What is our obligation?

Many of you misunderstand me as being this miserable person who is so unhappy that I am trying to make you guys unhappy.  Okay, that is sort of the same thing about same sex marriage.  OH my, if we let same sex people marry, it will destroy the family, right?  So, I am an atheist and you guys or some of you guys must think that when I post I do so to make you miserable.  You must read my post and it must make you challenge your own faith that is the only way that I can see that me telling the truth that I see can hurt you.  I’ve been accused of crawling out from under a rock.  Well, that is not me.  I live in a very nice house and even have one in the valley, and so to say that I crawl anywhere is mistaken me for someone else.  If you post something and challenge me, I’m going to respond.  I’m human and will say, wait a ******g minute, she or he just challenged me on my beliefs and so I’m going to respond and I do with as little malice as I can.  I admit that I do, at times, point out certain members who are, I think the worst hypocrites in the world, but they are so out there and putting there **** out there, so yeah, I’m going to remind them, every single chance, that they are living a lie.  Adultery, come on, a lie.  I’m just not like those of you who are saying to each other in private post, girl, I cannot believe that she is ….  You know I’m right.  Right?

Here is the deal.  Someone is morbidly obese and we know from our own experience that the only way to take hundreds of pounds off is through wls.  If we could pray it off, you guys would all be thin without having altered your guts, right?  So, when I say, well, instead of praying for this person, and many of you are inclined to throw that, prayers going up, because you see that is all you have to do.  All you have to do is say a little prayer and your obligation cease.   The person is still fat and still in danger of dying.  Why do you not say, have you tried giving her information, or here’s a really good book on childhood obesity or if I pay for a month’s membership at the boy’s club, will she go for swimming every day?  I’m just saying, ,it is so easy to offer platitudes of nothing, but a real person would do some real offers of help and not just say, prayers going up.  Give me a break.

an offer of a hug from one sick puppy to another!  A big Big Nonjudgemental Hug!

Thanks.  Sometimes all a person asks for is understanding and not judgement.

Aloha Jeannie.....Hey, I'm Swedish.......you know......NEUTRAL!! LOL

Aloha nui loa,

Maui Karen

Karen,

I understand.  I try to be neutral but I just cannot keep my mouth closed. I try to ignore the posts where I am mentioned or ignore the ones where I feel like my rights are being trampled on, but I cannot do it.  I wish I were Swedish.

I try not to judge others but to offer support (and prayers when asked) but not if I know the person doesn't want that.  I read most posts and try to respond as I feel they are needed.
Hope your life is going well for you and that things go well.
I also feel the need to offer help to those who need to lose as we know as WLS patients that just dieting doesn't work.  We need help from whereever we can get it.
Sheri

Sheri,

Life is good.  I think, for me anyway, that all I want is the same opportunity to voice either my belief or my displeasure when others knock me.  However, I find that anyone who is not status quo is really not wanted on this forum.  I think that is why so many leave and just pop in.  I usually don't post because I am so different in my philosophy than many of the ones here so I usually read and respond if I read something and I can offer a little insight.  But, sometimes I forget that this board is not really what it is intended to be, it is a place where people must be a certain way, post a certain way, and the rest of us should either smile and like it or keep our mouths shut.  Yeah, I really get tired of it.

Sorry that you feel you are not appreciated.  I have read much of what you write and feel it is well thought out.  Everyone should be allowed to post as they feel and not be critized (sp) for their thoughts as each person is so different and can usually help in different ways.
Sheri

First of all, let me say, any time I see you post I roll my eyes.  But not for the reason you think.  My reason is, oh crap, she is going to make me think again.  Your postings always do that.  It challenges me.  There are times when I am not up to a challenge, so I just move on.  I do respect how respectful you are in your posts and how you do not make personal attacks.


Now regarding this particular question.  I am very outspoken about my WLS.  I tell the story to anyone who will listen.  I carry a picture in my wallet that was taken the day before I started my 2 week diet before surgery.  At my highest weight EVER.  360 lbs.    I tend to slip my surgery into more conversations than I should probably, but I am that happy with my results, that I can not contain myself. 

That being said, I will not walk up to someone I do not know and just say "Have you considered WLS?"  That is too confrontational.  My late mother-in-law used to sell Juice Plus.  She had no problems walking up to someone in a restaurant who was overweight and try to start hawking her product.  That was her not me. 

I go to a lot of baseball games and talk about my surgery all the time out there.  I have already met two people at the Ballpark who are members of OH.  One of them just recently had her surgery and another was looking into it. 

Being a Christian, I can always pray for someone.  They don't need to know I did.  But after prayers are said, I will always talk the talk if the opportunity presents itself.

Enough thinking for tonight, can I rest my brain now?

 

 

Yes, cricket, you can rest. LOL. 

I can honestly say that there are two of you on this board that I have never questioned your faith.  While many people espouse their belief, they do not walk the walk.  That is what gets me here.  People who say they are godly but are evil.  And they are the very ones who jump into my koolaide. LOL