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Topic: RE: My fiance is having surgery Tuesday?
Hello!
Congrats to your fiance! MY DP is having her surgery on oct 16th. I am feeling what you felt. I am trying to be supportive, but its hard when Im not feeling what she is feeling. I know it will be good for her, and ultimatly, us. I want to be as supportive as i can be.
Anything you have learned going thru it that you can share?

Topic: Time is approaching
Hello all,
I've been reading message boards for a few days now. New to this so wanted to try to see what goes on here.
My DP is schedualed for GBP on Oct 16th. We are just waiting for BCBS to give us the "green light".
As time gets closer I am trying to read more (im not the worlds best reader of stuff like this) and do some looking into different protien shakes etc for her.
Can anyone give me any insight from the perspective of the spouse of the person having the WLS?
Thanks~

Topic: RE: Has anyone?
OMG.. YES!!! The nurse, that instructs the class prior to my husbands surgery, gave all of the pre-op patients breath mints, as part of their package. The good part, it will get better about 2 1/2 weeks after surgr. it got way better.
willece
on 9/17/07 5:13 am - mackinaw, IL
on 9/17/07 5:13 am - mackinaw, IL
Topic: RE: Hello to all you sup...
Laurien ,
My wife had the surgery 2 years ago. The main thing you need to realize is that changing
your body so drastically will also change how you see things and how you feel inside. It can be a very rough ride for the spouses. If you have any unresolved issues, especially ones you don't discuss with each other...you better talk about them and get them resolved before the surgery.
Topic: Hello to all you sup...
Hello to all you supportive spouses! I'm a future RNY patient (surgery scheduled for Oct. 15th). My husband, too, has been very supportive but doesn't have a lot of time to spend on the internet to research how spouses can help surgery patients. What kind of advice do you have that I can pass on to him? His main concerns are how to be sympathetic, preparing for a new me and how to help me in adjusting to my new lifestyle change. Thanks in advance to any words of wisdom you can pass on!
Topic: RE: Has anyone?
Sorry to say that I had not noticed this in my wife after her WLS. The only thing that I could suggest is that since he is so short out is that he is not eating the things that might have given his breath the aroma that you are so accustomed to.

Topic: RE: WLS Wife Needs Help!!!!
Prayer is the best answer for problems. My wife and I both have moments where we don't speak to each other. Our problem is that both of us are computer techs and after talking on the phone all day it hard to come home and here about somebody elses problem. We both pray for each other and always we find time to do something together and communicate what we need or expect from each other. She is my helpmate and was placed with me by god. No surgery or anyone will take us from what God has placed together. Its good to hear that you have worked things out and are communicating with each other. As long as the two of you are striving to be closer to God then the closer together you will be to each other.
Topic: RE: WLS Wife Needs Help!!!!
I'm hope you don't think I'm rude for being so bold but I'm thinking that if she feels that way now that those feelings were there long before the WLS. She's just got an excuse now to voice those feelings. If I were you and wanted to fix my marriage, I'd seek professional help (therapy).
I'm almost 6 wks out on my WLS and I love my wife and would never do anything to jeapordize our marriage. She's not a WLS candidate but she's not thin either. Her BMI is about 35.
My shrink says we're still on the post-surgery "honeymoon" but that there's probably going to be problems down the road when it's finished. I don't plan to be naive about that. I reassure her that the WLS was about me getting healthier and feeling better about myself. If I'm happier with myself, our relationship can only get better.
--Eric
Topic: Has anyone?
My hubby had surgery about two months ago and I have noticed that is breath has a different smell to it, has anyone else noticed this?
Topic: RE: Spousal weight loss?
I had RNY on 6/18. My husband has lost about 5 lbs. He is showing support for me in many ways including not encouraging eating out as often as we use to and if we do go out he picks a WLS friendly place such as Olive Garden. The best gift you can give your wife is support her on this journey. Make your self part of it; ask questions, do your own research, look for protein drinks and food she will enjoy. If you stay on the sidelines you'll regret it. Find non-food ways to reward her when she does well with the scale and always reassure her. You'll not regret your investment and her love for you will grow as she shrinks. Good luck.