Is it okay for me to lie?

I don't see why you need to lie, just learn to say no to foods that are of no value to you.

Just sayy, no thank you. Amen

Ugh! the dreaded in-laws! Just say oh, I am allergic.  I am diabetic and have dealt with situations like that for years. Its true, you don't have to like, but sometimes its just easier and quicker to shut them down that way.....i.e. sugar allergy!  Besides they will be so jealous by the time they see you that their jaws will drop to the ground and they will forget whatever it was they were thinking of saying!

Heidi

I hope I lose so much weight by the time we head out there in Octoer, that their jaws will drop, but I've read on here where 2 people who had surgery the same day as me lost 30 pounds and 33 pounds in the first week. I only lost 10. I won't weigh myself again till I have my check up at the doctor on Monday. My husband said that because I lost so much weight before surgery, my weight would come off slower and that the other twom people probably only los****er weight, but it still kind of bums me out that I lost 1/3 what 2 other people lost. I've even been walking on my elliptical since my 7th day out for 30-45 minutes on resistance 5 (out of 20). I am not sore anymore and except for the scars and not being hungry, I feel like I didn't have surgery at all.

Plus I had an incident with food earlier this week where I tasted the kids' dinner to make sure it was done (and cause I really wanted to taste it) knowing I shouldn't. I got super lucky that it went down fine, I didn't get sick, and I didn't have any pain. But now I am terrified of food. I feel guilty anytime I eat anything eventhough everything else I hav put in my mouth has been on my list and I haven't even come close to getting in everything they want me to be getting in. Today, I have only gotten in 25oz. of water, a 4oz protein shake, a sf popsicle, 3.5oz sf banana pudding, and 1 set of vitamins. I'm just So scared that I'll lose some weight and then gain it back. I want to get to a healthy weight range and stay there for the rest of my life and it's hard enough for me to not sabatoge myself; I hate tat the people who are supposed to love me are trying to sabatoge me too! Thank God we're stationed in California and they all live in Kansas!!!

This is a much bigger problem than the in-laws.
FIrst..it's not ONLY..you've lost 10 pounds. Do you wanna bet how many people on regular diets would be jumping up and down if they lost 10 pounds. Please celelbrate every pound (pet peeve..sorry)
The other bigger issue is your fear of food. Not eating will slow your weight loss. You have to relax and trust the process. You need to be working towards getting 80-100 gms of protein a day.
You need to have a whole bunch more fluid in your body. Your body cannot lose weight if you do not give it the tools to do so..that means protein and fluid.
Another essential tool is getting your vitamins down..all your doses.
Take care of yourself..don't worry about someting in October..focus on today..protein,fluid, and vitamins.
It gets better.
Deb T.

I just read somewhere on here that compairason is the theif of joy and they are right! I was SO happy that I lost 10 pounds in 7 days until I saw that others had lost 30+ pounds in the same amount of time. It made me feel like I was doing something wrong.

I am trying really hard to follow my plan, but I am only supposed to drink 1oz every 15 minutes, so I can't figure out how to get all of my fluid in or how to take my vitamin d and prilosec. I can't swallow a pill with 1oz. I'd be lucky if I could do it in 4 or 5 eventhough they are really tiny like a tic tak. I am supposed to try to drink 3 (4oz) protein shakes a day, still only drinking 1oz every 15 minutes so it takes me an hour to drink each shake. I've been using the About Time protein powder with 1% milk, so each 4oz shake is 17g of protein. I've also been adding the birthdday cake flavor to things like my pudding and runny cream of wheat (but it doesn't taste very good and it's hard for me to get food in on top of my water and protein shakes). I haven't had any problems eating any of the food I have been able to get in. No sickness or pain of any kind. 
 
I think when I move up to stage 3 on Monday, I'll be able to drink 2 oz of water every 15 minutes. That should help ALOT! Evntually, I'm supposed to get up to 64oz of fluid (including my protein shakes) and 70 grams of protein. Once I can have my 8oz shakes, I'll be able to get 102g of protein until I can get my protein in from food.

Until I messed up and tasted the kids' food, I was really looking forward to all of the foods I'd like to eat once I was cleared to eat them (cottage cheese, runny mashed potatoes, pureed chili), but now I'm afraid of the food. I'm scared that I'll start overeating again like I always have. I plan on measuring everything though and nover having seconds. Hopefully that will help.  

This process is going to drive you crazy if you compare your weight loss to other people. There are so many factors.
I don't know why your doctor has you drinking your fluids so slowly. Fluid just goes through..the pouch is a funnel. I think with your plan I would have difficulty getting fluids in as well.
It's okay to have fear but you also have to have faith. Soft foods are going to maybe not make you feel full. You will have to measure them. Your diet will advance. When I eat dense protein I feel FULL..and I'm 2 1/2 years out. The pouch and the rules keep me from overeating. It can and will work for you tool
But the fear place..not a good place to live.
Take care,
Deb T.

Shirley, I hear what you are saying!! It may be easy for others to just say no, but that doesn't work for everyone. It's hard when friends and family keep trying to push food on us and they wont take a simple NO. Don't tink of it as lying, because you don't know if you would dum*****t. I am 9 months out and I have never experienced dumping, but I have never eaten anything that would make me dump and I don't plan on doing this intentionaly to find out, so I just tell anyone that if I have to much sugar it will make me sick. End of story.

Moral of the Story: Do whatever you have to, in order to be successful!!!

If they don't take no for an answer, say you would hate to start projectile vomiting over everyone if it did not agree with your tummy.  That should shut them up!

Read the book titled: "Boundaries".  Sounds like you need to have some boundaries in your life.

I never would recommend lying.  Two wrongs don't make a right.  No one can make you do anything - they can influence  you, but you CHOOSE what to do.

I think the word "NO" would suffice.  Sometimes trying to get others to "understand" is futile.  You just keep digging your hole deeper.  Just say "no."

Best wishes.