OT: My Dad
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on 8/12/10 12:59 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
on 8/12/10 12:59 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
My dad passed away on Sunday night.
I'm devastated, very sad and emotional/physically drained.
I am relieved that he did not suffer for a very long time. He was hospitalized in early July, went into hospice on July 28th or 29th and passed on Aug 8th. The last week (actually last 5 days) were truly the worst but Hospice did a wonderful job of keeping him comfortable. They were a magnificent group of caring nurses.
I went up last week to visit and could quickly see things were progressing so I changed my return flight....I actually changed it about 5 times....I am SO GLAD I did stay the extra days because I would not have been able to get back in time to be with him. I flew home a couple days later and will be traveling back to NY (just came back to FL yesterday) on Saturday for the funeral. Other family is flying in too.
I've never witnessed anyone die before. I found comfort in seeing him pass so peacefully but cannot get the image of his lifeless body out of my head. We are working on a family collage and I thought seeing the older pictures of him would help but it's making me fall apart this morning.
I'm trying to be strong for mom but breaking apart on the inside.
I can't believe I won't be able to call him and talk about the Mets or asking him how to fix something that broke in the house, or talking about the latest "toy games" (technology stuff).
I know time will help but right now I just feel awful and alone and yet I just want to be alone.
I probably won't be on-line for a few days until after I return from NY.
Hope you are all doing well.
Ruth
I'm devastated, very sad and emotional/physically drained.
I am relieved that he did not suffer for a very long time. He was hospitalized in early July, went into hospice on July 28th or 29th and passed on Aug 8th. The last week (actually last 5 days) were truly the worst but Hospice did a wonderful job of keeping him comfortable. They were a magnificent group of caring nurses.
I went up last week to visit and could quickly see things were progressing so I changed my return flight....I actually changed it about 5 times....I am SO GLAD I did stay the extra days because I would not have been able to get back in time to be with him. I flew home a couple days later and will be traveling back to NY (just came back to FL yesterday) on Saturday for the funeral. Other family is flying in too.
I've never witnessed anyone die before. I found comfort in seeing him pass so peacefully but cannot get the image of his lifeless body out of my head. We are working on a family collage and I thought seeing the older pictures of him would help but it's making me fall apart this morning.
I'm trying to be strong for mom but breaking apart on the inside.
I can't believe I won't be able to call him and talk about the Mets or asking him how to fix something that broke in the house, or talking about the latest "toy games" (technology stuff).
I know time will help but right now I just feel awful and alone and yet I just want to be alone.
I probably won't be on-line for a few days until after I return from NY.
Hope you are all doing well.
Ruth
Ruth,
I'm very sorry for your loss. It is so good that you got to be with him in his final days. Time will make it possible for you to remember only the good times. My Dad passed while having an angiogram. It was just supposed to be a simple test so none of us where there except my Mom and one Sister. I am so glad we had dinner together the night before but still wish I had said I love you and given him a kiss on the cheek before I left. I make sure I do that now whenever parting with loved ones.
God bless you.
Bev
I'm very sorry for your loss. It is so good that you got to be with him in his final days. Time will make it possible for you to remember only the good times. My Dad passed while having an angiogram. It was just supposed to be a simple test so none of us where there except my Mom and one Sister. I am so glad we had dinner together the night before but still wish I had said I love you and given him a kiss on the cheek before I left. I make sure I do that now whenever parting with loved ones.
God bless you.
Bev
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Ruth, I'm so sorry. I know how hard this is ... I watched my dad die from colon cancer/kidney failure in 1984. He was 62, and I hurried back from Montana just in time. I came back on a Saturday; he died the following Thursday. Before I moved out to Montana (my first big move; my mom was so upset with me) my dad said to follow my dreams, no matter how far they take me. When I came back and he was in ICU, he introduced me to his social worker, telling her that I was a writer and he was so proud of my work. Now, my parents never tell any of us how they feel about us ... it's the old-world German in them. They aren't touchy-feely types. So to have my dad tell me that was the greatest gift. I carry it in my heart always.
I know how you feel about talking to him about the Mets or other things ... but I still dream about my dad, when things are upsetting me, or things are going well (when the White Sox won the World Series, I had a dream that he was there, walking outside old Comiskey Park with an old-style pennant, like he was having his own celebration).
Take your time to heal, however long that is. We will all be here for you when you need to talk.
I know how you feel about talking to him about the Mets or other things ... but I still dream about my dad, when things are upsetting me, or things are going well (when the White Sox won the World Series, I had a dream that he was there, walking outside old Comiskey Park with an old-style pennant, like he was having his own celebration).
Take your time to heal, however long that is. We will all be here for you when you need to talk.
Annette 
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