I had my RNY done almost 4 months ago and my wife is up for hers in 2 weeks. For the most part things have been pretty smooth, but at times my wife was frustrated at the fact that I was losing fast and getting all the positive attention, despite the fact I am a notorious slacker and occasionally eat stuff not on the 'official menu'. Now its her turn and as they say, payback is a ... ;) BTW, she too suffers from PCOS and the magic number for her will be about 70 lbs before she becomes as fertile as a rabbit again, and we can add to our thus far very small family. As for the weight loss and PCOS, last time we both lost a significant amount of weight, my wife kicked a$$, so I doubt the condition has anything to do with slower weight loss - It all in how you use the weight loss tool ...

My hubby and I are having ours 4 weeks apart and I am the first also. I will be having mine 7-9-08, next week! YIKES. How are you guys doing and what have been the positives and what has been a challange? Kim

Having WLS in 10 days....Hubby in 24. Any advise about problems we may encounter going through this as a couple? I've heard about the competition thing and that doesn't really worry me. I have PCOS and I know he will lose faster even though I'm going first...he always does and it never bugs me...I just get the sexier spouse faster. LOL But are there any other obstacles I should know to look out for?

I would recommend professional couseling to help YOU deal with these issues.. there is no shame in looking outside for help. We received outside help to deal with out weight.. it's okay to get professional help to help with these feelings. Hugss and best wishes

I have not had surgery yet, but I can't tell you how many times I have heard this sort of problems from people who have lost weight, either from WLS or not. Its hard to explain but, overweight people know who they are, for example my friend was overweight she very quickly lost a bunch of weight, she no longer knows who she is or where she fits in, kind of an identity crisis, when she was fat, she was always "the fat girl in the group" once you get used to that for a long period of time it becomes ingraved in your head. Now she is struggling with her relationship, her job, her life in general. I dont know you, but maybe its something like this that you are experiensing.