Good Bye Betty
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on 7/20/09 1:46 pm - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
on 7/20/09 1:46 pm - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
Sorry you are hurting.
I think a true friend is one who is there by your side during the ups and downs the good times and bad. If this friend can't be happy for you I'd question how true her friendship is.
Stay strong, hopefully she'll realize what she has lost and will come back into your life (if that's what you want).
I think a true friend is one who is there by your side during the ups and downs the good times and bad. If this friend can't be happy for you I'd question how true her friendship is.
Stay strong, hopefully she'll realize what she has lost and will come back into your life (if that's what you want).
George, I miss some of my old shirts too. They were just so comfortable and I used to wear them for gowns until one morning the neck had slipped over my shoulders and when I woke up, it was down around my knees. I realized that it was time to send the big shirts to my other friend who is very large. She got all of my old big X clothes. LOL Sometimes I see her wearing one of my comfy shirts and I want to get in with her. LOL Not in a sexual way.
I have not had surgery yet, but I fear that my relationship with my best friend will change in a negative way, too.
My friend, Anne, is kind and empathetic and has accompanied me to Toronto (300 kms. away) on three occasions, so far, in my quest for wls. She is always ready to help me and has accommodated my schedule in spite of having a very busy life and a husband. I appreciate and love her for her help, but she has already sent a few barbs my way and I expect more after surgery. She has asked me if I am ready to look a lot older. Anne and I are the same age, but she has been mistaken for being older and I know that she resents this (and even worse with my fat face, I am mistaken for being younger than I am). So... I guess that I'll hear after wls that I look much older than she does. I am trying to prepare myself for this and not be defensive, but it is hard. I have to remind myself that this is HER ISSUE and mine only if I make it mine.
After I have the surgery (still waiting patiently for a date) I will be here to ask others how they have dealt with this!
Margaret
My friend, Anne, is kind and empathetic and has accompanied me to Toronto (300 kms. away) on three occasions, so far, in my quest for wls. She is always ready to help me and has accommodated my schedule in spite of having a very busy life and a husband. I appreciate and love her for her help, but she has already sent a few barbs my way and I expect more after surgery. She has asked me if I am ready to look a lot older. Anne and I are the same age, but she has been mistaken for being older and I know that she resents this (and even worse with my fat face, I am mistaken for being younger than I am). So... I guess that I'll hear after wls that I look much older than she does. I am trying to prepare myself for this and not be defensive, but it is hard. I have to remind myself that this is HER ISSUE and mine only if I make it mine.
After I have the surgery (still waiting patiently for a date) I will be here to ask others how they have dealt with this!
Margaret
Sounds like she is already getting the insecurity thing going on. And don''t count on looking older. You go through this phases where you drop a lot of weight and your body then recovers like. It's hard to explain until you go through it. But, and I say this with all the gusto that I can, I'll take the wrinkles, the sagging, the flapping any day over the fat. LOL
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