I need Help getting my husband on the boat too!

 mmmmm...dutch apple pie for breakfast..lol those were the days! 

 My husband is my best friend..when I decided to have surgery I told him I would need his support to be successful. His first step was joining myfitnesspal.com with me..he didn't change his eating habits but logged everything he was eating, just looking at the amount of calories he was consuming was enough for him to try and stick with the myfitnesspal calorie recommendations. For him he has really just changed the amount of food that he eats and avoids fried/greasy/overly fatty foods. Since december he has gone from 242 to 185. 

Encourage him to try out tracking his food and making small adjustments that he can live with. Maybe the first few weeks he goes from ordering an value sized meal to a normal sized meal..but whatever he can live with is helping!! We also eat dinner as a family so I make sure that whatever is being made I can have as well(even though I usually dont eat any side other than the veggie). We only buy leaner cuts of meat now, reduced fat milks, and reduced fat cheeses. We also make sure to keep healthier snacks on hand such as turkey pepperoni, cheese sticks, 100 cal pack snacks(for hubby and kiddos), and even skinny cow ice creams and candies. My husband wouldn't have been successful if he didn't have the freedom to grab a snack when he needed it. 

I hope one of these ideas encourages him to start making small changes!

 Thanks Manda, these are good ideas, wish me luck!

Deb T. That's the way to do it. Never bring it home. One piece leads to two pieces that leads to...well you get the idea. I think this is key to long term WL. 

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 My husband is also about 100lbs overweight and is 55.  He had been 100% supportive about my surgery and changes in my lifestyle.  He is not interested in WLS and I dont expect him to be.  While I want him around for another 20-30 years, we all have to make our choices.  There is nothing I can or will say to him other than whatever his choices, I love him.  He sees that I now have more energy and feel fantastic.  He recently asked if I would help him lose about 50lbs.  So, I am now in charge of food and he is dealing with the changes.  BUT he is going to have to want it.  I can make all of the health food in the world, which he will eat, but then chase it with a Big Mac and it wont make any difference.  I think I tend to be oversensitive to wanting to change the people around me.  Never once while I was fat did they suggenst that I change and I will not do the "hey look at me now and do what I do" dance.  I may have lost most of my weight, but I still have to keep it off.  I hope by continuing to live my life to the fullest and eat healthy, I will set an example that my son, husband and the rest of my family will want to follow.

Kat

 I think it needs to be a very personal decision, I hope when he sees how awesome you look and feel he will want to join you.

I buy and prepare all food in our home. That helps me help my husband get nutritious food. I also pack his lunch so he has options instead of having to rely on fast food. He's a plumber, so he has lots of opportunity to drive by fast food places.

My husband isn't obese, but he has some health issues. He alternates between smoking and chewing tobacco. His cholesterol is high.

I know how hard it was for me to make changes, let alone change him. I worry about him sometimes, but I know the desire to change has to be his idea.

You can support and you can make changes in your household to incorporate a healthier lifestyle, but you cannot make someone else do something.  You most likely can't even keep on them about it without them starting to resent you.

My hubby is overweight, and I'd LOVE for him to lose 80 pounds or so.  But I refrain from commenting on his weight, his food, lack of workouts, whatever.  Chances are he knows... but it's still his decision.

Best advice? Don't buy the junk food (you don't eat it anyway) and you will have to hope he sees the light someday, don't hound him or he may eat just to feel better. The only way is that he sees how good YOU feel and look and how your energy level is increasing and maybe just maybe he will wakeup and smell the coffee.  That or I'd hate to say it but his frist stroke will make him change his ways, (My dad had a stroke and that woke him up, and he is not over weight at all but still loved his fast food, not anymore since it almost killed him) I really hope he sees the light before that happeneds, as it's only a matter of when not if.

All the best!

 Nobody can change him but him.

I was in the gym locker room this morning and overheard a very overweight woman commenting to a friend, "So I told him that he NEEDS to get on this wagon with me, because I just can't do it by myself."  It made me very sad. 
Thank goodness you're not in that situation and can take control of your own health with or without him, But when it comes to being responsible for his health, that's pretty much entirely on him. 

You can try to help, though-- tossing junk food when you find it. Cook healthy meals for the both of you and do the grocery shopping. If he still balks or goes behind your efforts to sabotage himself, then sweetheart, you can't do anything else. 

I'd sit down with him and have a very serious heart to heart. Don't worry about sparing his feelings, an lay it out on the table. That you don't want him to die. You don't want to be a widow. That you love him and see things going very badly for him and he needs to get help. It might inspire him, it might not. But it can't hurt to try.