Surviving a party?

(deactivated member)
on 5/23/12 4:16 am - Bay City, MI
During teacher appreciation week, I did ok bc our food was in the lounge, and I didn't HAVE to go in there. Now I HAVE to go to a end of the year party. A crawfish boil. I said I would prefer to skip it, and ppl got all offended. I can't eat crawfish, potatoes, or corn. I don't want to go. Well anyway, I'm being given a going away present, so I have to attend. Should I just make me something to bring? I hate being around food I can't eat. I'm ok at restaurants bc I can order soup. This isn't the same... I know I have a lifetime of parties to attend. Any advice?
poet_kelly
on 5/23/12 4:24 am - OH
If I am going somewhere that I will not be able to eat anything that is being served, I bring food with me.  Sometimes I bring a dish to share with everyone, like a big pot of chili, and sometimes I just bring a meal for myself.

View more of my photos at ObesityHelp.com          Kelly

Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR.  If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor.  Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me.  If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her.    Check out my blog.

 

Oxford Comma Hag
on 5/23/12 4:27 am
I would just bring something for myself. I am deathly allergic to shellfish, so I have always had to be careful at parties and potlucks. Most folks don't get offended if you tell them you have dietary restrictions.

Just go, have fun, and let everyone else eat the stuff you can't. (I also find it helpful to give myself a little pep talk beforehand and rephrase my thinking, ie, "I could probably eat some of X, but would I like the consequences of doing it?" If I tell myself I CAN'T have something, invariably I want it.)
poet_kelly
on 5/23/12 4:42 am - OH
I just make sure whatever I bring for myself is really yummy.  That way I don't feel deprived and am not tempted to eat something I shouldn't.

View more of my photos at ObesityHelp.com          Kelly

Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR.  If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor.  Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me.  If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her.    Check out my blog.

 

laura_vermont
on 5/23/12 4:29 am

At the very least, have something to eat before the party, so that you aren't actually hungry.  Maybe mingle holding a glass of a favorite beverage.  In situations that I can't eat what's served, I've learned to talk more :-)

 

High Weight 278; consult weight 234; Surgery Weight 219 Surgeon's Goal Weight 150 -10/27/10  -  Personal goal weight 140 - Achieved 12/11/10  
  
Tiffani A.
on 5/23/12 4:40 am - Virginia Beach, VA
 I have the same advice as Kelly and Laura. I'm really private about my surgery, and moving around for the military I'm usually with some people who know and some who don't. If I'm comfortable with the people I'm with I may bring something for myself or food to share.
If I don't I might eat first and sip a drink at the party. My husband constantly reminds me that unless your at a sit down type dinner, most people won't know what or if you're eating.  For the most part that is very true.
Go and have a great time.
jessann5
on 5/23/12 4:45 am - Kansas City, KS
 I always Bring food to parties so that I have something to eat and don't feel left out. One of my fav items is turkey meatballs and salsa in the crock pot they are pouch friendly and have less sugar than BBQ sauce meatballs and everyone else likes them so you have something you can eat and something to share. 

 RNY 1/29/08
Pre: BMI 47.6 wt 279
Current: BMI 24.9 wt 146
total pounds lost: 133

Most Active
Recent Topics
×