H.A.L.A.

I raised 3 girls as a single mother before remarrying, and that was bad enough in my 30's! I was raised where you did not backtalk your parents, and back in the day I think most of us respected that. Even my girls seldom spoke back...it was boys and other typical issues...times 3...that made the teenage years difficult.

Nowadays it appears these kids just have no fear and little respect. Obviously I love Jazz to death and we have raised her since she was 5, but she has a lot of issues combined with today's society where unacceptable behavior seems to be the norm.

I am just tired, old, don't always feel good and lack patience.

My middle daughter is like you where she decided in her 20's she didn't want kids. She has 2 cats which are like her kids. I agree that kids aren't for everyone...lol!

I had been working as a caregiver part-time until I got sick in March of this year. I am still not released to return, and altho I loved my clients do not think I will be able to do caregiving in the future. It can be very physically demanding and they told me that being septic can lead to lifelong fatigue, weakness, etc. That is how I have been feeling the past 4 months...hopefully it will subside by the time the doctors release me.

I can relate with the IBD. I have IB-C and it can be a ***** The pain and cramps can be horrible. But I learned what can cause them and how to avoid that. Now 95% of the time - I get the pain only when I do something stupid - like eats food taht can cause the gas and pain - cramps.

Unfortunately - a lot of foods can cause that- so my "safe diet" is rather limited.

good luck, hope things get easier for your.

I used to be a regular and spent hours here. Then when I got surgery and lost all the weight, life got busy. Somehow I slipped away. Good to see some familiar faces though.

Im back, with a vengeance. I have regained 60 pounds of the 140 I lost eleven years ago. Im miserable and embarrassed, but decided the best place to go for motivation and encouragement was where I got it the first time, from you all.

I hope you all remember me and say a word of welcome. I really need some help here!!

Ill be back!

Hi All:

Been reading your posts, but felt could not post anything really positive as am going through another IBD flare, and am on synthetic morphine again which helps tone down the sudden cramping and lets me sleep in short bits. This gets so boring in a hurry, and I don't dare use the pool as when I get the urge never know if it's going to be wind or diarrheia, so really need a bathroom ina hurry. So now and for next few days this rules my life.

Am staying hydrated by drinking lots of water, and today drank two huge pots of green tea...had some unsweetened natural yogurt and home made unsweetened applesauce, then later scrambled 2 eggs with lots of shredded cheese and fresh herbs rolled in a small tortilla, but could only eat half. The other half is in the fridge in case of a snack attack, but when I weighed myself this morning had lost another 2 lbs since Wednesday. The painkillers kill my hunger!

Great, closing in on reaching 200 lbs ( under 200 was my surgery goal, but at 208 lbs I started regain ). My goal now is Wonderland ( "one"derland, so anything under 200 lbs), and have 3 lbs to go. What a way to lose weight, but it is working and looks like I may reach goal soon. Have lost 25 lbs since last September, so shedding the regain slowly and homing in on my original wls goal looks possible. I started this journey at over 300 lbs and it is ongoing.

There's a silver lining here for me, hope you find yours whatever's bothering you, be it kids, family, whatever.

Hugs

j

Hello All!

Haven't posted the past couple days as I was worn out from dealing with 3 teenagers! I feel like I am getting too old for this crap...not only do I become physically tired but my patience is non-existent, too! Ugh! Jazz had her girlfriend and a guy friend over on the evening of the 4th and we took them to the fireworks. Jazz got an attitude when I told her not to set up her blanket on the sidewalk to watch the fireworks bc ppl were walking along there. She actually sat with her back to her 2 friends for a good half hour having a hissy fit.

Then the following day we had planned a day trip to the beach with the 3 of them. Jazz told me her phone was fully charged so I could reach her once they were let loose in the amusement park, but when I told her to call me every 30 minutes she informs me her phone died on the drive down to the beach! So I bit my tongue & told her to check in with me at a certain spot every 30 minutes. Do you think she did that? Nope, had to hunt her down & it took over an hour to find them! Then on way home her girlfriend asks why we are taking her home when SHE planned to spend the nite & had texted her mom to let her know! Really? Where did you get that idea bc WE didn't invite you!

Did I say UGH...teenagers!

It's been rainy & super humid here the past few days which doesn't help my mood...so sorry for dumping on anyone reading! Hope my mood picks up!

Judy, glad you had a good 4th & had a moment of really enjoying yourself for the first time since your mom passed! It will get better, but things are never the same! I am not sure what happened to other members from last year. I know Lightswitch had a load of major things going on so maybe she has just been tied up with all that.

Trish, sorry about the situation with your mom. I think I probably mentioned a thousand times my dad's dementia led to a huge family breakdown. My siblings did not understand it was the Alzheimer's...and not HIM...that caused his worst personality traits to take over. They just believed he was being difficult. They had no interest in trying to learn about his disease...they were just pissed at him. It is hard being in your position. Your sister's denial just sounds so much like what we encountered. And it is like a double tragedy dealing with the sick person and then the family issues. Frustrating! I wish you the best.

Also, as you can see from above I have been dealing with a lot of depression lately which erupts into anger. I need to go into therapy. Hope you can find a way to deal with yours...

Yvonne, I had read about your sister-in-law and feel bad for your brother and family. That is a scary diagnosis, and treatment is just as scary. Prayers for her and the rest of you!

H.A.L.A., hope all is well with you. Nice to see you show up.

I'll sign off for now, but did want to check in and respond to ppl's posts.

Kathy