OT: Rant : Are We Not Grown Up at this Point in Our Lives. . .

Cindy,

Glad to have you. . .

Laureen

Laureen,
I cannot think of another thing to say except well done.  Your thoughtful, insightful way is crystal!
Yes we all have to have some thick skin sometimes we all get hurt sometimes but we all have to get over it all the time.  If we can't get over it, we are in a world of hurt to ourselves. 
Hugs and love to all!

OK- I figured it all out... Geez... thanks for the response Laureen- you are so articulate. If we can't laugh we are lost. And Life is so precious (huh Bev?) that we need to get over our petty behaviors and get on with it.  That said- forgive my tantrums when they occur please :)....
Julia

Julia,

As you and I have spoken about some of this before, we are only human and sometimes we need to throw a tantrum, so long as we come to realize what really matters in our lives. . .  never apologize for how you feel, feel them, go through them, share them, there's a difference between that and what some people do. . .

Hugs, Laureen

I am a little LATE responding because I only just got online an hour ago and I'm still struggling with my emails...lol.

However, I will say this: BRAVO, Laureen, for saying what many of us THINK.

Yes, we are all here to GET support and to GIVE support.  We all have our issues, our interests, our challenges but just because I may not comment on someone's post, does NOT mean that I don't  care...I read it and think "damn, what a shame" or "wow, that is awesome" or "sending love and healing"....any of those comments and more...I just do not always TYPE that in a post.

And yes, there have been times when I read someone's post and think to myself  "Why is she so darned focussed on the negative attitude about someone else!  Let it go, for pete's sake!" but I do NOT post that...it stays with me alone, in my immediate reaction..then I let that go too.

Nor do I want to be made to feel that I HAVE to type out a comment..my slow internet is one of my obstacles, so is my crazy insane busy life, however, even w/o those challenges, I am not OBLIGATED to post even when I DO feel compassion towards others.

So, to those who have an issue with being offended, may I please say, in a kindly manner, GET OVER IT!   We are adults....sometimes, in an effort to seem "nice", we tend to accept such complaints and, ultimately, sometimes end up feeling guilty or feeling that maybe it IS our fault for not responding the way certain people WANT us to.  We all have enough challenges..we do not need more artifical reasons to feel bad just to assuage someone's hurt feelings because they have been IGNORED!! (this is NOT inclusive of bullying or unkindness which is intolerable!)

As my son once said: The Titanic sank- GET OVER IT!

Nancy B

Well, as a newbie to OFF I will simply say...I think I'm gonna like it here.

That said, years ago I was part of a forum facilitator team at a site long gone today. And one thing I learned there was that online communication is both powerful and easily misunderstood. We lack the advantages of facial expression, tone of voice, and body language...and things get misinterpreted easily because of that!

So we have a choice. We can walk on eggshells which is never fun. Or we can cut one another a little slack when something may rub the wrong way, and yes, be a grown up!