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Hey, Hey Everyone
I love this, thank you for doing this. It's great to see familiar names and faces..... OK, me, myself and I update.
Came on the boards in 2003 and after researching I finally decided to have surgery on 8/04. OH was my home away from home. I can't tell you what the members support meant to me. I had RNY, lost over 200 pounds and then had 3 Plastic Surgeries to complete my transformation. In doing so I found a new way of life and it was GREAT until 2010. I kept the weight off and was very active with working out and staying in shape. My husband had his first stroke on Christmas day 2010. The next 5 years were all about his health needs and issues and I stopped caring for me and started caring for him full time. We had lived in Chicago for over 30 years and with our only son moving to NorCal we had no help. He had met a great young lady and moved here where her family was located. They live in Pleasanton CA and we decided to relocate near them so I could have some family near. Besides, my first grand baby was on the way. We could not afford Pleasanton so we re-located to Manteca CA.
I lost my husband 12/5/15 and had weight gain for the first time since my surgery. This was not where we had thought we would be after 39 years. We were going to retire and enjoy life, but it was not to be. I met my husband when I was 18 and went straight from my family to being married. Being alone has been strange, hard and lonely. I am trying to find my way, I had lost 20 pounds of my regain but have been struggling. I find I have my good weeks and bad. I did make a list of steps for me to get back to the basics. It's been a great resource for me, if you are interested in a copy PM me.
My son suggested I get back to a gym as I love Zumba and other classes and did some weight lifting in the past. I love biking and would do it more, but the trail goes right through downtown and you have a ton of stops and it's hard to get a good ride in. I hate/scared riding on the streets so trails are my thing.
I am grateful for my son, DIL and grand babies as we have 2 boys now. Gavin 2 1/2 and Logan 10 months. I am grateful for my job! Having a major birthday coming up soon it's going to be very hard. As we all know, time is flying by and looking back reminds us what coulda, shoulda been. I think we all have to look forward, be there for each other and come hell or high water I have to get back to "me".
Hugs to you all 
HW:330 - GW:150 - MW:118-125
RW:190 - CW:130
Janet,
Did you see the post by one of the OH forum people about getting your old account back? I have Facebook too and have a few our folks from here as friends. I find Facebook too impersonal and often contentious. While I post political ideas there, most of my friends and family are like minded so when there are those who disagree, it can be a huge drama. I don't mind the drama there because those who disagree with me are not as intimate of friends as those friends on here. The folks here know about things some of my family members don't know about. And this place is one of those places that is neutral in politics, religion, philosophy etc. And when it gets brought onto our board here, we are all quick to put it out because from the beginning, we have found that we want harmony...
I really hope you come back and stay with us and get the support you need for any of the regain or just to have likeminded folks to discuss the problems we are all facing. I think someone said we are a unique collection of sisters who for better or worse are connected by RNY or some form of WLS and that is something our best-friends-for-ever cannot even dare to understand....like the time before surgery, I went with my son out to eat and I sat on a bench and broke it and he and another man pulled me up off the ground and the other folks were laughing....I was so humiliated but my son and the other man said, ignore them and the owner of the place brought me a chair out of the kitchen....I posted about that experience because I was so humiliated and knew you guys would understand and you all had a story about a lawn chair breaking or getting booth stuck....you guys salvaged my ego....you saved me. Only on this board do we get that solidarity.
Debbie,
I don't know how I missed your post. I am so happy that the primary care physician found the cancer before it spread. I hate that it was there but thank the powers that be for a good doctor who diagnosed it and got him treatment.
I say this all the time about WLS, the good thing about the tool is it's there and it still works...we all know what we are doing to gain the weight and it usually involves tricking the pouch...one lady a few years ago wrote that I cannot eat sweets unless I eat a few bites here and there and over time, she tricked her pouch enough with those few bites here and there and that tricking cost her a huge regain. I am the same way...I can eat my weight in crackers and they seem harmless but if I am not careful, I can eat a package of them and that is a lot of calories. LOL...so I try to avoid any food that won't make me feel full...and I still use the little plate and little spoon. I know it's silly but with that little plate, I don't get too much food. You would think by now I would have trained myself to eat only a tablespoon of this or that but nope, I need the little plate. Crutches that's what I need.
I am so glad you are back and hope you continue to post. We so need our ladies with experience with WLS and weight gain...we are a village, aren't we?
Julia,
Thanks but I think that when we think of the life blood it's all the old-timers and I don't mean age in years from birth but age in years from surgery. I know I have always had your support, and Carla's, Eileen's, and Linda, and so many of the others who have kept me on tasks when we want to keep things focused. Without you guys' support, well, I would be lurking big time. You are the hero in my book...Yeah Julia for getting this post up and running and bringing so many of our ladies home. We sure do love that about you...and your plan worked.
Susan, that's funny. My DH is such a micro manager. He not only mapped our trip to the mountain but he also mapped out our trails. We, however, did get rained on. LOL....I took plenty of water so I wouldn't dehydrate....
Kathy,
Thanks so much. We have several who have had to make new accounts and wouldn't it be better for them to have their entire history?
I'll let everyone know.
j
Hi
I have seen several members coming back only to have to create a new account. Some like to start new, but if you want to be able to access your old account with your history PM me and I will help you 
Regards,
Kathy
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HW:330 - GW:150 - MW:118-125
RW:190 - CW:130
Thanks. I can't wait. Just 14 more days and I off on a adventure of a lifetime. I will be posting pictures and thoughts on my Facebook page
Hi Debi,
Honestly, I am quite impressed, can't imagine doing such a thing, I often think I'd like to do the Susan Koman 3 day 60 mile and hope one day that I will be able to, can't wait to hear about your great experiences doing the walk!
Best wishes, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
