Are you Angry?
Being able to walk up and down my stairs without my knees popping every step I take with pain, getting off blood pressure meds, walking a full day at e theme park with my family without almost passing out, and for now getting into clothes 2 sizes smaller does not make me angry at all. Two ounces of food at one sitting is a small price to pay for the ability to live my life to the fullest with no regrets.
HW: 333, SW : 300 CW: 275. GW; 150
I completely agree with what most have said here. I am definitely not angry and fully understood what my limitatins with food would be. I have on occassion felt some sadness or maybe a little grieving around food. Most recently I stopped on the way home from work (1st time since surgery doing this), and ordered takeout from a Mexican restaurant. I ordered 1 fish taco for me, and an order of nachos for my husband. I was fine with our order which I took home, and I ate the inside of my taco and was completely satisfied. But as I was waiting for my order, watching people sitting there with their big plates of Mexican food, I felt sad that I would not ever be doing that again. But the sadness passed and the joy set in when I dressed the next morning in my smaller clothing. Emotions are fleeting, but they do mean something and we need to pay attention.
HW: 284: SW: 274: CW: 152.8. Goal: 159
I'm not angry at all. I am amazed and grateful at the changes brought about by my surgery. I have learned that I can have small amounts of some of the things that I used to eat, but I love the fact that my sleeve limits me to small amounts.
I do occasionally feel a little lost when I'm faced with a bunch of negative feelings and I can't eat to distract and numb myself. It was a lot easier when I could just start eating and the world would go away. It's definitely a learning experience to have to face my anger, fear, frustration, loneliness, shame and guilt.
I do feel angry more often, but that is only because I have to FEEL it, and can't numb it by compulsively eating or by pretending everything's okay while I'm planning what to eat instead of facing my problems.
One of the reasons I chose the sleeve was because it does the least long-term damage to the body and has the least amount of dietary restrictions. I was a volume eater before, and volume restriction was all I really needed. I do dump a little bit if I eat too much sugar without protein or fat.
I imagine that I might be angry if I had severe dumping, reactive hypoglycemia or other food-consumption-related maladies that I had to deal with on a regular basis, like some of the RNY or Lap-Band posters post about on the main board. I would also have some anger issues if my surgery had not helped me to lose so much weight, like my friend who had a lap-band last June and has only lost 30 pounds. Her band is always either so loose that she has no restriction, or so tight that she can't drink water. That would **** me off.
I do occasionally feel a little lost when I'm faced with a bunch of negative feelings and I can't eat to distract and numb myself. It was a lot easier when I could just start eating and the world would go away. It's definitely a learning experience to have to face my anger, fear, frustration, loneliness, shame and guilt.
I do feel angry more often, but that is only because I have to FEEL it, and can't numb it by compulsively eating or by pretending everything's okay while I'm planning what to eat instead of facing my problems.
One of the reasons I chose the sleeve was because it does the least long-term damage to the body and has the least amount of dietary restrictions. I was a volume eater before, and volume restriction was all I really needed. I do dump a little bit if I eat too much sugar without protein or fat.
I imagine that I might be angry if I had severe dumping, reactive hypoglycemia or other food-consumption-related maladies that I had to deal with on a regular basis, like some of the RNY or Lap-Band posters post about on the main board. I would also have some anger issues if my surgery had not helped me to lose so much weight, like my friend who had a lap-band last June and has only lost 30 pounds. Her band is always either so loose that she has no restriction, or so tight that she can't drink water. That would **** me off.
" I am not at all concerned with appearing to be consistent. In my pursuit after Truth I have discarded many ideas and learnt many new things." Ghandi 
I have been at this for over 4 years now (4 years with the band), so I am not angry, just frustrated at this point. The frustration has more to do with my journey than my dietary restrictions.
I can tell you that when someone is getting the LapBand, they know that the actual journey really only starts when you get the proper amount of restriction in the band. I dreamed of that day for months, including pre-op. When that day finally came, I was mad as hell. I totally didn't expect my anger to surface!! I was eating something very delicious and totally healthy and on my plan. I wanted MORE....I was angry that I could not fit more in to my little pouch.
I probably stayed semi-angry about it for about 3 weeks. I guess it took my brain a bit to catch up and to be grateful that my tool was doing it's job! ha ha
Silly mind of an addict. Go figure!
I can tell you that when someone is getting the LapBand, they know that the actual journey really only starts when you get the proper amount of restriction in the band. I dreamed of that day for months, including pre-op. When that day finally came, I was mad as hell. I totally didn't expect my anger to surface!! I was eating something very delicious and totally healthy and on my plan. I wanted MORE....I was angry that I could not fit more in to my little pouch.
I probably stayed semi-angry about it for about 3 weeks. I guess it took my brain a bit to catch up and to be grateful that my tool was doing it's job! ha ha
Silly mind of an addict. Go figure!
