If my friend says these things I wonder what my haters say

Jilly Bean
on 3/7/13 2:45 am - IN
RNY on 07/09/12

As I've been on my weight loss journey these past 8 months, here is a sampling of what a friend of mine has said to me:

"Well, you are thinner but you are certainly not thin".

"You shouldn't wear stripes".

"Everyone can look pretty from the right angle".

"You'll probably weigh less than me soon since you had surgery and I have to work for my weight loss".

She's just a negative person in general.  It's hard but some people are just vampires and suck the life right out of you.  We've been friends for 6 years but I finally had to terminate the relationship.  She just made me uncomfortable and unhappy to be around her.  

 

 

Surgery weight:  232 lbs. / Goal: 145 lbs. Height:  5'5"     Fat? Ain't nobody got time for that.

 

karenp8
on 3/7/13 2:50 am - Brighton, IL

Good for you for getting rid of her negativity. We do enough of that to ourselves we surely don't need it from others. You are doing great!

   

       

H.A.L.A B.
on 3/7/13 2:51 am

With friends like that - you don't need an enemy.

Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG

"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"

"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."

artroxy blue
on 3/7/13 2:52 am - MA
RNY on 08/14/12

Sounds like you need to drop the negative, dead weight. LOL No need for her to bring you down because she's jealous of your successes. Good luck!

                       

    
Oxford Comma Hag
on 3/7/13 2:59 am
She wasn't a friend at all. It sounds like you are well rid of her.

I fight badgers with spoons.

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Kim S.
on 3/7/13 3:00 am - Helena, AL

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING.  It isn't easy, but sometimes you have to sever the toxicity from your life.  If you make yourself a priority and you concentrate on providing the best care possible to yourself, that sometimes means cleansing the bad from your life....and that sometimes means ending counter-productive relationships.

Ending that relationship was a very adult, healthy thing to do!  Bravo to you.

             
     
Citizen Kim
on 3/7/13 3:06 am - Castle Rock, CO

One of the joys of getting older (and there aren't too many) is the ability to see life suckers and terminate them!!!!  

It took me to my 40's to decide that I wouldn't put up with other people's negativity and crap and boy, does it feel good!!!   I'm one snappy,  happy 50 year old and if you aren't a cheerleader ummmm buh bye!

Good for you for letting her go - that's probably the easiest 200lbs weight loss you've had since the surgery!

 

Proud Feminist, Atheist, LGBT friend, and Democratic Socialist

Jilly Bean
on 3/7/13 3:29 am - IN
RNY on 07/09/12

Yeah, the older I get the lower and lower my bull**** threshold becomes.  

Surgery weight:  232 lbs. / Goal: 145 lbs. Height:  5'5"     Fat? Ain't nobody got time for that.

 

tarsanne
on 3/7/13 11:35 am - MO
On March 7, 2013 at 11:29 AM Pacific Time, Jilly Bean wrote:

Yeah, the older I get the lower and lower my bull**** threshold becomes.  

Funny you should say this. Just the other day I finally grew a pair and told a friend of mine to kiss my fat a$$. It was a long time comin and boy did it feel great!
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on 3/7/13 4:03 am
RNY on 04/18/12

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