What we are eating and what's eating us.Wednesday.

Janet,

You make me smile. I should have shot the SOB when I had the chance. Not in the head but in his ... wallet. You thought I was gonna say 's.

This is another part of stepping out of that damned box. Some redhead I know keeps shoving me over the edge of the box.  She is either putting a ladder there to gently nudge, setting off a charge of dynamite or making me put on a set of wings to FLY. God bless her

annette; it's amazing the things our children never saw..even if it were right under their noses...mine as well were blinded by love for their father...........

don't give him that power sweetheart!!! slay the dragons one at a time......
hugs!

Good morning Lovely Linda and all of my OFF friends.  I thought I would chime in this morning.  I was up at 4:45 a.m. to get an early start with work and hoping to get caught up around here.  I  hope everyone is feeling great and enjoying the summer. 

Breakfast:  2 Cheese sticks, coffee

Lunch:  Not sure yet.

Dinner:  Flounder, potatoes, vegetable and salad.

Get well wishes for those in need.  Have a wonderful day everyone!

Debbie

Hey Miss Rosey!! All is well here...smile.
Have a good one!

Thanks Margo,
HE put on a good front. Gave the girls and me generous presents, never his time. HE put on a false front of kindness and I put on a happy face so as not to damage their little brains.

Progress to take away his power has been slow but I have made progress by admitting he was 100% wrong. It gets better most of the time.

Annette,
I cannot imagine having to go through with what you've gone through.  I, like Janet and Margo, hope that he isn't still saying those cruel things to you.  It is hard enough being a woman in a man's world, but to have to take that patriarchial crap behind closed doors of our own homes is wrong. 

Our good dragons are come from so many different sources and if you are like me to slay those dragons takes such heavy armourments that we just get so weighted down and the fight is lost before we even begin.  Take care of yourself and don't let the opinions of others destroy your self esteem. 

Jeannie,

Since losing my weight he has become all sweet and kind. Too bad, too late, he couldn't have me for anything.

It took a long time to realize that I actually have some value. Once in a while, I forget and need to give myself a big kick in the butt.

I'm with you on kicking all those people who were so judgemental and cruel to us before wls to the curb.  I'm glad you are strong and are able to remember how he treated you but you don't let it defeat you.  Memory is a bad tool sometimes, but for those of us who have been through abusive situations, it is a good tool.  We need to remember.

No NO NO Annette - don't listen to the dragons any longer! You are a strong woman and deserving of much better things! Look at what you've done for yourself with the weight loss surgery! Tell them that the source of your food dragons are YOUR issue, not theirs...so go take a flying leap!

I know the horrors of lingering abuse. My childhood was nothing but physical/mental torture.  I tell people it's like learning your multiplication tables when young. They get pounded into your head, repetition after repetition. As an adult they're not pounded in, but still pop up once in a while, like every time you double a recipe, or figure out how much gas your $20 will buy. You NEVER get over it, so you have to deal with. 

Claim your ground. Take the good stuff and leave the bad stuff behind.  When things get bad take a step back like Darlene says in her inspirational post today. 

I've never met you, but I see how much weight you've lost, and I read your posts so I know you aren't stupid, and I see your picture avatar, so I know you're not ugly.... so what the heck is all their talk about??   

Be proud woman... you're a good person!

Elaine  

Thank you Elaine,

We all have a past - some good, some bad. Thank goodness for the support we give to each other here.

Annette