Skinny-Fatty ????

I was just at a memorial day outdoor deal and overheard a small group of "thicker" woman talking about a girlfriend of a guest.

I heard words like boney, creepy, skinny ***** and wait till she has kids.

My micrometer eyes had this woman at about 5'7'' 120lbs. (I see this size all the time in models and actors) probably a size 4

Calling someone to skinny is like calling someone to fat?

frisco

I agree,   if it's said as a negative it's a negative....  I'm sure it was said out of a touch of the green eyed monster.... jealousy is a very powerful and vicious thing at times.... 

Yeah some say that about me...  LOL

Yep, classifying someone a skinny ***** is as bad as calling someone a fat cow.

I'm sure they were simply jealous of her.  But it just goes to show that we are a very rude country that believes passing judgment on someone and talking about their body (whether fat/skinny, short/tall, etc.) is a polite topic of conversation.  IT IS NOT!  

Bring it on witches....:)  

I don't get this to my face, but I can sometimes "hear it" in the looks from heavier women.  It doesn't really bother me and actually makes me smile a little.  Yeah, I want to say, "Being skinny is just awful, really terrible, I hate the attention, the clothes and the high heels.  I especially hate it when I can run, climb, dance, or 'whatever' all day/night long".  It's just horrible. :)  And don't even get me started on the number of times I have to shoo guys away, that's such a drag...

They are just uncomfortable in their own skin or they are jealous, or they really believe that being bigger is somehow more beautiful (that can be true for some women), whatever they think, it's non of my business.  My business is to be the healthiest, most beautiful, and most importantly, the most happy in my skin.  That, and caring for people/animals that I love takes so much of my time that I can't worry about people who don't like me/my looks or anything else.  I used to be a great deal more sensitive about other people's opinion, now, not so much. 

I respectfully disagree with this point of view

Not every heavy womans looks at a skinny woman is  jealous. You never know where someone else might be in there own personal journey there are plenty of things they could be thinking including insprational thoughts or that is a cute outfit or for that matter nothing at all. Yes some people can be catty but assuming  that people stop what they r going and say catty thinks about u with there looks is insecure.

I was not uncomfortable in my own skin or jealous of skinny people and I did not think that being heavy or skinny made anyone any more or less beautiful. Did you think like that when you were still heavy and looking at skinny people. 

I have not done this for beauty I have done this for health andI hope that when I reach my goals I do not look at other heavy people with assumption and judgement.

I hope that judgment was not your intent and that you just did not express what you meant as well as you would have liked

 

My reply does not stand on it's own, but is actually a reply to the OP.  I do not think that heavy woman all look at skinny women and feel jealous.  I have good friends that are heavier and they feel absolutely gorgeous in their own skin.  However, there are  those that do look at skinny women with judgement, mostly due to jealousy, but sometimes because of taste, or for other reasons.  The "look" I refer to in my reply is a clear, "up and down with a sneer look", not a look of kindness, curiosity or affection.  The "look" is not at all dissimilar to the look that some skinny women give to heavier women.  At it's base is a judgement of your/my body.  This look is hard to interpret incorrectly as it is universal and quite easy to understand, most often the person does not even try to hide it as they are to busy experiencing their own emotions to think of you.  That is the attitude that my reply is referencing.  I do not think that all heavy women are jealous any more than I think that all skinny women judge heavy women, but when you see "the look" from someone that is clearly judging you, it is impossible not to recognize it.  Our internal conversation and interpretation of this look is important as it can have consequences for our self-esteem, our behavior and our perception of our place in the world.  Confidence is what makes a women sexy regardless of size or shape.  Just look at Ms. Shell... she is gorgeous in every weight and every one of her photos and it would never occur to me that she is jealous of anyone.  

Before wls I was in that group of women who had to cut down the smaller people in the room to make ourselves feel better.

Now that I have had wls and see that it takes work no matter what size you are, I am reminded what my grandmother used to say, "If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all."

well I am betting that the "skinny *****" was very attractive and dressed to show it so jealousy stepped in. They were not saying she was unfriendly, stuck - up, ill mannered or bad things about her character.   Its interesting what people focus on.  And if it had been a very slim young man would they have been calling him skinny boney creepy *******   

I personally would like to be called a skinny *****   but I am too old for anyone to be envious.     diane