When is enough is enough...when other VSGrs obsession=mental illness

When it comes to eating disorders and other mental illnesses, if you are going to "call someone out" please do so privately, in a private message ,etc.

I am a newbie and the discussion here has at times made my head spin. BUT, it is up to each and everyone of us to learn, research, and adapt. I do very much appreciate hearing different approaches and opinions, however , I agree that at times people do present their ideas as gospel.

Anne

I agree. As a newbie, some if the threads have been a little off putting and instead of providing help and insight have become ******g contests. We are here to realistically support each other. I agree, any personal issues should be addressed personally.
I love this site and have gotten tons of information from it.

Amen sista. if I read your post I wouldn't have written mine!

When it comes to eating disorders and other mental illnesses, if you are going to "call someone out" please do so privately, in a private message ,etc.

Anne thank you...oh yes absolutely IF I can get up enough courage to broach the subject to this person it WILL be private!!    

I have NO INTENTION on outting this awesome VSGr....Im terribly concerned is all.  Anorexia to this extreme...rarely happens ....in all the years Ive been here...Ive seen it....maybe 3 times before ....but I never said nothin to them

...Im so happy your thinkin I should 

 

3 weeks out, my personal opinion: if I can make the decision to have this surgery I hope I am smart enough to view a forum with objectivity. I don't think it is your job to "call any one out". Give us newbees a little credit. I completely support your right to make comments, give your opinion. that's what this is all about I thought. We are not here to be judged by an individual. Really didn't appreciate the pictures, as you have no idea who is viewing them. I have found this forum a great place, that helps me find resources,  information, share ideas etc, and not feel I am on this journey alone. The good the bad the ugly. Honesty in your feelings great. judging or calling people out a real shame.

Ive been on here and have yet to see an anorexic VSGer. Yes some get to a pretty low BMI but i dont think they are anorexic.

 

Now, I have certainly seen enough drama in the last week to make me want to run head first into a brick wall. 

Amen Allison!

I'm not sure that calling them out in a public forum would do much good.  Definitely send them a PM to let know you are concerned about them.  Offer them whatever support you can and if you truly think they've developed an eating disorder suggest that they seek professional help.

Yes thank YOU  I am very concerned...like I says its BAD!!....I will absolutely do this privately Im not that stoopid! lmao

I'm 3 months out and personally... I don't think obsessing about food at this stage is all that bad of a thing.  For the first time in my entire life, I am learning to take control of what I eat.. I'm learning to portion control, say no, and take care of me.  It's all a learning cuI rve.  And I already see myself starting to pull away from this board somewhat as I start to get my wings and learn to fly.  Does it mean I am going to become anorexic?  No.  But am I going to fret over 20, 30 or 40 calories?  Yup.  I am learning to be accountable to myself.  Not just say screw it and go for what feels/tastes/sounds/smells good at the moment.  I'm not one of  those people who were skinny in HS and then packed on the pounds after I got married or have kids.  I was 250 when I graduated, 265 when I got married, 275 when I got pregnant and 318 when I started the VSG process.  I was NEVER accountable to myself.  So yeah, obsession isn't such a bad thing right now.  I'm in the trenches, learning about a new life as I go along.

When it comes down to it...... unless you know the person well, who appointed you to call people out?  A online persona is far different from IRL... I used to be heavily involved in another board on WW for years.  People went on there clearly looking for attention, more than stretching the truth and basically putting a different self out there.  I would hope if you truly feel the need to call someone out... do so privately.  Remember, what you read on a board, is only part of the story.