From a Piece of Work: It's my surgeryversary!

Laureen,

I have always said you and I were so much a like that it is scary.  I didn't misunderstand you and did not think you were being off handed. I totally understand why so many people stay out of those conversations that comes as a result of one or two trying to force their polictical or religious agendas down our throats.  I do stay out of it for as long as I can and I appreciate when I jump in and you and a few of the others come to my rescue.  

I guess having grown up in Arkansas where I took after my grandmother and some of my siblings took after the lighter skinned people in our family and having been called half breed and having had some of the mean kids come up behind me at school and in broken exaggerated English say awful things to me, well, it has made me less tolerant of the less tolearnt.  

I, like you, have always considered you one of my best wls forum friends.  

Anyway, I think you and I totally get each other.   

Oh and the day that I was pretty much told that my posting about my complications was upsetting the new folks, that same day, there was this huge discussion about weight gain, which I think is one of the complications.  Now, we can talk about weight gain but not a twisted bowel or ulcerated pouch or any other type of wls complications.  Yeah, they called me a piece of work. HEHE.

Congrats on your anniversary..  Your comment "TO THE ONES YOU CONSIDER REDNECK" could be considered racist or prejudiced to some so you see how something one says can be looked at all wrong or how it was meant .:) Case closed now for the biggest NON RACIST in the world.   I love everyone , even difficult people .
I disagree with you that this  board is for non religious comments and so forth .
This to me is a board among friends who have overcome .   We laugh together, we share success, failure and we pray for each other when we need it .
All of that is about success in life in my opinion. If we all ONLY POSTED regarding our surgeries , what a boring place.
Even yours,  you wanted everyone to know your personal stuff besides the surgery. You posted all your degrees.   I could care less about how educated you are if I was only here to hear about your surgery..
POINT is , let us all share what we want and each take away from it what we want and the rest just leave it alone.
Life is to short for misery and I have learned with all my LIFE EDUCATION as well as the schooling that people who contstantly chew at others are miserable people inside . We have to ignore alot and love them anyway .
Have a good week .

Actually (I should stop) but here goes.  

Actually redneck is not a form of racism.  It is like saying hillbilly or country bumkin or backwards.  In Arkansas,  being called redneck is a good thing to many.   And, to be fair, I am not a difficult person.  I am a person who wishes for the same opportunity that other people have to post and not be flammed.  I post a response to racism or political propaganda and there are two of you who just won't shut up.  I get it: you don't think talking about Native Americans in a negative tone or negative language is wrong.  I'm sorry you cannot see where that is racists.  I also get that you hate our president.  When Bush was president, and there were many opportunities that I and those of us who lean to the left could have blasted him and his politics, I and those to left refrained from spewing politics all over this board.  Why?  This is not a political board.  It isn't a religious board.  It is a wls board and for a couple of years a while back, it was a really a good wls board.  

And, yes, there was a method to me posting my other than wls accomplisments.  My intelligence was called in to question a few posts back.  I am not an uneducated person.  A little knowledge is not a word that can be used to describe me.  So, yes, I did feel the need to make credible my words.  Furthermore, for those *****member me from before wls, one of the largest hurdles for me was attending classes in which I had no desk that I could fit into.  My humiliation almost caused me to drop out of the masters program, so yeah, I think having lost enough weight to not only fit into the desk, but also to run all over this very hilly and very large campus qualifies for a mention of those accomplisments.  In fact, many of my friends on this board have asked me in message and on my yearly posts how my degree work has been going, so not to impress you or any of the other "small minded" people, I posts about those successes.  

And, you are wrong that only posting about our surgeries and our hurdles; it didn't make this a boring place. In fact, we all posted equally and discussed those issues that dealt with weight loss and weight gain.  We shared our reflections about our journey and those things that we couldn't wait until we were small enough to accomplish.  Five and six years ago, the board was a support board and not an open invitation to gang up on one person who is a little different or diverse in opinion.  

Thanks, though, for the congratulations.  And, do not feel compelled to follow up with another flame. I defended myself against your refutation…a refutation, by the way, that was somewhat faulty in both reasoning and design. 

Jeannie, congratulations, you my friend are an aazing lady. I for one love to read your posts. I may not agree with all you say, but I enjoy your input & always have. I love your stories about your grands, & your rockhunting. I also post about the things I need support with. We have all been at the same place at one time & felt the stares, & heard the nasty comments. That does a lot to our self esteem & makes us feel less than a person. Just know I admire you & all that you have accomplished. I remember how hard you had it. I am glad all of that is over. Wishing your DH a speedy & painless recovery!!
Nan

Nan,

Thanks so much.  I appreciate the support.  

My husband is eager to have the cornea transplants but he is not looking forward to being awake for the surgery.  He will do fine.  I see us having many more years of rock hunting and mountain climbing.  

Tell you what ,,,,How about everyone stop the flaming let us all play together in peace. Dont know who were talking to but i never said I hate the President ,,,

YOU SAID "
I also get that you hate our president.  When Bush was president, and there were many opportunities that I and those of us who lean to the left could have blasted him and his politics, I and those to left refrained from spewing politics all over this board.  Why?  This is not a political board.  It isn't a religious board.  It is a wls board and for a couple of years a while back, it was a really a good wls board.

I think you have your messages mixed up somewhere ,,Sounds like your filled with rage for some reason .


AND SMALL MINDED COMMENTS  you made in reference to me and others you said on the board is a form of flaming .  You only made yourself look small in my opinion . The only SMALL MINDED UNREASONALE person I see here is you ..
I will not answer or read another post of yours...

You are asking me to stop the flaming but then you acuse me of being filled with rage.  

You are perpetuating a problem by on the one hand saying let's all get along and on the other you have to get one last dig in.  Here's my proposition, don't post on my posts and when I see your post, I certainly will refrain from reading.  I will assume that if you have posted something that would benefit me, well, I will just miss out on it. And you can figure that by not reading my hateful posts, you and your righteousness will be in tact.  

Jeannie,

"You've come a long way Jeannie" is a phrase that rings so true. I remember so well that day in the summer of 2006 when you, Kenny, Mathew, JanC, Joe and I met in Mountain Home, AR. You and Jan were yet to have surgery and I was on a post WLS high! What an afternoon we had.

In many ways you are larger than life and I mean that in a good way. Body size does affect may aspects of our lives, but I truly believe that the Jeannie of today, who looks so different on the outside, is the same person on the inside. I also believe that through your experiences you have gained insights that enrich your life and the lives of those you connect with.

Congratulations! You have come through so much. My journey has been one without complications compared to yours. I like to think that I would be able to hang in there like you have, but I have my doubts. I know when I have to face a challenge I do, but it is never in a take charge, get 'er done way. It is usually by being drug through the mud, with my heels digging in trying not to get dirty!

Have a wonderful day, my friend! May we never forget our lives pre WLS and may we forever celebrate the lives that we have today.

Karen I remember after meeting you and seeing your before pictures and then your after and thinking that I could be you.  And you were so healthy and fit and all in such a short time.  I don't know if I have ever said this, but you were the defining moment.  After I met you, I knew that I was going to have the surgery.  And, all through the first year or so, you gave me such good information. You, Darlene, Margo, Jan, and a few that I have forgotten got me through those days of thinking i would never be able to drink another sip of coffee.  Now here I am normal in every way.  You are truly my good friend.