Totally Tuesday, 'sup
Good mornin' ya'll.
Gonna be rainy here again. But that's OK. In an hour I'll make a trip to the base to get my ID card renewed. I wish they would let us older dependants not have to renew them. But I guess they think even after 46 years I might decide to get a divorce.
Well, my daughter is in a rush to get her lawyer to type up the divorce settlement her and our SIL agreed on. He keeps wanting to 'tweek' it. Then he says lets have a judge decide it, he thinks he'll get a better settlement. She called his bluff and said yeah, let's do it, then all the dirty laundry comes out and she thinks SHE will get the better deal! Her lawyer says the first available court date would be late October. He wants to get his money and be done NOW though. Our daughter does too, but she isn't gonna say that! So, her lawyer will type it up, SIL will take it to his new lawyer, everyone will sign and hopefully this can be done by Nov first. He wants to buy a car, and make Christmas trip plans for him and the kids. Two significant changes: tuition won't be 50/50, it will be 65/35, and our daughter gets the house, not him. He found out he can't get a loan that big in his own name cause he has no job!! (unless he wants to put down a big chunk of his cash) So he will look for an apartment or cheaper house. He gets everything that is left in the house, including fridge and washer dryer. So she will have lots to buy. I think her best bet is to pay him 6 mo of alimony out of her next quarterly bonus, then 3 mo out of each subsequent bonus. Then she will always be 3 months ahead, and she will have her entire paycheck to spend as she wants. But that is just my opinion!
I hope everyone is feeling better, physically, emotionally and mentally.
Everyone have a fantabulous day!
Gonna be rainy here again. But that's OK. In an hour I'll make a trip to the base to get my ID card renewed. I wish they would let us older dependants not have to renew them. But I guess they think even after 46 years I might decide to get a divorce.
Well, my daughter is in a rush to get her lawyer to type up the divorce settlement her and our SIL agreed on. He keeps wanting to 'tweek' it. Then he says lets have a judge decide it, he thinks he'll get a better settlement. She called his bluff and said yeah, let's do it, then all the dirty laundry comes out and she thinks SHE will get the better deal! Her lawyer says the first available court date would be late October. He wants to get his money and be done NOW though. Our daughter does too, but she isn't gonna say that! So, her lawyer will type it up, SIL will take it to his new lawyer, everyone will sign and hopefully this can be done by Nov first. He wants to buy a car, and make Christmas trip plans for him and the kids. Two significant changes: tuition won't be 50/50, it will be 65/35, and our daughter gets the house, not him. He found out he can't get a loan that big in his own name cause he has no job!! (unless he wants to put down a big chunk of his cash) So he will look for an apartment or cheaper house. He gets everything that is left in the house, including fridge and washer dryer. So she will have lots to buy. I think her best bet is to pay him 6 mo of alimony out of her next quarterly bonus, then 3 mo out of each subsequent bonus. Then she will always be 3 months ahead, and she will have her entire paycheck to spend as she wants. But that is just my opinion!
I hope everyone is feeling better, physically, emotionally and mentally.
Everyone have a fantabulous day!
Grammylew in Jax
Good Morning Grammylew and OFF-
Grammy - I agree about the ID cards. My Mom has to drive to Fayetteville to get hers renewed periodically and she's 82. Seems to me that your daughter's lawyer has forgotten the first law of customer service. Customer is always right. Sounds like she worked out a equitable deal with her Ex and the lawyers should just get out of the way!
Nothing much today other than mow the lawn and drive to airport. My flight to Nebraska leaves at 5:15 so I can be a little lazy this morning.
Yesterday I went for PT on my knee and hip. Not too painful. A little stiff this morning but not bad. I have exercises to do every other day for the wee****il I return from the wedding.
Positive vibes to all of you in need.
Cindi
Grammy - I agree about the ID cards. My Mom has to drive to Fayetteville to get hers renewed periodically and she's 82. Seems to me that your daughter's lawyer has forgotten the first law of customer service. Customer is always right. Sounds like she worked out a equitable deal with her Ex and the lawyers should just get out of the way!
Nothing much today other than mow the lawn and drive to airport. My flight to Nebraska leaves at 5:15 so I can be a little lazy this morning.
Yesterday I went for PT on my knee and hip. Not too painful. A little stiff this morning but not bad. I have exercises to do every other day for the wee****il I return from the wedding.
Positive vibes to all of you in need.
Cindi
HW - 351 SW 0 342 SurgW - 298! 1st. Seminar July 2010 Surgery August 1, 2011
Good Morning Carolyn and OFF,
I went to my AA meeting this morning, and thought I was going to the bank, but forgot my paperwork to take with me. Argh. Then, I stopped at my sister's to drop off some food, coz I thought Sis would be home, and she wasn't. She said she was taking today off. Mom is there, so I left a message for her. Came home and did the dishes. Made some fresh corn on the cob, as I stopped at the farm stand on the way home from Sissy's.
This afternoon, I have my volunteer work at the agency, and then this evening I am working at my church's food bank. We now have two, one at my church, and one here in the town I live in, at the church my daughter was married at, because we were members there when we were married.
Gotta get a move on.
Hugs,
Trish
I went to my AA meeting this morning, and thought I was going to the bank, but forgot my paperwork to take with me. Argh. Then, I stopped at my sister's to drop off some food, coz I thought Sis would be home, and she wasn't. She said she was taking today off. Mom is there, so I left a message for her. Came home and did the dishes. Made some fresh corn on the cob, as I stopped at the farm stand on the way home from Sissy's.
