Hi there is so much I am going through...I dont even know where to begin. As I sit here and write this I am in tears. I have been married for about 16 years and I recently had the surgery about 6 months ago...and every thing is changing. I knew that there would be changes but this is alot. I thought my marriage was strong enough to survive this but now i just dont know. I guess we have always had some problems in our marriage but I thought I could handle them as they came along and now i just dont know anymore. I feel like I am becoming a different person like sometimes I think I know just who I am and then the next I don't. Then its like oh yeah I remember her and I see myself again but then I just shut the door on her because I am afraid. Afraid of what? I dont know....I want to be me I want to experience life and I want freedom but yet I just cant seem to do it. My husband is never gonna change...he is held up by things he is unwilling to work on and I feel like I cant deal with that anymore but yet its like I keep making excuses to not be happy. I know that I can be a strong person but I cant seem to find her. I had this surgery to come back to me and now I dont know where I am. Please has anyone ever felt this way...I just wanna know what to do. I just wanna be me. I just want to be happy. and the sad part is is that I thought i was until this surgery these changes its just bringing all sorts of things out and now I realize that I have just been putting up with it, pushing things in the corner outta sight outta mind...but now it just all consumes me.

Keep your head up and don't you gain 1 pound back!!!!! I really believe that your divorce has nothing to do with you weight loss. Some things are not meant to be and if weight loss was part of the plan to save your marriage, i can tell at 2 weeks post op that my hubby will not change. That is why i am so glad that i had the surgery for me and not for him or this marriage. Use your tool to get you a new man. LOL Much blessings your way.

My husband is 3 months out from WLS, and I think he now has a skin tear behind his knee. Is this normal? What are the best treatments for it? Any way of preventing (or minimizing) them in the future? Please let me know! Thanks

Len the fact that your wife suggested posting on the board is a good sign. Talking about our fears and problems helps I posted some suggestions that have helped us on the boad good luck taylor

Laurien My wife is at this time jumping through the hoops to have surgery, We look to have surgery this spring. I am the supportive spouse. It has helped me to go to all the meetings with Medical people and to attend the support group meetings as well. We also did three sessions of an hour length with a marrriage counselor. I like to think of it as a we thing. It has helped to talk frankly about our feelings, fears, hopes and dreams. To realise that those feelings of fear especially are real feelings but may not be correct views. I started by ready Weight loss surgery for Dumbies. and have looked for any information to inform myself. At the introduction to WLS meeting I was the one to ask the questions for my own peace of mind. I look at this as a new road and a new adventure for our Family Take Care