abuddingrose
My Soap Opera
Sep 02, 2009
I feel I should explain why I posted the request for clothing for my son. I will try to be brief as not to bore anyone.I was married for 25+ years to a man that was manipulative to every one in his life. We had two children together and since I never had the opportunity to get to be with my real father growing up I decided that no matter what my children would have two parents together. BIG MISTAKE. I had little self esteem when I married ( pregnant and "had to do the right thing") and he continued to destroy the rest over the next 25 + years along with any I tried to establish in the two kids.
I had no support from family, friends, or social services. I could not go any where or do anything with out my ex-husband finding out where I had been, what I was doing, and who I had spoken to. He, his family and my stepfather were all conected with the law enforcement and clergy in the area and I was watched every minute of every day.
As a father my ex-husband abused the kids mentally, physically and emotionally to the point of having my son at the age of 12 on his knees begging for his musical CD's that he had just bought. His father had a hammer and was threatening to smash them because the boy had made some smart remark to me. At times my ex-husband would get angry over something only he knew about and would grab our son out of a sound sleep and practically throw him down the stairs.
One of the worst things my ex-husband did was dis enroll my
son from high school two yrs in a row just because a grand parent was ill ( old age) and I was in need of a hysterectomy.
Our son tried to going back to school as a Jr. at the age of 19 and of course that didn't work.
every time my son would do something good his father would minimalize it and not be the least bit excited about it.
my ex-husband would run hot and cold with his temperment and
would let the kids have no freedom at all.
My son just got his GED and is still living with my ex.
Like I said my son is the reason I moved to md in the first place. It was not easy trying to raise two kids alone even tho I was married and not being or having good role models for them.
I had planned ot move to md to be with Zell just not when I did. My son got upset about me spending time here and not having wheels to get around and got very upset and threatened to cut the tires on my vehicle. After a huge argument, I left for work and decided over the week end I was not returning to NJ.
It took my son from February until Mothers day that year to call me and just say Mom I love you.
My children and I grew up together since I was only 18 when my oldest was born. We are still very close.
I understand that my son needs to stand on his own, that is one reason why him comming to md is not an option. But he is still my son and me assisting him in any other way is not wrong.
My ex husband reaction to him not qualifying for job assistance was yelling at him and saying it was going to cost him money because I was going to come after everything I could get. Ie its my sons fault again.
Sorry this is so long and boring but I needed to get this out of my system
