Feelings and Emotional Eating

Eileen Briesch
on 4/1/11 5:46 am - Evansville, IN
Hi Laureen and the rest with "demons":

OK, I didn't do so well ... lately, my problem has been with not getting in enough water at work ... just get too busy to drink and run to the bathroom. Then, like I said, I get home and I'm so hungry I want to eat everything in sight. I ate a few too many cookies but now they're gone so I won't go back on that.

I was doing better dealing with my demons when I had my psychologist to talk to, but down here, that would cost me a $50 copay ... crappy insurance down here. I have to rely on my friends to help me through the tough spots.

I had an eye-opener yesterday ... the scale moved above 200 ... yikes, I didn't like that at all. I have to stop this upward climb. I can relate to the grazing ... oh yes, I can.

Eileen Briesch

lap rny 6-29-04

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Laureen S.
on 4/1/11 5:52 am - Maple Shade, NJ
I have noticed that when I come up short on drinking fluids, which up until the last couple of weeks I was doing a lot of the time, I definitely eat more, crave more food and now that I have this front desk job, I feel tied to the chair, guess what, I'm not going to worry about the chair, I need my fluids and I need potty breaks, but more so, I need to keep myself feeling full so that I don't resort to eating when I really am thirsting. . .

Struggling trying to keep myself from boredom eating at work, which is something I know you don't relate to, as you are definitely busy at your job. . .  oh well, I will be the week of the 11th. . .


My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . .  It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . .  Laureen

"Success is a journey, not a destination."  Ben Sweetland

seasheleyes
on 4/1/11 6:22 am - Manteca, CA
Thanks for all of the honesty! I about freak out when I see you guys are wearing 3/4s or 5/6s... I know that I shouldn't react- but that is tiny! I am wearing 18s and the lowest I could ever get (at goal) would be 14. I know- different frames. This brings up the bad habit I have- comparing myself to others. Remember- even at my fattest I was looking around to see if there were any people heavier than me. That's my thought for today.
Julia
Laureen S.
on 4/1/11 6:38 am - Maple Shade, NJ
Julia,

I so relate to the comparing myself to others thing, I robbed myself along the way in my early journey, comparing myself to those who had their surgeries at the same time as me and were at goal in 6 and 9 months, while happy for them, I thought there was something wrong with me and then I never made it to "goal" though I got close enough that I finally was happy about it.  Many years ago my old recovery sponsor told me comparing ones self to others is like committing homicide to our souls, as while we may share many of the same feelings and such, but each one of us has unique qualities that make us special in our own way. . .  I often have to remind myself of that. . . 

Happy you are joining and sharing your thoughts. . .


My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . .  It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . .  Laureen

"Success is a journey, not a destination."  Ben Sweetland

Nancy H.
on 4/1/11 7:22 am, edited 4/1/11 7:22 am - Traverse City, MI
Laureen, thank you for this thread. I too am having a gain. I got down to a 4 for about 5 minutes, an 8-10 is where I am most comfortable. I am still in an 8-10, but they are getting tight!
I find myself eating until I am full, not good. I try to be done when I am satisfied, but lately I find myself filling up.
I know we all have different places we want to be, hopefully where we are comfortable & not where someone else thinks we should be.
My Doctor never gave me a goal & for that I am greatful.
I want to wish all here good luck & be happy with who you are, we are in this together!!!

Nan
Oh, I am 5 1/2 yrs. out
Laureen S.
on 4/1/11 7:45 am, edited 4/1/11 7:46 am - Maple Shade, NJ
Nancy,

My doctor never gave me a goal either, but when I started the process, I had a goal in mind, which I felt was reasonable, given my age and knowing that I would have excess skin too, then at about 6 months post-op, I heard others talk about goals their surgeons were setting for them and I had a discussion with my surgeon and she agreed that the number I was thinking would be a realistic weight for me, as she told me at that visit that those insurance charts are not realistic and I would probably look emactiated at those numbers. My personal goal was set at 150 and to evaluate it when I arrived there. I also asked people, whose opinions I trusted, to tell me if they ever thought I had gone too far.

I also agree, we need to be happy with where we are, the issue is that many of us got comfortable and started to slip back into old habits and are now feeling guilty and shameful because of it, not to mention afraid of returning to our former selves. I had my surgery to live a healthier life and my fear is putting myself in a position to be less than healthy. I will be most comfortable when I lose these 15 lbs. over what was where I felt ideal.

Glad you like the idea of the dialog and post.

Hugs, Laureen


My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . .  It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . .  Laureen

"Success is a journey, not a destination."  Ben Sweetland

Mag (Marguerite) P.
on 4/1/11 3:09 pm - Green Valley, AZ
Hi Laureen and all OFF friends, 
For the first time since surgery (10 and 1/2 Weeks) I've been wanting to eat all day long. Everything sounded good on TV commercials. I couldn't figure out why it was happening. More stressed today trying to catch up on things I have let slide.
Also I am way under on my fluid intake. Someone mentioned that in their post so I'll try to get more fluids in before bedtime. And get a better start on fluids tomorrow.  Mag 
           
Laureen S.
on 4/1/11 7:57 pm - Maple Shade, NJ
Mag,

I, too, felt hunger early post-op, kind of stinks, because so many I knew did not have that and so they ate by a clock, but yes, oftentimes our hunger is actually thirst and we need to be sure to sip, sip and sip throughout the day.  Have  you heard the term "head hunger"?  It is sort of like the person who loses a limb, they often feel as though the limb is right there. . .  well for us, food was our extra limb, it was a source of many different things and you mentioned the word stress in your post and for me food was/is still something I reach for in times of stress and in part the reason for this post is for us to try and realize that (a) we are not alone within these struggles no matter where we are on this journey and (b) hoping that we can collectively live within a solution to aid us as we progress past the early stages where the weight comes off almost of it's own free will. . .

You accessed your situtation and came up with a solution, that is a good thing!

Laureen


My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . .  It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . .  Laureen

"Success is a journey, not a destination."  Ben Sweetland

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