I've Been Gone - X Post

This has not been a good 6 weeks for me.  On April 24th a nodule was found on my Mom's right lung.  She passed away June 4th.  She had small cell lung cancer.  A very aggressive cancer.  She went through one round of 3 days of chemo.  It wiped her out and she never really got her strength back.

My Sis and I both went to TX on May 1st.  I came home for a week while Sis saw her through the first chemo.  The plan was for me to go back for the second chemo and alternate, etc.  Two days after the first chemo, my Sis called and said come quick.  I did.  Mom rallied and Di left to go home to NY for a short break.  I called her in 3 days and said get here quick!  She did.

Mom elected not to go through a second chemo.  She came home from the hospital with Hospice and passed away 4 days later.  My Sis and I had been at her side constantly.  Thirty minutes after we fell asleep (each in a recliner in her room), her caregiver woke us up to say she had passed away!

Mom had 24 hour caregivers since the end of April.  We even kept them while she was in the hospital.  They were the most wonderful, caring, loving 3 women we have ever met.

Mom passed 1 year, 1 month and 1 day after Dad.  My Sis and I were at his bedside when he passed as well.

I'm sorry.  Death, not matter how expected, is never easy.  Thankfully, she didn't have to linger for months and thankfully you guys were there with her.

I'm glad you are back and sorry you are going through this.  Losing our moms is top on the list of life's greatest losses.  I miss mine every day.  I offer my friendship to you and a hug or two.  Remember to take good care of you and try to share the great memories you have of your mom. Our stories keep them alive.  My mom loved God and life and people!  And she poured herself into all three! 
Big Gentle Hug,
Marie

My heart breaks for you and your family. It is never easy to lose family and even harder when that family is our parents. They are the first people who love us and unconditionally at that.

I want to send you my love and hugs on what you are going through. I know what you are feeling at this time. Please now that you are in my prayers for understanding, acceptance and peace at this time in your life.

I know what you are saying about the time of your mom's passing and that of your dad's. My mom always said that Thursdays were our family day....mom and dad was married on a Thursday, my sister and I was born on Thursday, dad passed on Thursday and so did mom. It is strange how things work through life isn't it?

So sorry to hear of your loss.  I know how hard it is to lose our parents.  When I read your story I couldn't help but think of my Mom and cry.  We were with my Mom the night before she passed, and we told her it was ok, we'd be alright and it was time for her to go back into Dad's arms again.  She listened.  The next day we went in and found she had just passed.  The nurses didn't even know it yet.  It couldn't have been five minutes because she was still warm, but looked at peace.  That helped us alot.  You can take comfort knowing that she didn't have to suffer very long and now she's back with your Dad and I'm sure at peace and happy.
Hugs to you and your family.
Jan

So sorry to hear of your loss.

I am sorry for your loss,
Ill keep you and your sister in my prayers.

Aloha grammylew...........You HAVE been through a rough six weeks! The end of life can be really difficult in so many ways, and each of us handles it differently. I'm so glad that you have a sister to be with during this difficult time. I never had a sister, and I always longed for one.

When my mother died I was visiting Maui and didn't get back to Portland in time....by four hours! I really regretted that. My brother and I then had to go through her condo and clear it out totally.....and she was a COLLECTOR!! Every nook and cranny was jam packed with STUFF that had to be gone through. It took us about a week, and a couple of jugs of wine, to finally get things to Good Will, trash, friends, etc. etc. It was a good time with my brother though and brought us closer together. We then drove my mom's car from Oregon back to Calif. where we both lived at the time.

Thank you for letting us into your life during this tender time.

Aloha nui loa,

Maui Karen

So sorry for your loss Grammylew.  You have been missed.

Sandy

Grammylew,  I am sorry for your loss and glad you could be with her.  I will keep you and your family in my prayers.  

Hugs,
Vera