new man in town.

Hi,
I'm new here and just wanted to say hello. 

Hey Ben. Welcome.  Have you had surgery or are you waiting to have surgery? 

Thanks.

Hi, Ben and welcome to OFF. We are a very supportive group and offer friendship, understanding and unconditional love. If you have any questions there is always lots of knowledgeable folks on here. We offer a shoulder to cry on, and plenty of laughs too. We do love to have fun on here.

There are a couple of guys on here. George posts regularly but is on vacation right now I believe. Floyd posts when he can but he is very busy with work most of the time.

Please post often so we can get to know you and you can get to know us. I looked at your profile and didn't find much information. Have you had surgery yet or are you waiting or working on the deciding if it is for you? So....when you can pull up a chair and join us in our many conversations.

And again, welcome to OFF....you are a part of us now.

I had surgery five years back and lost over a hundred pounds and have maintained the weight off.  I had an account here a couple of years back and forgot my password.  I never came on thos board but did spend some time on the main board, just reading the post.  My wife died last year and she was the one who kept me on track and now I'm realizing how much she knew about keeping me on track and how little I actually know.  I've been going to a nutrition person and met up with a gal in her office who said I should swing by here.  She said there is drama but that if I have any questions that there's a lady here who knows everything about wls.  The gal *****ferred me is a teacher.  I don't remember her name. Anyway, I hope I see her here. If she reads this I'm that cute guy who talked to you about Obama in the nut. office in Fort Smith.  She is waiting to have some kind of surgery and is not doing well with her eating.  If you know who that is tell her the cute guy is here and ready to sweep her off her feet. 

welcome a-board
another man...oh my! george and floyd and marc will be happy-sometimes other guys drop by but mostly this board is women...don't let that scare you off!  and don't think it's a place for an easy pick up!

brenda pretty much said it all- we have a thread-"what's new?" that is done daily-someone starts it and it's kindof an anything about your day sit and chat and catch up on life...linda s does a " what we're eating" thread--feel free to jump in on any of those...

as you read you will see that many of us have been around the boards a long time and have formed friendships-most on here and many in person as well...a very caring group...

please tell us more about yourself.................

Hey Margo.  Thanks for the welcome.  I'm 56ish and am recently widowed.  My wife and I were married thirty years and had two kids.  I am a retired factory worker.  I'm an outdoorsman and spend all of my time hunting and fishing.  I do some part time work for the game and fish commision around the Ozark Mountains but mostly I just relax.  I had bypass a few years back and lost all the weight that I needed to lose and have kept it off.  I'm one of those tall guys and had only about 120 pounds to lose and it came off fast.  My wife usually kept me on track. 
You can read the other posts for more information.  I hate repeating myself.  I use to hang out on the main board till I lost my password and had to come back.  Now, my wife did my profile before, I'll doctor it up, if I decide to stay around.  My problem is remembering the damn passwords. 

i cannot tell you how many passwords i have lost!!!!!!!!!!!! oh yea!!!!!!!!!!
i did see your post above-thx for some info about you-it's so much easie rto talk with someone i think when you know alittle...

sorry that you lost your partner of so many years... she must have been special!!

stick around- we don't really bite!!!!

I had a password file and lost the password to the file.  You know in all the years of marriage I can say that I never regretted my decision to marry.  Not that everything was perfect cause we had our disagreements.  We made a rule in our first weeks of marriage to never go to bed angry and to always fight fair.  I do miss her but she had breasts cancer and by the end of her life, she had suffered so much that we were sad to see her go but happy she was not in pain.  My children are good to me.  My son is gay and his partner tries to keep me on track with my eating.  He cooks for me and brings it over in little containers and he measures it all out.  He's as fussy as my wife was.  My son has a good person as a mate.  My daughter is in medical school and I rarely see her.  She's busy making a life for herself.  As far as I know she is not gay. But if she is it's okay.  I was really upset when my son came out and I didn't want to meet his partner but my dear wife said that we only had two kids and as far as she could tell neither of them were dispensible, so I put on my happy face and met the guy and over time have got use to him.  He's a good person and my son loves him.  Plus he was a god send when my wife got sick.  He's a nurse so he took care of her from her chemo to her surgeries to her more chemo and we kept her home because he took off work and gave her bedside care. 
So that's about all my dirt for a day. 

Hi Ben,
I just wanted to add my welcome here. My brother Jon was gay (died at a young age-AIDS) and having someone you love that much with you is much more important than focusing on the "gay" part. Your son's partner sounds like a dear man... it is wonderful that he stayed with your wife through her ordeal with cancer. I also have gone through breast cancer, though not to the extent that your wife did. Mine was caught very early and other than having to go to San Francisco for frequent check-ups I am doing great. Thank you for being so forthcoming about your journey!
Julia