YESTERDAY... I just couldn't tell someone I had surgery...
It finally happened. Someone I know noticed that I've lost a considerable amount of weight... But i just couldn't tell her that I had surgery.
I've been very open with most of my close friends and everyone has been very supportive, which is greatly appreciated. We all know how important support it.
But this situation was much different...
This friend is from an Eastern European country... where to this day... there is much difficulty in obtaining daily needed food for one's family.
A few years ago her husband was telling me how he would walk a couple of miles out to a little place in the country where they had rabbits...
(I'm thinking you have pet rabbits but you don't have food for family...)
Well duh- the rabbits were the most economically feasible food available- they reproduce quickly- they are small, not taking up much space, etc, etc
When I was a kid- a neighbors grandad made rabbit stew- it was good till they told me what it was then I hurled. This old grandpa had learned to make it while a young man in another Eastern European country.
So-- here I am happy that I've had this surgery so I won't eat myself into oblivion and these poor people are eating rabbits to LIVE.
Still I feel like, if she hears of it through someone else - she will wonder why I didn't tell her myself...
The whole thing is very sad...
I've been very open with most of my close friends and everyone has been very supportive, which is greatly appreciated. We all know how important support it.
But this situation was much different...
This friend is from an Eastern European country... where to this day... there is much difficulty in obtaining daily needed food for one's family.
A few years ago her husband was telling me how he would walk a couple of miles out to a little place in the country where they had rabbits...
(I'm thinking you have pet rabbits but you don't have food for family...)
Well duh- the rabbits were the most economically feasible food available- they reproduce quickly- they are small, not taking up much space, etc, etc
When I was a kid- a neighbors grandad made rabbit stew- it was good till they told me what it was then I hurled. This old grandpa had learned to make it while a young man in another Eastern European country.
So-- here I am happy that I've had this surgery so I won't eat myself into oblivion and these poor people are eating rabbits to LIVE.
Still I feel like, if she hears of it through someone else - she will wonder why I didn't tell her myself...
The whole thing is very sad...
I personally wouldn't worry about it. I am of the belief that you will know the right time to tell someone something. I think you will know that in your heart and if you didn't feel it this time the time will come and then you will know it and it will happen.
I am with you and the rabbit stew. I think that they are just so cute I couldn't ever think of eating them. I think that i would starve first before doing that. But then again you do a lot of things to provide for your family and if we were really faced with starvation our thoughts would maybe change.
Don't be so hard on yourself..when the time is right you will know it.
I am with you and the rabbit stew. I think that they are just so cute I couldn't ever think of eating them. I think that i would starve first before doing that. But then again you do a lot of things to provide for your family and if we were really faced with starvation our thoughts would maybe change.
Don't be so hard on yourself..when the time is right you will know it.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
I agree with Brenda. You don't have to tell everyone ... and there is no reason to feel guilty. You are doing what you need to do to be healthy. And being overweight isn't necessarily an indicator of wealth, anyway.. unfortunately, many poor people are overweight because they can't afford high protein foods.. and it's not that easy for urbanites to go out and shoot a rabbit.
Speaking of rabbits, it's not just Eastern Europeans that shoot rabbits. I grew up in Kansas and Colorado, and my dad and brother used to shoot rabbits as sport. And yes, we would eat rabbit.
Only one time my dad somehow missed the freezer, which was in a room next to the washer and dryer. I don't know how it happened but the rabbit fell behind the dryer. Nobody realized it until...a few loads of laundry. It was not pleasant.
So I think of the rabbit behind the dryer and no pleasant images come to mind..
Speaking of rabbits, it's not just Eastern Europeans that shoot rabbits. I grew up in Kansas and Colorado, and my dad and brother used to shoot rabbits as sport. And yes, we would eat rabbit.
Only one time my dad somehow missed the freezer, which was in a room next to the washer and dryer. I don't know how it happened but the rabbit fell behind the dryer. Nobody realized it until...a few loads of laundry. It was not pleasant.
So I think of the rabbit behind the dryer and no pleasant images come to mind..
Good morning,
There are times that I wish I had not told some people my decision to have WLS, or that I had it if I didn't know them before my surgery. People tend to think every hang nail, cold or zit I get is caused by "that surgery". When I went to a local gym a few weeks ago to check it out, I told the owner I had lost a considerable amount of weight and needed to rebuild some muscle. She asked how I had lost it and I just told her "through a lot of hard work and dedication". It was the total truth, too!
Certainly your friend who now lives here can understand the over indulgences of our country. It's not just with food, but with so much of our lives. If she has been here any length of time, I'm sure she will understand when you find the right time to tell her.
There are times that I wish I had not told some people my decision to have WLS, or that I had it if I didn't know them before my surgery. People tend to think every hang nail, cold or zit I get is caused by "that surgery". When I went to a local gym a few weeks ago to check it out, I told the owner I had lost a considerable amount of weight and needed to rebuild some muscle. She asked how I had lost it and I just told her "through a lot of hard work and dedication". It was the total truth, too!
Certainly your friend who now lives here can understand the over indulgences of our country. It's not just with food, but with so much of our lives. If she has been here any length of time, I'm sure she will understand when you find the right time to tell her.
Susan
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