someone calledme tiny

Oct 27, 2009

This is a wow moment that I have been waiting for! It is halloween time and I love it! I have always wanted to dress up in something cute and a little sexy, and this is my year! Anyway I was invited to a halloween party last weekend, the theme was superheros...so off to party city I went. I found a couple of cute costumes and I went with supergirl, size=medium! So I went to the party, which was fun but after my brother and I decided to hit the local bars. Now, my brother, being a brother, is very protective. He told me that he thought I was taking my weightloss too far, he told me I was thin enough and to eat a steak! He then pulled a sweatshirt out of his car trunk and made me put it on before we went into the bar (the thing fit me like a nightgown) Anyway, when he left to go pick up his buddy, a couple of girls said they wanted to see the actual costume, so I took the sweatshirt off and they went bonkers over it. And the one girl says to me..."oh that is so cute, I wish I could wear something like that. See you can get away with it because you are so tiny" I nearly died inside. Now at this time, the guys who all know me and my brother, and who all know to stay away from me when I am with my brother, they had started to flock over...this is a subject for another day, but let me just say I have been getting alot of attention lately. Thankfully my brother came back right around this time and the sweatshirt went right back on! The damage had been done though, and we wound up going to another bar! It is the fact that this girl called me tiny that I could not believe. I never thought I would hear that from another human being in my life! I don't see it. I know I am way smaller than I was but I still see myself as being too big. Anyway...that was my moment! This weekend for actual halloween, I am dressing up like a pirate, we'll see how that goes! I will try to put up a pic of the supergirl outfit with this post.

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I can't wait...

Sep 14, 2009

...to wear a belt that fits the way  a belt should fit. (8/28/08) Wore a belt last night, it didn't pop out in the back, it laid flat. And it was comfortable (01/11/09)

...until my shorts do not crawl up my thighs into my crotch! (8/29/08) went the whole summer without the creepy crawly shorts!

...to sit comfortably in an outdoor plastic lawn chair. (8/30/08) not only do I sit comfortably in even the small chairs, I can hug my knees while sitting in it

...to go to an amusement park and ride the rides without worrying about the belt fitting around me or not being able to fit (yes I once was forced to leave a ride because of my size).  (8/31/08) took my neice to a couple parks, and had to pull the slack on the seatbelt to make it tighter!

...to cross my legs (9/01/08) Been crossing 'em for a while now!

...to not hate every thin chick I see, before I've even met her. (9/02/08) Today I saw a cute thin girl and I DIDN'T think "skinny bitch" I DID think "cute top" (11/14/08)

...to ride a horse again. (9/03/08)

...until I buy my new bathing suit next summer (9/04/08) bought a few...cause they are so much cheaper when they are not a "plus size"

...until my jawline and neck are two seperate things, not just a big fatty mass! (9/05/08) yep...I have a neck and a jawline

...to shop in a store that has NO PLUS SIZES (9/06/08) Decided to go to the mall, wanted to see how high the sizes went in NY&Co. I thought probably 16, they had 18. Not 18W, regular 18. I was feeling optimistic and took them into the dressing room, they fit!! I bought 2 pairs. I got to the car and nearly cried tears of joy.  They are still a size 18, but they are size 18 regular and they were bought in a store with NO PLUS SIZES!

...until I don't have to pretend anymore (9/07/08)

...to buy new panties, not bog 'ole underpants! (9/08/08) Bought panties in "regular" size! (3/10/09)

...to go sledding and not worry about going back up the big hill (9/09/08)

...until my back stops hurting so much (9/10/08) I cut my Dad's hair tonight, which usually wrecks my back. I noticed toward the end of the cut that my back didn't hurt at all (01/11/09)

...to wear little skirts and summer dresses (9/11/08) wearing them all of the time now!

...to run (9/12/08) I'm doing it! working on a 5k, will post the date when I accomplish the full 5!!

...until I am not always so uncomfortable (9/13/08)

...to stop wishing and start doing (9/14/08) Ready! (10/29/08)

...to help other people going thru all of this (9/15/08) Doing it (12/10/08)

...to hug my knees (9/16/08) love it!

