Feel like a liar

She is in no way shape or form lying to anyone.  She is just not telling them she had surgery!  It is no ones business.  She is not lying.  We are losing weight because of our new lifestyle and the surgery is simply just a tool.  I think it is rude to not support someone who chooses to keep it private.  

Keeping it private is one thing. Lying by omission is another. 

Amy....YOU ARE NOT A LIAR!!!!!!!  If they had the nerve to ask you if you had WLS and you said NO ~ then you would be lying.  But look at it this way, when they ask you how you've done it and they want to know what your eating and what supplements your taking ~ consider to yourself that you are giving them a gift of health knowledge.  You just may be helping one person out of all of them that has secretly been dying to know how to lose some weight.  So your actually HELPING them and NOT lying to them.  I am a very private person and I will not be sharing with outsiders my personal WLS decision.  CONGRATULATIONS on your weight loss.  I hope I do as well as you when I have my surgery hopefully next month!

I am not by any means telling people that my diet is simple.  I am also not telling them that my strict diet is some kind of miracle diet that will help anyone shed 50 lbs in 2 months.  I'm simply telling them what I'm eating and what exercises I am doing.  If someone were to directly ask me if I've had WLS I would feel compelled to tell the truth, but I feel like it is in fact my right to keep it private.  I am extremely proud of myself for my accomplishments so far and it doesn't mean that I am ashamed of my decision just because I choose to keep it private.

Calling me "cruel" for keeping it private is uncalled for.

There is nothing wrong with your decision to not share your personal medical business with others. Look at it this way, would it be ok if a coworker approached you after noticing your hair shedding and asked if you had cancer? No it would be extremely rude. Although my analogy is quite extreme, I use it to show that while it's ok for people to compliment you on your weightloss and ask for some of your diet secrets or tips, at the end of the day, it's your private business and your decision to share your wls story with whom you choose to. Do not feel like a liar, because you are not lying to anyone. You are simply choosing to keep your personal matters private. If someone were to ask if you had wls, it would be extremely rude!!! And rather than blatantly looking that person in the face and saying no, you could just say something similar to "you know, I have really been making healthier food choices, watching my portions and being more active" This is what I said after my coworkers started commenting and asking about my weightloss many years ago after band surgery. I'm sure some people may disagree with me, but in my opinion, it would never be ok to approach someone and ask if he/she has had wls. At my heaviest, one of my student's parents approached me, touched my belly and asked when I was due. Not only was i not pregnant, my man and i had actually been trying to conceive, and were having a difficult time due to my female problems. I.Was.Devastated!!! We have to be careful with the comments we make. I never shared my story with Any of my coworkers, because I know how harsh and judge mental they are about it. Listen to your "gut". If you don't feel comfortable sharing, there's a good reason for it. Don't do it if you feel you would regret it and don't feel guilty for choosing to keep your personal business to yourself! 

Wowwwww I'm experiencing that exact thing right now a particular incident is this lady keeps asking me what am I doing to lose weight and for the most part I tell her the same thing protein no sugar watch your carbs and that I have a personal trainer so just this week this is her 3rd time seeing me and she goes on to tell me how good I look and then she says did you have a surgery? I stared at her and said what did I tell you I was doing I don't feel a bit obligated to tell her my personal business I don't know her from John or Jane doe besides I work part time at a donut shop and she's pulling up there every other day buying donuts so I told her well I don't eat the donuts either then she stares at me lol but she's not anybody I owe a answer so to each it's own all of my family knows and my friends good luck but I don't feel like I'm lying if I don't tell a stranger my business

Mswatts, of course you don't feel as if you're lying, because you aren't. You're simply choosing who and who NOT to share your personal information/business with, that's all. I can't believe she asked you that! Wow! And don't get me wrong, she may have been truly interested in knowing or wanted to ask about it because she's considering it. Who knows! But in my opinion, it's rude to ask a person if they've had wls once you've noticed them slimming down. 

And thank you for those of you who understand.  I really appreciate the support!

To tell or NOT to tell is such a person decision.  I have such a dominant personality that if people feel I "cheated" then they haven't said it to my face...oh wait...someone who didn't KNOW I had it said that.  I explained I cheat every day.  I drive to work, I use a microwave, washing machine etc etc that there is NOTHING wrong with using modern technology to HELP me to lose weight.  He didn't say ****

Keep your secret if you feel the need to!!

Hi: The only two people the knew about my surgery were my two daughters, just in case things went wrong.Months after I told other people about the surgery. Now anyone who ask me how I got down my weight I tell them I had VSG surgery. I have my daughter on my eating plan and is down about 19 lbs in about a months time. I don't knew if it's a lie or it's just that we are not ready to spill the beans yet. I am making tee shirts telling everyone about VSG and how it saved my life, thank you Lord and thanks to my doctor and he's team, I'm happy, healthy and slim. SW 260 lbs    CW 169 lbs   91 lbs down in 7 months Happy Camper.