Guess what? It's MONDAY!!!! What's new in your neck of the woods?

Good Morning George and Everyone!

Unlike you, Margo, I love that Monday is here!  Don't ask me how I started to like Mondays, it just happened somewhere along the way.  Maybe because in doing genealogy it means that courthouses and vital records offices are open.  

I don't know how much longer I can help The Lady.  This has been a hectic week with her and yesterday was no different.  She called in the am to say she was being "allowed" to stay in the hospital another day.  That was a sigh of relieve to me, so I cleaned my bathrooms and the kitchen floor and had the water boiling for some pasta when the resident doctor on the floor called me to say she was being released right then and there.

I dropped everything and ran to her house since I have the only keys.  While waiting, I decided to clean the fridge.  Holy crap, what a mess.  There were so many things in there that looked like they had been molding for months and months.  Liquids had spilled and cemented the plastic closures from bagel packages to the shelves, baggies had fused together and to the shelves with their long gone contents....the goop was horrific.  The smell was sickening.  At least I could clean in peace without her eagle eye watching every move.  

About an hour later The Lady called.  She said the hospital was trying to kick her out, she didn't want to go, so she called the police.  Oh. My. Word.  She called the police to her hospital room.  Nonetheless she gave me additional items for her grocery list and asked me to make an appointment to have a tree doctor look at the backyard tree.  huh???  

An hour after that she called to say she was coming home in 30 minutes and then she asked me to go get her some Chinese food.  Fried rice and egg foo young.  She said the ambulance can wait in the street if I'm not back.  again, huh???

When they arrived she made the ambulance driver wipe off her wheelchair with a disinfectant wipe because she didn't want the swine flu virus that was rampant in the hospital on her chair.  

I had to change the roll of paper towels by the sink because the paramedic grabbed from that roll when they originally took her out of the house to go to the hospital.  

I had to use disposable rubber gloves to put the sheets from the washer into the dryer.

All the dishes from the fridge that I washed, the ones that had the mold growth contents, had to put back in the sink with Tide and bleach to let them soak.  Yeah, Tide to do dishes.  

The longer I am in the house the more I want to gag.  The filth is unbearable.  Her bedroom smells like urine.  She smells like urine.  When I got home I walked in the door and right into the laundry room, stripped my clothes, put them in the washer, jeans, pink blouse, unmentionables, and washed them all together.  Uck.  I then took the longest shower of my life.  I am a clutter-free, clean freak of epic proportions.  I can't stand this job but I desperately need the money.  

She wants me to come back today until she can "heal" from her hospital experience.  Fortitude, all I want is fortitude.

I'm praying things go well for your son, George.  I crossed my fingers, too.  

peace & blessings, Elaine     

Aloha Elaine.......dear heart....I don't know how you do it! You have so much more strength of character than I do. I could NOT deal with what you describe in that house. I feel for the woman that she has come to the place where she is in her life, but to live like that and to treat you as she does, I'm afraid my compassion flys out the window.

I have a neighbor who is a hoarder. She never lets anyone in, but one time I had to go in while she was in the hospital to get something for her. There was a "pathway" through the crap! She was an online shopper...addict really, and there were unopened boxes by the dozens amongst all the junk. Ironically she was a neat freak about her frige......everything lined up and perfectly clean. It is a pathology that is not difficult for me to understand as a psychologist. But, it is one that makes life hard for the family and friends of the who afflicted with this condition.

Good luck in hanging in there. Thanks for sharing your story with us.

Aloha nui loa,

Maui Karen

Thanks, Karen.  It's good to hear of someone else whose dealt with this type of affliction.  She does not want Social Services anywhere near her home because she knows they'll take her out.  I talk with my therapist about her, but I don't get any advise on how to deal with the situation, and justifiably so.  Yesterday, I realized that no matter what I do to clean or organize, she does not want it.  She knows where every piece of garbage is located, even if it gets kicked around.  

She said she told the psychiatrist who saw her in the hospital that she's never had counseling, which is a lie.  I know there's nothing I can do, so for now, I'll grit my teeth and take my pay and keep looking for alternate employment.