...to learn how to ice skate (9/17/08)

...to not be afraid to meet new people because I can't imagine that they are not disgusted by me (9/18/08)I am meeting new people all of the time now, and my first thought is not "were they looking at my fat ass?"

...to know what healthy feels like (9/19/08)

...to learn who I am when I stop being the "fat" one (9/20/08)

...to know what good health feels like (9/21/08)

...until my "fantasy jeans" (I've had them for nearly 10 years) are too big, I can not wrap my brain around that idea (9/22/08) yeah those were in the goodwill pile before summer even started!

...until my neice says that I won the bet (that I will be thin next summer, we bet the ride of our choice at six flags!) (9/23/08) she has said it a few times, and to add a little note...she loves to put her little arms all the way around my waist now when she gives me a big hug!

...until I do not feel like my skin is gonna split open from the force of my fat (9/24/08)

...until someone asks me "how much more are you going to loose?" in that "you lost enough" voice (9/25/08)

...to want to look in the mirror (9/26/08) I couldn't get enough of myself today! (01/05/09)

...until my BMI is in the normal range (9/27/08)

...to wake up feeling refreshed and eager to get moving instead of all sore and wanting to lay back down (9/28/08)

...until my mom moves past being worried about my expectations to being proud of my accomplishments (9/29/08) she has... she is so very proud of me

...to wear a pair of heels without my feet getting all numb because I just weigh too much to balanced on high heels (9/30/08) wore 'em last night for hours, I didn't even think of my feet! (01/11/09)

...to take a long, hot, comfortable, bubble bath (10/01/08) I have done this twice now, but I have to say that eben though I got lotsa room, I don't like taking a bath lol

...until my consult with doc c (10/02/08) accomplished 10/16/08!

...to be a positive healthy role model for my neices (10/03/08) they are learning from example how important it is to be active, eat good foods, and drink plenty of water

...to go to the outlet mall!!! (10/04/08) i am addicted, and I shop in EVERY store... GUESS, BEBE, ANN TAYLOR, BANANA REPUBLIC... it is totally awesome, it feels as great as I thought it would!

...until I don't feel guilty every time I eat something (10/05/08)

...until my pants and socks don't leave those dents on my skin (10/06/08)

...to find my sense of style based on what I like instead of what wil fit without making me look like an overstuffed sausage link (10/08/08) problem is....I seem to like just about everything!

*Just a note, posting to this everyday is now excessive, so I'm gonna post when I think of something and not think of something everyday.

...until my jewlery is loose (10/17/08) I got a new ring for Christmas in my "normal" size, too big! (1/2/09)

...to get approval from Univera (10/23/08) Got it! (10/25/08)

...to lose 50 pounds, this is not my goal, but I usually hit a wall around 35 or 40 pounds lost so loosing 50 will be my first weight loss goal. (10/24/08) Did it! I don't remeber the date, it's posted around here somewhere, but I did it!

...until the surgery is over and I am home (11/10/08) They sent me home, surgery is over and I am ready! (11/20/08)

...to lose 100 pounds (3/20/09) I am now working toward 150 pounds!

...to run a 5k charity race (3/20/09)




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Still here...

Jun 19, 2009

Yeah I have been MIA for a while. The truth is that I avoid things like the computer and TV now. I have made it a point to stop doing alot of the things that were such a major part of my life before this surgery. When I get up and start my day now I can not wait to get dressed and get out of the house. I start the day at the gym and find anything to do after that which involves being around other people and moving around. I love it. I am 5 pounds away from losing 100 pounds...I can't wait for that! I am not sure yet what I am going to do to celebrate that, but I will do something! I am really working on looking at myself in the mirror at home to try and reconnect with the way I look now. I still feel really big and there are alot of times when I look in the mirror and my reflection is that pre-op person telling me that this is just another dream. I am doing some self-confidence building exercises and that helps. When I am feeling particularly crappy I like to go to the mall and try on clothes. I recently shopped at a store that does not carry anything larger than a large, I tried on 2 tops, they fit, I cried. They were on sale, so I bought them! But for the most part I just really enjoy going into all of those stores that I would never have walked into before and just trying the clothes on. I keep waiting for some serious heat so I can take my new suits for a swim, but as is usually the case in sunny LA (Lackawanna that is!) The weather is unpredictable...so much so that even the stupid weather people have no idea if it's gonna rain or not! But it's coming, right? (please say yes). ANYWAY...
I hope that anyone who reads this is doing great.
I will get some updated pics up soon...promise!
 Talk to you soon!
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I'm a Loser, Baby!

