to my shame

Change your passwords on your accounts asap.  My mom always said when they are little they walk on our toes but when they are grown, they walk on our hearts.  Don't let her walk on your heart.  Practice tough love.

Jeannie,she has always been able to manipulate me,use my grands for pawns to get her way. She realized that it was over,that my concerns laid with them over her,and I think it sent her off the deep end. The police told her to stay  away from me,and I am hoping Amy can retrieve my profile.
She feels betrayed because I told her dad,and my brother,I have to have my babies safe.
Our relationship is destroyed forever,I did get to tell the boys I loved them,and give them their last allowance. I told them I did not think I would be seeing them again,but they would be grown soon,and to come find me then,that their grandpa,and uncle would know where I was Jeannie,I was the first one to hold AJ,when he was born. I am thankful for the time I had with them,and I named Zack,the names she called me,I would not call a rapist or a murderer.

Linda,

I know what you mean.  I had custody of my middle grandson and my daughter came to visit and ran with him and I didn't see him for months.  Finally, she came around and while she still tries to manipulate me, she has finally realized the my grands need me.  I'm like you, the first to hold all three of her kids, named them, bathed them.  Just remember that even if she doesn't come back around, they will.  They will find you and if they don't do it soon, your brother and her dad will be the ones who bring them to you.  My son used to sneak my daughters kids over to me all the time and my sister too.  It will take a while, but this will pass.  In the meantime, just remember that they are with their mother and she loves them and that they are not going to be harmed. 

As far as the names our daughters call us.  Girl, I have been called everything in the profainity vocabulary.  But, you know what.  You know you did the best you could do for your daughter and she knows it too.  Shame on her and she will feel that shame as she starts to cool off. 

Take care of yourself.

Linda, my dear friend, you have nothing to be ashamed of.....you have tried with everything you have to help her resolve her problems .....she has to do it herself.  I feel for you in losing contact with the grands --- I have four step grands that I NEVER see.

I will keep you in my prayers that you are safe and also your grands.
Know that we are all here for you. 

Hold your head high, Linda, you are one special lady.

Hugs,
Pat R.

Lovely Linda,

Please do not be ashamed.  We have no control over our adult children.  I am saddened that you are having to endure such heartache and worry.  Please know you are in my heart and prayers!  Special hugs and well wishes coming your way!

((((hugs))))

Debbie

Thank you dear Debbie,I have on some lovely incense that I bought,it is so comforting.

My dear, dear Linda.....tears are running down my face.

I am in such heartache over this. I can't believe the level Olivia has stooped to now.

Honey you have nothing to feel shameful about. You have always been there....always gone the extra mile for Olivia and your grandchildren.

Your grandchildren will be with you again. As soon as they are old enough they will be back in your arms. I know how much they love you and they know how much you love them. Nothing can change that.

I am glad you phoned the police. She has gone way too far. As for your ex and the others....you did the right thing there too. Be sure you call your bank and any other place she could try to cause problems. She is way over the top and needs to be stopped.

It is so sad that Olivia refuses help with her illness. Her life could be so much better for her and everyone involved if she would follow the guidelines. Sounds like she needs to be hospitalized as she is now harmful to others.That is a reason for being admitted in its self.

I hope Amy can help you out. If anyone can she can.

My thoughts and prayers are with you always. I am always here for you....at any time!!

I love you much sweetie....hugs....Boo...to you

(((linda))) i am so sorry that you are going through this right now!!! all i can do is offer prayers and thoughts for you and hope things turn out for the better.....keep us posted on how things are going.

hugs

Dear Miss Linda.....My heart is breaking for you right now.  Just know that you are loved by so many and that I will keep you in prayer.  I will also pray for the safety of your grandchildren and also for Olivia that evidently so needs professional help and guidance. Please just hang in there Sweet Sister.

Sandy

Linda, you never need to apologize to us about things that are beyond your control. We have no control over other people and that includes our kids. Those that we love have the ability to hurt us so much more than anyone else can. That is just the facts and so be them...they are what they are.

I can't believe that Olivia has gone to this extreme. She should be ashamed of herself and trust me when I say what goes around comes around. All of this will come back to bite her in the butt and when that happens she is going to know that she has been bitten..let me tell you that one...I know as most of us do from experience!

Take care of yourself and do what you have to do in order to survive. She can only push people so far and then they begin to retaliate. You had your fill and finally called the police...and it was something that needed to be done. I know that the grands will be back to you since they love you so much. You are their safe place to fall and no one ever forgets where their spot is. You need to stop and take a deep cleansing breath and take care of you and no one else.

If you need me I am a phone call away....and a message away too. I am sending loads of love and hugs to you and so many special prayers for you that you wouldn't even begin to be able to count them. I know that God has something great in store for you my dearest Linda. Just hold you head up high and know that you are a great person and have done nothing wrong.