OT: How Do I Tell Her?
Nancy:
I was hopeful. Then, we went to see her this a.m. Mom's denial is VERY STRONG. She thinks the facility is wrongfully blaming her for the flood. In addition, she was at the ER last night (second night in a row) and the dr. told her that the Exelon patch can cause confusion. She told us today, that she is choosing to believe what he says and is hopeful that she'll pull out of this soon. (big sigh)
She is already at an assisted living facility -- but here, in our town at least, one has to be pretty independent to be able to stay there. They have made concessions along the way and now are pretty much bringing most of her meals to her in her room. She doesn't like to get up early so she won't go to the dining room and, therefore, won't eat unless they bring her a tray. Since her weight is very low, they have been doing everything they can to encourage her to eat her meals.
She used to work at nursing homes in her younger years and has a definite opinion about them. (negative) The adult foster care place that is 40 minutes away is also way out in the boonies and there are no medical services around. She has lots of medical issues. We are concerned about getting her to and from the doctors -- and, most especially, what would happen in the case of an emergency.
Thankfully, senior services will help us work out the best solution. I will try to make contact with her caseworker tomorrow to discuss possible solutions. We will do what's best for mom -- no matter how far we have to go.
I've read about your mom in your posts and am glad that she is doing so well. I know what a relief that must be.
Cindy P.
I was hopeful. Then, we went to see her this a.m. Mom's denial is VERY STRONG. She thinks the facility is wrongfully blaming her for the flood. In addition, she was at the ER last night (second night in a row) and the dr. told her that the Exelon patch can cause confusion. She told us today, that she is choosing to believe what he says and is hopeful that she'll pull out of this soon. (big sigh)
She is already at an assisted living facility -- but here, in our town at least, one has to be pretty independent to be able to stay there. They have made concessions along the way and now are pretty much bringing most of her meals to her in her room. She doesn't like to get up early so she won't go to the dining room and, therefore, won't eat unless they bring her a tray. Since her weight is very low, they have been doing everything they can to encourage her to eat her meals.
She used to work at nursing homes in her younger years and has a definite opinion about them. (negative) The adult foster care place that is 40 minutes away is also way out in the boonies and there are no medical services around. She has lots of medical issues. We are concerned about getting her to and from the doctors -- and, most especially, what would happen in the case of an emergency.
Thankfully, senior services will help us work out the best solution. I will try to make contact with her caseworker tomorrow to discuss possible solutions. We will do what's best for mom -- no matter how far we have to go.
I've read about your mom in your posts and am glad that she is doing so well. I know what a relief that must be.
Cindy P.
Can't really add much, except my prayers.
I see my DIL having to make such tough decisions for her mother. Problem is, my DIL is only 30 yrs old. She had to make the DNR decision. She had to talk to her mother about hospice care. She is taking care of her at her house.
It's tough, I see her once or twice a week, and at times you can tell it is getting to her. Don't let it get to you. Be strong. Explain that it is something that has to be done to get her better care. And bring it all to God.
I see my DIL having to make such tough decisions for her mother. Problem is, my DIL is only 30 yrs old. She had to make the DNR decision. She had to talk to her mother about hospice care. She is taking care of her at her house.
It's tough, I see her once or twice a week, and at times you can tell it is getting to her. Don't let it get to you. Be strong. Explain that it is something that has to be done to get her better care. And bring it all to God.
GOD BLESS AMERICA!!!!!
George:
Thank you for your reply. I feel for your DIL having to make those tough decisions and care for her mother till the end. I feel much compassion for her.
You are right: I just need to tell mom this is something that has to be done. That is it in a nutshell. The assisted living facility kept her there as long as they safely could. We find ourselves at the doorstep of the next phase.
God Bless you.
Cindy P.
Thank you for your reply. I feel for your DIL having to make those tough decisions and care for her mother till the end. I feel much compassion for her.
You are right: I just need to tell mom this is something that has to be done. That is it in a nutshell. The assisted living facility kept her there as long as they safely could. We find ourselves at the doorstep of the next phase.
God Bless you.
Cindy P.
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