Feb 21, 2009

Day of Surgery: 11/18/2008

11/23/08: down 9 pounds

Total loss since surgery: 9 pounds

11/30/08: down 7 pounds
Total lost since surgery: 16 pounds

12/07/08: down 5 pounds
Total loss since surgery: 21 pounds

12/13/08: down 4 pounds
Total loss since surgery: 25 pounds

12/18/08 One Month Surgiversary, 27.4 total pounds lost

12/21/08: down 4 pounds
Total loss since surgery: 29 pounds

12/28/08: down 1 pound pms maybe?
Total loss since surgery: 30 pounds... expected more but will do.

01/04/09: down 4 pounds (it was pms)
Total loss since surgery: 34 pounds

01/11/09: down 6 pounds
Total loss since surgery: 40 pounds

01/18/09: no loss  very upsetting

01/18/09 Two month surgiversary, 40 total pounds lost

01/25/09: down 3 pounds
Total loss since surgery: 43 pounds

02/01/09: down 4 pounds
Total loss since surgery: 47 pounds
GO STEELERS!! 

02/08/09: Down 3 pounds
Total loss since surgery: 50 pounds
I am starting to smell spring in the air!


02/15/09: Down 1 pound...I hate one pound weeks, but a loss is a loss, I'll take it!
Total loss since surgery: 51 pounds

2/22/09: Down  5 pounds
Total loss since surgery: 56 pounds 

WOW! I haven't updated in a while! So here it goes:

3/15/09: down 3 pounds
Toal loss since surgery: 66 pounds

3/22/09: down 3 pounds
Total loss since surgery: 69 pounds

3/29/09: down 6 pounds
Total loss since surgery: 75 pounds





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A wow moment

Feb 16, 2009

I was kind of bummed about having a loss of only one pound this week. I know that it is a loss and every week can not be a big loss, but it can be discouraging and you start to doubt yourself. I find myself wondering for the rest of the week "what did I do wrong?" "what should I be doing different?" "am I eating too much? not enough?" And these moments of self doubt can be so defeating because you find yourself slipping into your "old" way of thinking. The feelings of being a failure and not being able to do anything right, and you start to really doubt if even this major surgery will help you find your way to success. Why do I do that? Why is it that when it comes to supporting others I am able to offer encouragement, yet when it comes to myself I am so cruel? If anyone else said to me "I only lost one pound this week" I would remind them how hard they have worked to get to this point, that the one  pound brought them to an all time high of 51 pounds lost, that they look wonderful and that their body must be really starting to respond to this weight loss. In every other aspect of my life I am a glass half full kind of girl, but when it comes to my weight...well that is a whole other story! tsk. tsk.
So I log on and update my ticker (which shows my weight loss from my highest point) then I come over here to OH to update my blog and my weight tracker (which shows my weight loss from morning of surgery). On the tracker page I like to check out how far my BMI goes down as well as how much weight I have left to lose. Now here comes the wow moment...
First thing I notice when I make my one pound change: I now have 99 pounds left to lose. Which is one pound less than one hundred pounds left to lose! Somehow it seems to be such a huge difference to me. Keeping this in mind I go check out my BMI, which is now placing me in the "obese" category. Nothing to celebrate, but when I started this journey I was extremely obese, well I was extremely alot of things. So there you have it. Let it be known that today I am giving myself permission to say "good job Mary, you have worked hard and made significant changes in your life and now you are starting to see the results of that. Keep it up, you are doing great!"

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What a great day!

