I had the same thing happen to me from a classmate from high school. She's been in WW for 12 years, hasn't lost a pound that I can see, so, if she can't use that tool to help her, then I guess I will just use mine, and when I get to my goal........I will make sure she sees me!!! maybe politely say "see what cheating gets you" and ask how that WW is going for her? Weight loss isn't easy in any way, and all gastric bypass is........is a tool to help you, just as any diet is just a tool. Very few ppl are able to do it alone. Maybe I won't even give her the time of day, who knows? Whatever, we've only got ourselves to be accountable for..........so, I say "show 'em all what we can do" Good luck with your WLS!!!

My reply woul have been two words the first starts with F and the second ends with u

 

 I think when people say "easy way out" they might mean that surgery makes WL easy.  I think I know what they mean.  Most people lose after surgery so it looks easy.  I feel like it has been much easier to lose weight since surgery then any time ever pre op.  

Over all it is not an easy decision, it is not easy to give up food, it is not easy to go out to eat and watch every one enjoy while you sit and get full on 5 bites of chicken.  It is not easy to give up drinking with meals!  I would challenge any non op to try that one before they call what we have done easy.

But just give these people a break and be happy that we have found a way that give us the ablility to really lose it this time, easy hard, doesn't matter.  Success, that is what it is all about.

Don't worry those 10 pds that he needs to lose he will most likely gain it back with more weight. that is how it started for us too. We didnt wake up obese. I have zero tolerance for close minded people. They will never understand unless they go through it themselves. I am so happy that I finally ended the vicious diet lose and binge cycle. This is a whole new world for me and I am enjoying every new experience. take care and we are here for you. Those kind of friends are ones that I have gotten rid of no he doesnt have to justify his opinion but as your friend he could have handled it differently. This is not the easy way out and never will be. Its not like when you don't want to do it any longer you can return it to the store. That takes guts and courage beyond what people realize.

Loved your reply! Way to go. Leave it alone, let someone have their own opinion and you have yours. You can beat your head against the wall over the pros and cons of this surgery and some people just don't get it - no matter what. File it under "life lessons" and move on. Thanks for sharing - I loved it.

Jen 10 yrs post op

Ignorance is bliss.  If someone has never been MO or tried dieting their entire lives with minimal to no results they just do not get it.

I'd be unfriending your "friend"; sounds more like an enemy to me.

I agree with him to a certain extent, losing 120lbs in 7 months was the easiest thing I've ever done in weight loss terms ... but whatever we think for the first 3-4 years, it is not going to stay that easy!

I didn't have any complications, just the usual stuff that keeps us on the straight and narrow, dumping, foamies, puking etc ... not pleasant, but never thought it was anything to make a fuss about!

Now I am in extended maintenance, it is as difficult as it is for him ...  I have to eat right, exercise right, and take vitamins etc to stay healthy!   It is NOT easy to lose 10lbs so I have to try and not gain that weight in the first place - just as he does.

 

 I like some of the responses...the F and U one and Kelly you have a point...lol

I have 4 brothers and sisters..haven't seen any of them for years..one sister on FB saw my daughter post "prayers to my mom on her surgery" when i had my WLS and she asked what i was having surgery for...when my daughter told her she didn't comment..and has yet to comment to me..or TALK to me..she is evidentally over the top pissed and thinks i took the easy way out...Well thats her opinion and she is entitled to it..but she is ignorant..and is so hateful (they all are) and can't find anything at all to be happy about with me so i quit trying.  Soooo..if you can't find a person who is happy you are taking care of yourself and excited you want to be happy, then they are not worth being around or in touch with.   oH  and i UNfriended her on FB also....

 I can appreciate that this is a very frustrating attitude to run into, but as everyone else has said, this is the tool we chose to use.
Choice of course being the operative word. The irony in using the word choice is, for a lot of of us, we were running out of choices. I have been overweight for the majority of my adult life, I had been developing one health problem after another and choosing to ignore them to the best of my ability.When my liver finally decided to join the party I knew it was time to choose another course.

About five days after my surgery I was hunched over a cart at Walmart trying to get my family's shopping taken care of ( I was still on liquids of course) and I ran into a woman that I used to work with. This gal is ,well.... LARGE. I think the politically correct term would be super obese. Now under other cir****tances that would NEVER be an issue to me but because of her exact same comment and attitude you have to envision the 420lb woman telling me (after I mentioned the reason that I looked "like ****") She would never take the easy way and she had lost 180 pounds all on her own! Now I have known this gal for 7 years.. and I understand that it takes some time on some folks to tell that there has been some weight loss.. but in 7 years I'm pretty sure I would have noticed 180 pounds gone missing! I could have gone to her level, I could have said I had never noticed, lol.

But why respond? I kind of decided when I had made up my mind that this surgery was what I needed to save my life, that I would never apologize or make an excuse for the CHOICE that I made. So, when one of my best friends started pulling away, I let her. I have a new life. And by God it's going to be better than the old one... if your with me I will be more than happy to share the ride. But if you aren't, I'm gonna rise above it. If it were me, the "friend" would be hidden on FB and anyone else that won't support your right to make a personal choice could go too.
And this my friends ends my novella