Explaining my hiatus (long and opinionated - be warned)

I am very new.  Just two months out.  But, I have to admit the whining got to me... big time.  I private messaged a vet and talked it out with her.  She helped me to realize that not everyone has the great doctor, great support system and educational resources that some of us have.  It made a lot of sense to me and humbled me to think that I have taken for granted how blessed I am. 

Congrats on your success!

    Yes although I agree the "whiny" post can be like.....hemorrhoids (irritating to your asshole!)  I belong to 4 local support groups.....the whining IRL is EPIC......much more grating on the ears/nerves!   
    I feel it is important to pass along info/support...to those who need it the most! (newbies....early out)  After all.....many of us were "whiny" at one time too!  (not you per se)  I also agree .....probably a good idea to "step back"  before ripping someone a new one too!
    I appreciated the info/support I got from the "vets"....still do.  I guess I am just  SOOO happy/appreciative ....of this "gift"  I want to do what I can to help.  Sometimes in life ....we take the good W/ the bad....or whiny! 
  

I've had a couple whinning post and that's just life. Every day isn't sunshine and rainbows. Some days are asscracks and BS. If people need to come here and vent then so be it. I wish this did have a decent search button on it however I'd use it when some of these holyier than tho vets come on to complain when I'm sure they had the same annoying questions when they were newbies.

I have to say that the original post was quite discouraging for a "newbie." While I think most people know that the road ahead is going to be hard at times, it still helps to have other people that can relate to what you're going through, and people you can feel comfortable expressing your feelings to. Yeah, you can spend all of your time searching for the questions that have been asked before, but we all want  to come here to find someone that relates to US. This road is hard and sometimes scary, and I really thought I found a place that I could come to ask questions, share experiences, and help each other! I hope to be able to help someone down the road, like someone is helping me now. Obviously, the questions and concerns are important to the person that is posting, and this is one place that people who are going through WLS should be able to come and feel comfortable expressing how they feel. I have read hundreds of posts, and I have never seen anyone that whines that they want pizza a week out. I am not saying it hasn't happened, but my gosh! I have to say that I will be very reluctant to post anymore questions here, because I see a majority of the replies from the "vets" agree that us "newbies" get on your nerves. How very sad. In addition to having others that can answer my questions, I was hoping to find some friends as well. I have had several conversations with people that I would feel comfortable calling my friend. I had no idea that this forum was only for those who already know the answers to all of  the questions.

I really don't mean to sound critical or rude, but it isn't like I can go talk to someone who hasn't been in my shoes, and expect them to understand. If I wanted to get generic answers, I could google them.

The classic three week stall question comes to mind...

Nearly every page has one....

Still, I'd prefer someone whine or ask an already asked question because weren't as technically savvy as some others than not know their answer. It is very easy to skip over posts. Congratulations on your success. Being only two months(not quite) out and so far, having a great go with it, I can say that every day, even those that were a little more difficult, have been a blessing and life is already that much better since surgery. And as a self payer as well, it was more than worth it.

I will be over in the VSG Maintenance! Thanks! 

HUGS!

I will be lurking over there reading your posts and the posts of the rest of you who have succeeded!!!!!!!

 I have had many of the thoughts about people posting the same thing over and over, and also the whining and the "I f*cked up" posts and then I remember - this is a public forum.  If I don't like it, I can click a button and close out.  I just avoid the messages that annoy me.  No one is perfect, everyone has fears.  Although I am by nature an impatient person, I try to be an empathetic one.  I know I will f*ck up one day and I want to be able to come here for support.  Maybe not approval, but understanding.  So, that being said I chose to read YOUR post as well.  And being empathetic, I can understand why you wrote it.  Congrats on your success :)

Congratulations on ALL your success may you thrive and continue and I often take a break WHEN it gets to much for me and I get to point when I wanna post the things you just wrote...

BUT...

I also know that NOT everyone in the world is like ME and to ME they deserve the same respect and understanding that I give those like myself who've done the research and 'know" all the answers.  

NOW the ones that are really annoying are when person a) asks really stupid questions NUMEROUS times and THEN I'm like did you just walk into the doctor and have surgery the next day and those people I block for about a month or two and eventually unblock...

I want to hear EVERYONE and help out EVERYONE when I can...but I suffer from "Mother Theresa" complex whom I'm sure has heard ALL the whines in the world.

Ms Shell

Glad you're back Leanne and I understand that you have to do what you have to do.  I honestly don't mind the whining. I feel their pain and have been right where they are, so I do my best to be a positive role model and help when I can.  Sometimes I get sick of it, sometimes I get sick of the same ol posts day after day, but those days I just keep quiet and don't come to site 20 times a day (maybe only 10) :)  I also remember those first few months post op when the head hunger was a ***** and the hormones were raging and needed to come on here and whine because frankly nobody understands what you are going through like another VSGer.  That is why I help.  Sure I am not learning as much as I did early out, but some days I do hear about a good site or get reassurance that I am doing the right thing or find I too need to get my head in the game. I need this site, I need everyone here and love to hear from those before me and some of the ones after and some of the newbies are a riot! Whiny or not I love us all! :)