Support, really?

Jun 17, 2009

Although I'm in my 40s, I have asked my parents to drive me to my surgery and look after me post-op. I went to their home yesterday to go over any questions they may have, and to have them sign the papers as my support person. What I've realized is that my mom REALLY does not want me to have the surgery. I explained my reasons for having the surgery, and really tried to assuage her fears. However, I'm left feeling very frustrated.

I've been overweight all of my life (actually, I've discovered I've been obese most of my life, not just "heavy"). There are genetic predispositions toward obesity on both sides of the family, but I'm the only one in my immediate family who got lucky. It's frustrating to hear her call herself heavy at 118 lbs., especially given that I need to lose more than that to be healthy. She suggested doing yet another diet; simply stated, if diets worked, I would not be here right now. To be fair, diets have worked short term, but I've always gained it back +20.

This is a drastic operation, and I need something drastic. I'm worried that one of my main supporters really doesn't support this decision. It's disheartening, especially with surgery scheduled in about a week and a half. I'm thankful for this blog so I can vent, and all of the positive energy coming from the forums.

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