to pay for their care.His doctor refused to even talk to us.
At least we know James is alive, and is physically well, the rest I have to leave in the Lord's hands.
Thank you all for your well wishes. I think I can cope now,,and maybe settle down and get back to basics as far as my eating. The stress recently has been impossible, but its getting better.
You all are amazing! I wish you all great blessings! Thanks so much for your support.
Betsy
As an adult, James was allowed to make all his own decisions, refused to even talk to all of us, said he was born in Illinois (he wasnt) said he is married to a woman who works for the government (he isn't). So he is still talking crazy stuff, yet they let him go. It makes me wonder how many other mentally ill people are on the streets, simply because they have no insurance or income to pay for their care.His doctor refused to even talk to us.
At least we know James is alive, and is physically well, the rest I have to leave in the Lord's hands.
Thank you all for your well wishes. I think I can cope now,,and maybe settle down and get back to basics as far as my eating. The stress recently has been impossible, but its getting better.
You all are amazing! I wish you all great blessings! Thanks so much for your support.
Betsy
"For I know the plans I have for you ," declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
Betsy, I am sorry that things don't seem to be working out well in this situation. It might be that God just wanted you to know that he is alive...what ever it is you just have to realize that He had his own reason for bringing you this far. You just have to trust in Him and know you may never know the reason why it happened this way and why He doesn't let it work out kind of like you would like for it. I know that you probably had a dream that it would end differently and that is alright since we are all only human. Know that God knows what is best for all and that sometimes we just have to accept the things that we really don't want to.
I am going to keep prayers going up for you. I pray that He keeps you and yours in the circle of His loving arms and brings to you all peace, acceptance, understanding and most of all love.
I am going to keep prayers going up for you. I pray that He keeps you and yours in the circle of His loving arms and brings to you all peace, acceptance, understanding and most of all love.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
Annette 
good morning betsy
im so sorry that things are not working out for you better
as far as this situation with your son james. at least you
know he is alive and functioning on some level.
have you ever consulted a lawyer about this?? is there
anything else that could be done to help you stay in
touch with him??
privacy laws in this country have really made things more
difficult when trying to help an adult, be it family member or
not.
i hope your life settles down a bit, and you know im not of
a religious nature, but i do feel that there must be some plan
out there for all of us and maybe you can find comfort in that
be safe and well, jacki
im so sorry that things are not working out for you better
as far as this situation with your son james. at least you
know he is alive and functioning on some level.
have you ever consulted a lawyer about this?? is there
anything else that could be done to help you stay in
touch with him??
privacy laws in this country have really made things more
difficult when trying to help an adult, be it family member or
not.
i hope your life settles down a bit, and you know im not of
a religious nature, but i do feel that there must be some plan
out there for all of us and maybe you can find comfort in that
be safe and well, jacki
Betsy,
I am sorry that you have been more or less shut out of your son's life! That is so tragic for you and of course in his mental state it isn't for him but just know that people love you and your son. Some how he will survive. I your post you said it makes you wonder how many mentally ill people are on the streets? Well I see where you live in Indiana just like Brenda and I. If you remember a few years ago they closed Central State hospital in Indianapolis, I believe it was in Indianapolis, those people were just let out to relatives and if they had no one to help them out they were put mainly out there on the streets. There are alot of men especially who live under bridges and in shelters that are mentally unstable. I wish that there was some organization out there and there might be, to help the mentally ill. So just know that your son isn't alone and he will probably hook-up with others just like him that can help him out in the long run. Just keep the faith that the "good lord" is watching over him.
I am sending you a
BIG HUG! Take care! Michelle
I am sorry that you have been more or less shut out of your son's life! That is so tragic for you and of course in his mental state it isn't for him but just know that people love you and your son. Some how he will survive. I your post you said it makes you wonder how many mentally ill people are on the streets? Well I see where you live in Indiana just like Brenda and I. If you remember a few years ago they closed Central State hospital in Indianapolis, I believe it was in Indianapolis, those people were just let out to relatives and if they had no one to help them out they were put mainly out there on the streets. There are alot of men especially who live under bridges and in shelters that are mentally unstable. I wish that there was some organization out there and there might be, to help the mentally ill. So just know that your son isn't alone and he will probably hook-up with others just like him that can help him out in the long run. Just keep the faith that the "good lord" is watching over him.
I am sending you a
BIG HUG! Take care! Michelle 
Betsy,
I wish I could say something that would help other than offering prayers for you and your son.
Between the Mental health care system, the insurance system and the privacy thing it is so hard for people to take care of or see to the care of their loved ones.
I have never been in your place as far as having loved ones out in the street like that but do deal with family's that struggle with it.
I hope you find peace with the situation. JO
Betsy:
At least you know he is alive for now. That is some comfort. I know that's tough. Unfortunately, the laws don't allow much more. When they closed the big hospitals, most of these patients wound up on the streets ... for some, it worked out, for most it didn't. Many ended up in prisons where they didn't get help (I've read many stories about these people) or homeless (also read many stories). It's very sad. Some people actually do get help eventually, but you can't help someone who doesn't want it. My coworker's sister is finally cooperating and taking her meds and doing better. But that has been a long road and who knows how long it will last.
Good luck to you ... stay strong. You can only do so much for him because he doesn't want your help right now.
At least you know he is alive for now. That is some comfort. I know that's tough. Unfortunately, the laws don't allow much more. When they closed the big hospitals, most of these patients wound up on the streets ... for some, it worked out, for most it didn't. Many ended up in prisons where they didn't get help (I've read many stories about these people) or homeless (also read many stories). It's very sad. Some people actually do get help eventually, but you can't help someone who doesn't want it. My coworker's sister is finally cooperating and taking her meds and doing better. But that has been a long road and who knows how long it will last.
Good luck to you ... stay strong. You can only do so much for him because he doesn't want your help right now.
Aloha Betsy.....Yours is a story that is all too familiar unfortunately. I have a friend who graduated with me as a psychologist, and she worked in a mental health facility with seriously ill patients. My path took me more into working with young people. She would tell me of horror stories about her patients who were released totally unprepared for the real world...but she had no power to keep them hospitalized. She finally had to go into private practice because she couldn't stand seeing these people released to fend for themselves when she knew that they were not capable of taking care of themselves. Hopefully your son will find someone, or somewhere that will be a place of refuge for him. I am so sorry that you are having to worry about your "baby".........and I know you still remember the little guy with so much potential.
Thank you for letting us into your life in such an intimate way. I hope you feel comforted by the wonderful people in here.
Aloha nui loa,
Maui Karen
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