LapBand Surgery 01/10/08, Revison to Sleeve 04/03/12
Not even sort of. I tell people that it's not their fault I ate too many burritos! Plus, I know I can eat whatever I want, whenever I want and I DO... I also must suffer the consequences of my actions and I'm also aware of this. That keeps me in check most of the time. ;)
HW 380.8+ SW- 371.4 CW- 234.4 GW- 200 
Donna B.
on 5/15/12 5:38 am
on 5/15/12 5:38 am
what dietary restriction? except for the first two months out i have been able to eat anything i want and i have. Pre-surgery i heard that i would not be able to eat beef, dried fruit, nuts, and i have had no trouble eating any food so long as i chew it well and eat slowly, which is a great habit anyway.
i don't understand the anger, unless the people in your support group were given an austere plan to follow and were made to think that if they don't follow such strict regimen that they would not do well. If i was told to eat 600 calories a day until i reach goal and i can't have fruit and other foods until i reach goal, i would be angry too. I am permissive with my eating and strict at the same time. If i want something to eat and it does not trigger the addictive eating that dogged me all my life pre-VSG, i eat it. My preference 98% of the time is for the healthiest nutrient dense foods i can eat. I am not going to stop losing weight because i like to eat oatmeal or an apple occasionally.
I think when someone dictates to you what your diet will be and it is an austere and mundane food plan, it creates resentment, rebellion, frustration, anger for some.
For the long haul it was important to me to come up with my own healthy food plan and set boundaries based on the wealth of knowledge that i gained over many years studying health and nutrition, and to eat in a way that i would want to eat for the rest of my life.
Another reason i am not angry is that pre-surgery i ate enough for several lifetimes, and eating healthy became a matter of life and death.
A few times on this board i hear that if the vsg'er could have, they would have gotten their sleeve done many years ago. i do not feel this way. i enjoyed the food that got me fat right up to the week before surgery and i feel that i got the sleeve just at the right time when i needed it. i was ready to give up the mountains of ice cream, bags of dark chocolate, the box of pastry, etc. So i am a happy VSG camper.
On a rare occasion i miss eating with abandon and abundance, but the positives of VSG outweigh that pleasure. And i am alive!
i don't understand the anger, unless the people in your support group were given an austere plan to follow and were made to think that if they don't follow such strict regimen that they would not do well. If i was told to eat 600 calories a day until i reach goal and i can't have fruit and other foods until i reach goal, i would be angry too. I am permissive with my eating and strict at the same time. If i want something to eat and it does not trigger the addictive eating that dogged me all my life pre-VSG, i eat it. My preference 98% of the time is for the healthiest nutrient dense foods i can eat. I am not going to stop losing weight because i like to eat oatmeal or an apple occasionally.
I think when someone dictates to you what your diet will be and it is an austere and mundane food plan, it creates resentment, rebellion, frustration, anger for some.
For the long haul it was important to me to come up with my own healthy food plan and set boundaries based on the wealth of knowledge that i gained over many years studying health and nutrition, and to eat in a way that i would want to eat for the rest of my life.
Another reason i am not angry is that pre-surgery i ate enough for several lifetimes, and eating healthy became a matter of life and death.
A few times on this board i hear that if the vsg'er could have, they would have gotten their sleeve done many years ago. i do not feel this way. i enjoyed the food that got me fat right up to the week before surgery and i feel that i got the sleeve just at the right time when i needed it. i was ready to give up the mountains of ice cream, bags of dark chocolate, the box of pastry, etc. So i am a happy VSG camper.
On a rare occasion i miss eating with abandon and abundance, but the positives of VSG outweigh that pleasure. And i am alive!
55 y.o. 5'4" HW: 180's CW: 127 Doctor's GW: 130 My GW: 117
~ working on reaching goal again after regain
I wouldn't say angry. There are occasional times when I'm mildly resentful in a petty, immature way, but it never lasts more than the few moments it takes for me to smack myself upside the head.
Example: the other day we had our weekly dinner out at Applebees. I ordered one of their WW choices, the Sizzling Chili Lime Chicken http://www.applebees.com/menu/under-550-calories and had them hold the rice to make it even a better choice.
At my table arrived a platter full of broccoli, snap peas, some other veggies (they must have added extra to compensate for the rice) and grilled chicken. It was delicious. I ate about 2 oz, my normal meal, and could do no more. I took the rest home but with meals like that I always end up only eating it maybe 2 more times before it hits questionable shelf life.
I was soooo frustrated because it was really healthy, really good and I still could only eat 2 oz of it. But it was just a momentary attack of childishness because I know if I had my stomach back I'd not only eat all of choices like that but the pizza and the pasta with alfredo sauce and 1400 calorie cake and ice cream desserts so many of these restaurants have.
I am sad when I see a morbidly obese person eating like I used to eat, but not angry or resentful.
Example: the other day we had our weekly dinner out at Applebees. I ordered one of their WW choices, the Sizzling Chili Lime Chicken http://www.applebees.com/menu/under-550-calories and had them hold the rice to make it even a better choice.
At my table arrived a platter full of broccoli, snap peas, some other veggies (they must have added extra to compensate for the rice) and grilled chicken. It was delicious. I ate about 2 oz, my normal meal, and could do no more. I took the rest home but with meals like that I always end up only eating it maybe 2 more times before it hits questionable shelf life.
I was soooo frustrated because it was really healthy, really good and I still could only eat 2 oz of it. But it was just a momentary attack of childishness because I know if I had my stomach back I'd not only eat all of choices like that but the pizza and the pasta with alfredo sauce and 1400 calorie cake and ice cream desserts so many of these restaurants have.
I am sad when I see a morbidly obese person eating like I used to eat, but not angry or resentful.
Highest weight: 335 lbs, BMI 50.9
Pre-op weight: 319 lbs, BMI 48.5
Current range: 140-144, BMI 21.3 - 22
175+ lbs lost, maintaining since February 2012
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