This afternoon, I have my volunteer work at the agency, and then this evening I am working at my church's food bank. We now have two, one at my church, and one here in the town I live in, at the church my daughter was married at, because we were members there when we were married.
Gotta get a move on.
Hugs,
Trish
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Morning all, my husband wants me to go to see our doctor and get an antidepressant. He was quite insistent about it, so I guess I must be a mess. I do feel so overwhelmed with doubts and worries. Not to mention being physically exhausted all the time. I seem to cry every time we talk on the phone. Poor man. I don't know how he puts up with me. I am doing my best to care for Benny and deal with Chris and cope with all the other myriad details of our very complicated lives right now. I'm not sure I need an antidepressant. I don't feel depressed, I feel stressed! Any suggestions on what I should ask the doctor for tomorrow?
Vickie
Just tell the doctor everything that is going on and what has been happening. Besides meds maybe he can refer you to someone who can help with the situation. Sure wish you had someone close by who could help with Benny care. Chris also has to step up to the plate and see someone about meds as well but I realize that will probably not happen. Hang in there and know that you can call me or text me anytime for a sympathetic ear!
Cindi
Cindi
Yes, I agree with everyone ... depression has many forms. It isn't always just crying. My depression came out in rage. I had meltdowns at work. I'd scream and yell at people. That's not me. Others, like my brother, just won't do anything ... inaction ... but I can't convince him to get any help from antidepressants. You are stressed and depressed. Please, get some help. There is no shame in asking for help ... even going to someone to talk. I'm here for you, too.
Vickie, I agree with Cindi, just lay it all out for the doctor, just like you do here. Obviously your DH is very concerned and can tell from thousands of miles away that you are nearing the end of your rope. He must be worried sick about you!! I know you need to be there for Benny. But you can't do him any good if you fall apart. It is a real shame that there is no one else to help with Benny, especially his own Mom.
I used to think taking an anti-depressant was a sign of weakness. Until I needed one and everyone could see the difference in me! Hopefully your doctor can find exactly what is best for you. Medication, counselling, a combination of both? Go for it girl!
I used to think taking an anti-depressant was a sign of weakness. Until I needed one and everyone could see the difference in me! Hopefully your doctor can find exactly what is best for you. Medication, counselling, a combination of both? Go for it girl!
Grammylew in Jax
Hi Carolyn and my OFF family:
It's gloomy and looks like rain ... feels like rain, too. My body hurts. Got a call from my back doc ... they had a cancellation and my rhizotomy can be moved up to next Tuesday. I'm happy to get an earlier date. But we are so short-staffed.
The older guy (he's 69, I won't call him old, he's just older than me) is out indefinitely ... seems when he fell, he cut his leg, too, and it's not healing. The doctor has threatened to hospitalize him if it doesn't heal well soon. I have a feeling he will not be coming back. I think he also may be diabetic.
Glad your daughter is making some headway on her divorce. My brother Gary had to push things with his ex ... she is a procastinator, too and wanted to use one lawyer to save money ... he finally got his own and pushed it through quicker. She wanted the divorce but then dragged it out. He's better off without her, although now he's depressed over the lack of job and I don't know how to help him.
Well, I need to be into work earlier today. I'm doing the Kentucky paper and their deadline is earlier. So have to get going.
Have a good day.
It's gloomy and looks like rain ... feels like rain, too. My body hurts. Got a call from my back doc ... they had a cancellation and my rhizotomy can be moved up to next Tuesday. I'm happy to get an earlier date. But we are so short-staffed.
The older guy (he's 69, I won't call him old, he's just older than me) is out indefinitely ... seems when he fell, he cut his leg, too, and it's not healing. The doctor has threatened to hospitalize him if it doesn't heal well soon. I have a feeling he will not be coming back. I think he also may be diabetic.
Glad your daughter is making some headway on her divorce. My brother Gary had to push things with his ex ... she is a procastinator, too and wanted to use one lawyer to save money ... he finally got his own and pushed it through quicker. She wanted the divorce but then dragged it out. He's better off without her, although now he's depressed over the lack of job and I don't know how to help him.
Well, I need to be into work earlier today. I'm doing the Kentucky paper and their deadline is earlier. So have to get going.
Have a good day.
Hi OFF Sisters!
Every thing going okay. Trying to get my son off to college on Friday. Taking it slow, had a cup of Chamomile tea this morning and an hour later got down 3/4 of a protien shake. Talked to my doctor and he said I can try cottage cheese, Greek Yogurt no fruit and scrambled eggs made with some milk so there fluffy. Had the egg for dinner last night, ate a little over half but stopped, didn't want any problems. It stayed down and no problems. Going to try 1 Tbsp of cottage cheese today!! Wow! I lead an exciting life! Mornings seem to be the hardest on me. Yesterday had a lot of energy and did a bunch of stuff. I did over do it. Tired today so I'm taking it easy.
Hope you all have a good day!
Debbie
Every thing going okay. Trying to get my son off to college on Friday. Taking it slow, had a cup of Chamomile tea this morning and an hour later got down 3/4 of a protien shake. Talked to my doctor and he said I can try cottage cheese, Greek Yogurt no fruit and scrambled eggs made with some milk so there fluffy. Had the egg for dinner last night, ate a little over half but stopped, didn't want any problems. It stayed down and no problems. Going to try 1 Tbsp of cottage cheese today!! Wow! I lead an exciting life! Mornings seem to be the hardest on me. Yesterday had a lot of energy and did a bunch of stuff. I did over do it. Tired today so I'm taking it easy.
Hope you all have a good day!
Debbie
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