Elaine

I am begining to feel like Margo about Mondays. With my new boss I no longer love coming to work. Personally she is a gem, Oh I won't go into it, it doesn't matter.
   This is my favorite time of the year, I do so Love being outside and planting. I lost 3 roses over winter that will have to be replaced. I replaced a couple last year but that was when Chuck was taking up so much of my time and I planted them in haste instead of love, so back to the drawing board. I have a strip along the side of my house between my house and the neighbors about 18 inches wide that I have been trying to figure out what to do with,every year I  lose the area to the weeds. I have 4 lavender plants on part of it . I decided hostas!! I love them and they are easy, and one more lavender plant. Menards had Hostas for $5 yesterday so I went and bought 6 and to top it off they were only $2.50, I love a good deal. As I was driving home it hit me that strip is a pretty sunny location, and Hostas like more shade,, Well I will try it and we shall see.
  I am not in a very good place right now, I just want to isolate, and cry. I did lose a good friend to a horrible accident last week, all for the lack of him wearing his seat belt, there will be a hole in the world with him gone. I don't know if this is why, as I had no one to share my grief with. As I read the board, so many are having hard times right now, I am glad we have each other to lean on. 
   Saturday was opening day of our Farmers Market, I bought herbs and free range chicken eggs.    I hope your son gets one of those jobs George, my son has been out of work since fall but I am unhappy to say he seems to be happy sitting on his behind playing video games collecting unemployment. Grrrrrrrrrr. Think I will take my Eeore mood outta here. Blessings to all, and I mean it

Jean.....(((((HUGS)))))....connie d

Aloha Jean....Your post made my heart do a flip flop. I so feel for you in being "not in a very good place right now." When those times come and go and you DON'T have anyone to share them with, it can get intense. I'm glad you come in here......it can be a place of relief and support through one of those episodes. It sure has been for me.

Your love of flowers and nature I believe will be a huge comfort for you. So many people go through life never experiencing the beauty all around them...and miss so much. When I'm "down" I try and go out on my lanai and soak in the beauty and the life happening in front of me. I know I'm really down when that doesn't lift my spirits at all.

Just wanted you to know that I felt very moved by your words, and that I hope you come back soon with great news.

With so much aloha,

Maui Karen

Thank you sweetie, that means a lot to me.

George...I'll keep your sone and his family in my thoughts.

Margo...I'm usually a Monday Slug, too! But I've got too much to do today. We're leaving on vacation Sat., will be gone for 2 weeks (Yea!) and I had everything planned.....finish Dee Rag orders by tonight. Got Weight Management weigh in tomorrow and blood draw in the afternoon, laundry and start packing. Wed....get jacket, 2 shirts and 6 Koozies finished by tomorrow (all have small designs) Thursday to finish packing clothes, dive gear stays packed and ready to go. But Oh NO.....my webmaster didn't close my website on time and I've had orders for 73 Dee Rags come in over the weekend! AND he needs it 4 days after we get home so they have to be done before we leave. Now.....I can't deny the money will come in handy on the trip so I really shouldn't complain but that means I am going to be rushed all week. I hate to start a vacation pooped out and tired!

Other than that little rant everything is going great! I think I've lost a little this week, at least I feel like it. I only weigh once a week so I'll find out tomorrow. I may not be here much the rest of the week, gonna be kinda busy, but I'll try to pop in at lunch.

Back to the list!  LOL!

Hi George and my OFF family:

Getting on here late because I had my pain injection and didn't
get home til after 1. There was a call from Carla, so I called
her back, but we had a misunderstanding so we wound up not getting together. Also had a call from work, asking me if I wanted
tickets to go to the "The Chaos Experiment" premiere (the movie
I was an extra in) tomorrow night, but I have to work, so I had
to say no.

I'm really sleepy now so I won't say anymore. I know no one
wants to hear about my problems anyway, so everything is
better left unsaid.

eileen-get yourself a notebook full of paper and write- journal your thoughts- that gets them outta your head and you can read back later- doodle if you wish; dream; draw; cut out pic sof things you enjoy and glue in...if you have a conversation with someone that upsets you -jot down who you were talking with - or the weater or whatever...
just a thought................