Are you Angry?

maybe we aren't angry because we get so much support here? 

Before, I could be resentful of people who were slim without seeming to have to work at it.  I'm not sure that's the same as anger, but it's bitter and unpleasant, all the same.

But no, I'm not angry.  And when I get slim again, I hope I'll just be grateful and not worry about the details like whether they eat more than I do, stuff like that. 

So nope, it wouldn't even occur to me to be angry at this point.

 Nope.  It doesn't bother me at all to go to a restaurant and have my 3 bites while my family eats their regular meal, or go out with friends.  Sometimes I hate that I have to make 2 meals but that's not my family's fault.  They aren't the ones with the food issue I am.  Now I know I'm still only 8 weeks out but I don't see this attitude changing.  I knew to lose a drastic amount of weight would take a drastic change and I don't hate it for a minute.  

Might it change on reaching goal and starting maintenance if I have to stay still on an extremely low cal diet, maybe, but with my high pace of exercise I expect that I'll be able to enjoy a "normal" person's 1200-1300 calories a day with no problem.  

I have found that I'm angry but not with the food plan. I'm angry about other things and used to medicate with food. Lacking the food, the anger came up. I think anger is natural and healthy. So is pain, it tells us to flee a situation (hot stove) or make life changes. Maybe they were already angry and found a target in the absence of food as a comfort?

^^^ I agree with you. I was angry only because I had to find a different way to self medicate when I get upset or depressed about something. Food was always the answer for me and of course it was also convenient to be able to drown myself privately in my car while in the McDonalds parking lot with a 2 cheeseburger meal and a large coke! 

 I knew full well going into this decision the massive dietary changes that I faced. Having said that I am 6 days post op and yes I am PISSED at times watching my loved ones eat foods and quantities that I (by habit) want to eat with them. Doing my best to stay positive and keep my head clear of those thoughts. I know even with all my preparing, this is just apart of the process. I tell myself I had enough of those foods and volumes for 20 of my 29 years. Enough is enough :)

 Nope, in fact I have the opposite problem, no anger just sadness at seeing what is considered "normal" portions and "normal" food. 

16 months out and not a bit angry--too busy being happy, elated, ecstatic, etc over my new body and healthy lifestyle.

I went into this knowing the restrictions and that I would be giving up my old life style that made me hate the person I hated anyways. I could sit here and complain about how all of the naturally skinny people can eat 3,000 calories a day and never gain a lb but whats the point? This works for me and I have no regrets...

I go to a couple of support groups each month and one lady 2 months ago was angry because she was told she had to stop eating cookies. The lady hosting the meeting told her she needed to stop and the lady just responded really loud like a child "I WANT MY COOKIES!!! WHY CAN'T I HAVE COOKIES!!". Then she tried figuring out ways to still fit "healthier" types of cookies into her DAILY diet.

There are those who will succeed and those who will fail. In my opinion, you need to make this a positive experience to have positive results.

Angry? No, but I won't say I'm not occasionally sad, I guess is the best word. Don't get me wrong, I don't regret my decision.  It was the right thing to do, and making hard choices is part of life.   I make it a point to eat well, to eat flavorful, but there are times when I would really like to sit down, relax at a meal with a glass of wine, and not have to think about what's going into my mouth in what order. I'm a foodie, and there's a certain spontanity I miss of just sitting down with a menu trying something different without going through the (often bordering on subconscious) mental gymnastics of figuring out how it will fit into my stomach much less my 'plan.' 

While I was losing weight, it wasn't an issue at all.  Weightloss in itself is a powerful motivator for sticking 'on plan.'  That's why plateaus and the last 10lbs are so hard to deal with.  It's easy for your head to get thoughts like, "Well, jeez, if i'm no losing weight I might as well ENJOY what I eat."  That's why good habits are so important.  Having said that, once the numbers on the scale stop ticking down with comforting regularity and you have to transition into a 'new normal,' the long-term reality of the decision really hits home.  I think to a certain extent that's why DS is more 'livable' and probably a better decision for many people than VSG. It allows you to eat more volume and more along the lines of the 'western diet.' 

Having followed the VSG boards for some time now, I see a couple of patterns in those who are successful long-term. The common factor seems to be remaining goal oriented.   Some folks appear to draw the same motivation from maintaining their weight  within a narrow range as they did from losing weight.  Another seems to be the folks who have discovered or rediscovered their inner athlete and who have set fitness and performance goals beyond simply losing and maintaining weightloss.  For me, it's a bit of both.