Update on the Kiddo and recommitment

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I have thought about if I wanted to reply or just ignore your responses so I probably should have gone with ignore but anyways.

I appreciate you sharing your experience, but this is a decision that exists between my wife and myself. Just as you said you opted to not use hearing aids I believe that by allowing my daughter to have the same option when she is an Adult is better than forcing her to exist in one world over the other. Believe me we are not taking the easy way out as I really do not believe there is one. I would rather have to appoloize to her later in life if she opts to not use aids, than have to explain why I denied her years of the ability to her if she opts for that life. The simple fact that ASL has started to become a part of our life and will be a major part of our lives from now on I feels shows that we are not denying the fact that my daughter is deaf.

Following your logic We are all denying we are fat by undergoing a procedure to correct our fatness. Sure for some it was a medical necessity or was it a lifetime of medications or pain would be the more natural way to go rather than deny our Fatness.

Again I appreciate you sharing but I doubt I will be messaging you with any questions.

I know there is as much controversy in the deaf community as there is in the autism community (my 9 year old son has autism)

You will have to hear a lot of opinions for the rest of your life - some you will agree with, some you won't but you really do have to learn to get broad shoulders and not get bent out of shape when people offer you opinions that are different to yours ( I could hear you bristling) ... The early years after diagnosis are very emotional, it's confusing and there are so many options, it IS difficult to know which routes to choose. Kudos to you and your wife to have done so this early in the process!!!

I could spend my life angry with people that want to let me know what they think, but I choose not to. I have chosen a path for my son that makes me and him comfortable and while I welcome everyone else's right to their opinions, I am at a stage that I know what is best for MY son as I am sure they know what is best for them/theirs ...

I'm sure you are awesome parents (as I am!!) and will do what you think is best for your daughter - ultimately giving her tools that will allow her to choose her path in life when she is old enough to be able.

I don't think Cheryl was being disrespectful, I just think she has strong opinions on something close to her heart - something we should admire, even if it's not the path you or someone else would choose.

As I have said before, your daughter is a lucky girl to have you as parents - not all parents are as accepting of a diagnosis as you seem to be ....

Thank you, I am not trying to show any disrespect towards Paul.  Just stating my opinions, and I just feel that parents want to "fix" their kid's "defects".  This is a difficult thing and I dislike debating about this.  I do hate hate being deaf (deaf from birth, a 1960's thing) but I do not want artifical hearing, I would rather have the REAL natural hearing with all the hairs in the cochlear area.  I can hear a little, and i personally can't stand it, and I don't think with CI I would be able to handle it.  Hearing my deaf friends cough (LOUD and I'm sure differently from hearing people since they can't hear themselves and don't know how to "mimic" ) is really a gross sound to me.  

I am sure that this is alot for Paul and his wife to take this in and get used to this.  


Being fat has nothing to do with deafness.  Deafness doesn't cause health issues like being overweight so they are completely different issues. 

sounds to me like you and your family will be able to deal with anything. big hugs to all of you.  Judi

 Paul, you deserve a round of applause  You and your family make others believe in what's possible when you put your mind to it and have love to see you thru.

You have chosen a good option which gives her the choice of both worlds.  I wish you and your family the best of luck.  Jenn    

How much time does your training take away from the time you could be spending with your family? It's a balancing act. I know I could easily get obsessed because I love exercising, but I choose to spend more time with my family.

 Typically it is 2 hours maybe 3 times a week.  

On my usual training schedule most of my training is done in the very early hours of the day. I often get up at 4am and start the grind.  The most impact comes on Tues night when I do a 90 min spin workout then weekends I may be out for 2-3 hours into normal morning hours, but my family is such late risers that things are just getting going when I get home.  Pushing to the full may take another 1-2 hours on Saturday and Sunday but again I offest these by heading out earlier. 

Next year I will do more periodize training where I can focus on 1 leg of the event and realy build that and then the final period is to bring them togther so I can minimize 100 mile rides on Followed by runs and that type of craziness.  I do have the support of my family on this besides my wife likes the fact I sit down to normal dinners most nights and she doesn't have to worry about hat I can or can't eat, since I will typically burn off what I eat.

 Paul,

I don't normally post here but something drew me to this forum today. I have a good friend who is raising a deaf daughter with cochlear implants. She is a wonderful 10 year old with a full active life. I would be glad to give you her name if you'd like to speak with her as a parent who struggled to make this decision. She's a writer and you can see her website here:

www.soundcheckmama.com

Shannon

 Thank you!