Jan 11, 2009

I lost six pounds this week. That is great! I am 10 pounds away from my first goal of loosing 50 pounds. I am now at the point where I would stop losing every other time I tried to lose weight. So the next few weeks will be very exciting for me.  I was also able to mark off several items on my "I can't wait" list.
I went out last night to celebrate a friends birthday. I wore a size smaller pants, a belt, and high heeled boots. I got alot of compliments, I felt wonderful. My belt fit the way a belt is supposed to, it laid flat on my waist and didn't fold up or roll up. My feet didn't hurt at all, and my jeans were a size 18. I didn't fell like people were looking at me and making jokes about me. I felt comfortable, like I belonged. I had so much fun, I was happy.
That was two of my listed items (the belt and the shoes) The third item on my list was my back pain. Now I still get a little stiff, especially in the morning. But tonight I had to cut my Dad's hair. Normally I hate to cut hair (yes, I went to cosmotology school, but hated working in a salon) anyway, normally I hate to do hair because my back hurts so bad when I do it. But tonight I was cutting and as I got to the end of the cut and started to trim I realized that my back did not hurt! It was a good thing. 
Tomorrow I am going to the gym to talk about setting up a plan.
I am on my way to the real me! 
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Man, am I glad that's over

Jan 05, 2009

Ugh! Christmas time can be so crazy! Normally I enjoy the rush rush atmosphere during the holidays but this year was tuff! Mostly because of my surgery. First I lost valuable time, I was unable to get moving as early as I usually do because I was recouping. Add to that, my energy level (or lack there of) and oy vey...It was challenging! But I would not change a thing. Right now I am happier than I have been in a very long time and I feel great. My energy level is improving, I can't wait to get up and get out of the house. I hardly ever watch tv now, I just want to move and be out and about. Before the surgery the idea of going out in public to me was awful. I could not imagine that everywhere I went, people were not looking at me in disgust. Now I know that was not true, but I have somehow been able to get past that. My weight loss is not significant yet by any means, but I feel significantly different. I am knocking on size 18 jeans, all of my 22s are already in the goodwill pile, and the 20s are mostly too big. YAY! I am wearing xl tops and jammies, or 1x for some, but no more 2x or 3x! again...YAY!
Sometimes I forget and I will be in the store or something and I will think of my weight and have that rush of shame, then I remeber...I don't have to do that anymore. I go to the doc's office tomorrow, I will be getting the script for my bloodwork and hopefully they will tell me I am good to go to the gym. It'sgotta be time by now! I can't wait to pump some iron  lolol!
Really though, I can't wait to get to some intense working out, speed up my weightloss a bit and start some body sculpting. I bought new sneakers and everything. Oh yeah, I think I may have found my transfer addiction: shopping. But I am going to really try to transfer again into exercise, because I already got more that I need! 

I  LIFE
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I feel GREAT

Dec 09, 2008

Honestly, it has only been three weeks and today I feel great. I am starting to get a better understanding of when I am hungry. I definitely know when I am full. I am almost down to my lowest weight in the past few years. I have always been able to drop the first 30 or so pounds relatively quickly then... stop.... nothing. In about 20 more pounds I will be at my last lowest weight, and I have not been below that weight since maybe early high school. So I am psyched for that! Little goals lead to the big goals, right?
Lately I am happy to go out and be in the public and do things. Not only do I enjoy going, but I don't spend the entire time thinking that people are looking at me, judging me, and totally grossed out by me. I find that I am more focused on what I am doing and need to do next. I am rarely thinking of myself. Don't get me wrong, I still look at my reflection whenever it appears, and judge the way I look, but I am not hating what I see. I don't particularly like what I see, but what's really important is that I do not hate what I see. And my clothes are fitting better. My jeans are too big. My self confidence is on the rise! Rather I should say, now making an appearance: my self confidence! I just know that this is the beginning of a new life for me. I am so happy.


 yay life!

I'm hungry!

