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Connie dont feel sorry that you need to vent....you are doing a service for a lot of former Obese women that were abused.....Yes i read that report also Susan and i really believe it.
I was abused as a child by a grandfather, how much trust of authority figures do you think that caused ? I have dealt with it finally he was already dead...lots of therapy and ways to deal with it ........

dont feel bad about venting more people need to do that about the things that are stuffed down inside...the food helped hold it down there now that we dont have the weight of the food to hold it down it keeps bubbling up to the surface. let it out. face it and it loses control of us.

love and lots and lots of hugs.

Jan....my heart breaks for you. Abuse is a horrible and  degrading to deal with. Especially when it is  done by someone that should have been there to protect us.

We go through so much...years and years of therapy. Anything can trigger  a memory. It never ever really goes away. We just learn to move on and do the best we can. We can't continue to let that abuser  have that control over our lives.

It is amazing how so many obese women have been molested and abused. Food is easier then facing the reality!

Thank you for sharing with me....US!!

Love you....hugs......connie d

Connie, Just sitting here after reading your post. Thank you for being strong enough to put this out there.

For those  of us that deal daily with this pain, reading your post will help us be strong. Also to continue trying to protect the one that need help.I should go back for more aid, just haven't talked myself into it yet.  

Thank you Peg......this a very difficult, shameful, and painful topic to discuss for me and anyone who has lived with these demons.

Like I said if it wasn't for the 35 plus years of therapy and hard work I wouldn't be the person I am today.

If I can help just one person get help...believe in themselves...get their lives back... it is all worth the pain.

Hugs sweetie...connie d

Connie, it's sad your siblings didn't stand up for you. I sure know that most eating disorders are about control ... you had no other control over your body, so you ate. I know that feeling too ... I wasn't molested but I too felt a loss of control.

This is a safe place for us to vent, as is your therapist. Vent away. We are all here for each other.

Eileen you are right...food was my comfort and these last two weeks it has been again.
I am doing what I need to do to get through this . I will get  back on track with my eating after this week. Right now at most times don't care if I eat.  When I do eat it isn't good choices.
I am just physically and emotionally drained!!

Thanks for caring.....love and hugs....connie d

Connie....I commend you for speaking out...I know that it takes courage to bring these things out in the open.  I was approached by an uncle-in-law, many years ago...when I told my MIL about it...no one believed me....until my 2 SIL's spoke up and admitted the same had happened to them!!!  

It hurts not to be believed or to have support from your own family;  I will continue to pray for you, and your family, as you continue to heal from the emotional roller coaster I'm sure you have been on.  Hopefully, now that the truth is coming out, you will find comfort and finally be able to put to rest the hurt and anger.
Big {{{{{HUGS}}}}
Nancy aka Sunray

Nancy...your message means more to me then you could ever imagine...thank you from the bottom of my heart.

God Bless you!!!

Hugs...connie d

Connie,
So sorry for what you had to go through.  I'm so glad that it looks like you are working your way to the other side of this.  It's too bad that everyone suppressed the abuse for so long.  I can never understand that because it means if they knew or experienced it, they were willing to let it continue happening to others.  So sad for you.
I hope your therapists and BFF will get you through it.  It's great having a support system.
Bev

Thank you so much Bev....OFF is a great support system too!

Hugs....connie d