A better night

Hello my sweet OFF sistas!

Oh, you don't know how much I appreciate each and every one of you!  I have read all the posts and I wish I had the energy to respond individually to each of you tonight.  But I'm just wiped out and headed to bed as soon as I finish this update.

So, yes, we got all of my daughter's things out of the house without incident today.  I won't say that we all weren't just a little nervous about it, but the Lord was with us and everything went as well as it could possibly go.  It's just very physically taxing for two old folks like Butch and I to move an entire household of furniture, clothes, food, toys, etc. in one 24 hour period.  My poor husband is so sore and tired.  He's not in the best of health right now, and this has been a terribly stressful ordeal for him.  Chris did as much as she possibly could today--her head is still hurting, but she's a lot better today than she was yesterday.  I mostly did the packing and baby sitting.  They did most of the heavy lifting.

Anyway, Chris talked to John's mother a couple of times today.  Apparently they are really really mad that he went to jail.  Not really upset that their son came home drunk and attacked Christie--just mad that the police came and arrested him.  Really?  I can't understand such thinking.  

Well, we have everything unloaded from the Uhauls and it's either on the back porch or scattered through the house.  It's total chaos in here, but that's okay.  Everyone is safe.  John can't drive because he's had 3 DWI's, so he won't be coming out here to bother her.  So we feel she and the baby will be safe here.  Next we'll have to figure out child support and a budget and how to support 2 households at once, but I can't worry about that right now.  One step at a time.

Tomorrow we have to head back home again.  We left our home in a panic and right in the middle of updating the kitchen.  Our kitchen sink is sitting in the middle of the floor.  Half my cabinet doors are off their hinges.  We have boxes and boxes of stuff to move to the new metal building we had built at the other lake house and we haven't even SEEN the finished building down there yet!  I certainly hope they built it right.  And somehow I have to pull off Easter in a couple of days.  Oy vey.

So, once again, thank you so much for all the support and prayers.  Please pray for Connie's family, too.  Family crises are so hard to deal with, and I know Connie is under so much stress and strain.

I love you all!

Vic

Hi Sweetie,
     Sorry for the things going on with you and your family. Hope things settle down quickly,   Hugs   Mag   

Vickie....please continue to be cautious.  Just because he can't drive it doesn't mean he won't or have someone else do the driving. I am praying for your families safety. God Bless each of you!!

I wish I could share but I can't. Let's just say it isn't good!
Thank you for thinking of me when you are dealing with so much yourself. You are just a sweetheart and I am so happy to be able to call you friend!!

Prayers and love and many hugs.......connie d

 Like Connie says, please continue to be careful as this is definitely not over...

So glad to hear everyone is safe, but continue to be vigilant. Prayers for you and your family during this trying time and also fot Connie.
Sandra

Vickie,

Glad to know that you managed to get Christie moved out, but don't get complacent thinking he won't drive.  If he stupid enough to get 3 DWIs, then he has no sense and will probably do it again.  The parents sound like a pair of enablers; no wonder the son turned out to be a drunkard and a wife-beater.

I'm praying that things settle down for you soon.  I know how hard it is to stay on the program when life is so chaotic.  Hard to think about nutrition and exercise when your children are suffering, and your house is under construction.

Hugs,

Maria

Vickie:

Glad all are safe ... just because he isn't supposed to drive doesn't mean he won't. So be extra viligant. I have written/edited many stories about folks driving under suspended licenses. I hope you can convince your daughter to get some help for her disease too so she can raise her son safely. But she has to want it. And that's tough. I can imagine how sore both of you are after moving ... I just did it with movers, and I was sore. Still am sore everytime I have to take laundry to the laundry facility. I can't do it. So I know how you both feel.

Take care of yourself ... and Butch, too. Rest. ... drugs and ice and elevation, you know the routine.

And as for John's mom being upset at the arrest, typical. She's an enabler. Her baby boy can do no wrong. Probably is/was battered herself. He might have been abused, too.

Try to relax a bit. Take care. Enjoy having Benny around. That will be the plus.