Dec 06, 2008

...And I am afraid to eat. I am so afraid that I am going to screw this up that I am afraid to eat. Now, I do eat. And logically I know that there is no way that I am not going to lose weight. But still I am pretty sure that I am not eating enough, yet I do not trust my stomach when it is telling me to eat. I had real food today for the first time. My dad's super delicious pulled pork, 2 noodles from my grandma's famous lazy man pierogi, and 2 bites of a red potato. I couldn't finish everything, but it was sooo good. The desserts looked awesome, but I didn't even have a taste, I had a cup of hot tea instead. Then when I got home (about 3-4 hours later) I had a little cottage cheese to get in some more protein, but now my stomach is saying that it is hungry and I simply do not believe it. After all it has lied to me so much in the past, it is hard for me to listen anymore. So I am sitting here wondering should I eat something? Should I just go to bed? I don't know what to do!

found in a post

Nov 30, 2008

LOW FAT/HI PRO/SUPER LOW CARB CHICKEN AND BLEU CHEESE SPREAD

1 Lg can chicken (12.5 oz)
2 oz 0% fat greek yogurt
2 oz non fat cream cheese
4 tbsp Frank's Red Hot sauce
3 tbsp crumbled bleu cheese
a few shakes onion powder

Moosh it all together in a pot, stir until warmed through and melty. Great with crackers or on flatbread for pizza, or just by the forkful-- especially good topped with melted cheese!

As above, per serving (makes 3 servings of about 1/2 cup each)--- terrific numbers!!!


164 calories
4.6 g fat
1 g carbs
24.3 g protein
Mint Hot Chocolate

1 tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder
3-4 packets Splenda (depending on your preference)
8 oz. milk
4 oz. boiling water
1-2 drops mint extract

1.  Put cocoa powder in a 12 oz. coffee mug and mix with Splenda until well blended
2.  Boil water and milk simultaneously.  Milk will take a bit longer.  Boil milk until it is a bit frothy
3.  Mix boiling water with cocoa and stir until cocoa is mostly dissolved, add mint extract (caution: a little goes a LOOOOONG way)
4.  Add milk and stir well
5.  Top with lite whipped cream and a SF mint candy and you have a creamy, tasty, AND pretty drink

Basic pancake starter:

1/4 cup egg beaters
1/4 cup fat free cottage cheese
2 tbsp wheat flour
dash cinnamon
pkt of Splenda

Mix 'em all together and pour into 3-4 small pancakes in a pan sprayed with cooking spray. Use 0 cal Walden Pancake Syrup-- and nutrition is as follows for the whole shebang:

Cals 121
Fat  .3g
Carbs  15.4 g
Protein 14.1 g



Coconut Macaroons

1.5 cups unsweetened shredded coconut
2 egg whites, stiffly beaten
3/4 c. Splenda granular
1/2 tsp vanilla extract
1/4 tsp salt
2 squares dark chocolate (I used Ghiradelli 60% cocoa), either melted (if you like the whole cookie to be chocolate) or chopped (the way I prefer...more like chocolate chip)

Directions:

Combine Splenda and Salt
Fold in egg whites and mix well
Add vanilla and coconut and toss until well coated
add in "chocolate chips" or melted chocolate
form balls (will be loose) and bake in a 350 oven for 10 minutes

The whole recipe (yields a dozen):

370 cals
60g carbs
2g fiber
8g sugar
17g protein

I ate two which came up to 53 calories, 10g carbs, 1g sugar, 3g of protein.


TASTY CHEATER MOZZ STICKS!

3 light mozzarella sticks (I used Trader Joe's-- try freezing them first!)

1/4 cup crushed fiber twig cereal (I used Wegmans, but Fiber One's good)

1/8 cup egg beaters (pour a bit more, but this is what'll stick)

1/3 cup pizza sauce (I used Ragu pizza quick)

italian spices-- garlic powder,oregano, etc.

1) Preheat oven to 375 degrees

2) Cut mozz sticks in half

3) Put fiber cereal and spices in bullet and blend until fine

4) Dip cheese pieces in eggs, then cereal mix... do this twice to cover the sticks

5) Spray cookie sheet with PAM. Put on cookie sheet and spray tops lightly

6) Pop pizza sauce in microwave and heat 1 minute

7) Put sticks in oven-- watch 'em, and remove when they start to ooze-- 5-10 minutes.

Seriously, as delicious as the real deal...but hey-- check the figures!

YIELD 6 PIECES! (Includes pizza sauce!)

Cals: 240

Fat: 8g

Carbs: 17.7

Fiber: 8

Protein: 23.2





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About Me
Buffalo, NY
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RNY
Surgery
11/18/2008
Surgery Date
Aug 13, 2008
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