Weeeelllllll! I'm Back.....

Oh, Marti -
Welcome Back!!!!  It takes courage to be so honest with yourself first and then with others.   I sometimes feel I'm headed in the same direction, only with me it's CARBS instead of wine.    When I eat carbs, I feel that I need more & more carbs.   I am up 10 pounds from my low & I'm only at 2 years.   Plus, I was a liteweight, losing just a little over 80# with wls.  So, if I gain back 5# a year, I'll have it all back in 16 years, when I'll be a young (I hope) 79 years old.     Gosh Darn Golly, I sure don't want it all back again.   Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with my head!     Reading your post has inspired me.   If you can give up wine, I can cut the Carbs.   

You're right about being active, too.    I've got to throw my hat back in the ring & take all that wonderful help that's there.

Please, please, please take your supplements regularly ----
that's got to be just as important as controlling the weight.
Calcium is such a big deal ---- I have a "widow's hump" in my back & I wouldn't wi**** on my worst enemy.  Trust me, you don't want to go there.

I still enjoy the Texas music you gave me two year ago. 
Hope to see much more of you online.

Oh Jan so good to see you....I sure know about a carb addiction....I always had one......it is a black hole.....that you can never feed enough carbs to once you enter it.....we need to try to stay with the good carbs.....not ice cream which is the doorway to the black hole. So with only 10 pounds up...stop and do what you really want to do......which is eat right.....you know you feel better physically and emotionally....don't get to where you have to beat yourself up like me.

Love, Marti
ps I was really scared about the low calcium....as I know that is not really reversable....they won't give it back to the bones they leached it from...I am going to try to step up my weight training to help build muscles and bones.

Marti, we are so happy to see you back home again. We have missed you and asked each other about you so often. Now we know that there is no place like home...and you are home again. Life is good!

We are here for you always and just know that we are always willing to be of help to you. If you need a shoulder we have a bunch of them. If you need to talk you have a lot of ears to listen and plenty of sisters and brothers that will give you something to listen to...you know us...always willing to talk when we get a chance. ha ha

Life is life and sometimes we have a tendency to think that we can handle it better by doing things our way. Then later on we learn that there are rules there for us for a reason....and we must learn that yet again. But the one thing that never happens is that you aren't welcome home and together we can accomplish things much better and faster than doing it on our own.

Know that you are loved and accepted for who and what you are...not someone that we think you are or should be. None of us are perfect and sometimes we need to get kicked in the beehind just to show us that we lost our way...but you found it again. And like Dorothy said in the Wizard of Oz...."there is no place like home!" and you are home again! I am so glad that you are back.

Dear Marti:
I am so glad you came back to us.....we've truly missed you girl!

They say confession is good for the soul and you have laid it all out there for all the world to see....now it's time to pick up the pieces and get it back together.   We're here for you, one and all, call, e-mail, post regularly and together we can make it happen.

Take your supplements, follow the WLS rules for eating, and dump those wine bottles....you can do it, I know you can.

Sending you lots of love and hugs,
Pat R.

Dear Pat....thanks for the welcome back.....and thanks for being there...but that's just like you....always there for support. I have assigned supplements to my husband and he just said to me [at 5:15pm] "Did you take your supplements today?" I was typing on the computer and said..."never entered my mind"....he shook his head ...said "that figures" and walked away.
so he may show up later with them.

Love, M

Brenda, sweet faithful Brenda.....How nice to see your dear face again!

I love what you said "Life is life and sometimes we have a tendency to think we can handle it better by doing things our way, then later on we learn that there are rules there for us for a reason"......so true and so wise.....it is hard when you had a Mother that always made you think outside the box about how to get things done.....but you are so right, the rules are for a reason ane I strayed BIG TIME....not quite sure why yet.....but I guess half the battle is knowing you have done it t o yourself.

I admit I have had a rough year emotionally and maybe that was part of it, but if I had been here for support, maybe it would not have become so severe.

Thanks sweetheart, you are such a good person.
Love, Marti

Marti,

You know you have a special place and it's not just on this board with me.

Salmon w/cream cheese, red onion, and capers.....

I look forward to seeing you if and when you ever get to Dallas again.

Glad you returned.  I try to tell folks that this is a 'safe' place. Sometimes we get too wrapped up in ourselves to realize that we need a soft spot to land.

You've landed.

janet

GIRL...you how much I love you! [and our fab lunches together, remember ME DRINKING WINE. you drinking tea or lemon water!!!!.]...you knew...but you knew the time was not right......I love you for that.

I hope to see you this fall, as we will be coming down to celebrate Sarah's Birthday. Maybe I will be in better shape by then.

Love, Marti

 "May I come back"?   Silly girl....  I didn't know you were gone...  thought it was vacation.

I know it is difficult to keep in line with what we are suppose to be eating.   I've wandered off the straight and narrow too.  We all do, that is how we got to be like we were......  I say WERE because we are not going back....  

We certainly understand what you have been going through... Mine's just a little different.  Not wine but Cakes....  ugh, 

We are here for you as well as each other.

Millie

I cannot take anymore "vacations"...not too good for me. It is very different right now, I am on the computer and drinking spiced chai tea and NOT drinking my 2nd or 3rd glass of wine for the day, and I haven't even had dinner....which is okay....I think I will take my tea and go outside and sit with my husband....might as well take advantage of the glorious weather here in Wisconsin.
Love, Marti