Question:
Just curious how others feel about their weight current or goal?
right now I feel very satisfied with my loss and yet still have about 22 pnds to go till i get to my personal goal (i dont go by the chart as i feel its unrealistic, at least for me), anyways has anyone ever gotten to the point where you just decided that even though you didnt reach goal you were happy where you were? I am 5'2 and at 162 i get so many compliments i feel my head is about to sweal and explode :-P ... that there is times that I want to get to my personal goal of 140 and there are times when i say to myself what is wrong with how i am now? I am happy, I am healthy and I am satisfied? Help me with this please... hugs to you all ... thanx for being such a great support system for me.... — Deanna Wise (posted on November 2, 2002)
November 2, 2002
Hi Deanna! At 5'7", I originally set my goal at 145. But at five
months out, I'm at 183 and feel pretty good. I'd like to lose more, but I
can't imagine losing 38 more pounds (at this point, it feels like it'd be
too much). I think if you've landed in a place that feels good, and you
have no health problems that warrant pushing it further, there's no reason
to go for an artificial goal (or a particular dress size). Just my 2c!
— Suzy C.
November 2, 2002
I'm 5'4" and started out at 263 pounds. I am down to 161 and feel and
look great. I am wearing a loose size 12, down from a 22-24. I have 18
pounds to go to reach MY personal goal, but to tell you the truth, if I
don't lose another pound I will still be happy. It took a while for me to
feel good physically, but that, for the most part, is behind me now. I
still have my days when I don't feel 100% but they are getting few and far
between. I am losing very slowly now, a couple pounds a month, but still
losing. I hope to reach my goal by the time I am a year post op which will
be Jan. 9th. I am very happy with my weightloss so far.
— Kim B.
November 2, 2002
Body image is such a personal thing. I know my perspective on my size has
changed post-op. Pre-op, when I was in the low 200's I was perfectly
content with being large. I honestly was. I thought I looked good, dressed
nice and I felt pretty good physically....then I started to get into the
high 200's. I'm 5'2 also...I felt I no longer looked good, cloths looked
like crap on me, and I felt like a bus ran me over most days. That is why I
had wls. The weight was spiralling out of control and I needed a grip
(highest weight was 282). Now I have a grip on my weight, I'm 145 lbs, and
I've reached and passed my first goal. I re-established it at 135 awhile
ago, and now I'm having a cow that I will never reach 125 (newest goal). My
husband asked me if I will ever be happy with my weight (he thinks I should
be at goal now). I don't know if I will be. I know that I'm allowed to be
happy, but it's like I'm holding my breath for someday being better. Be
happy, re-establish your goal at the weight you now feel so good at. I have
been thinking about your question and I'm going to do a lot of soul
searching to figure out why I can't feel that way too...Good question,
thanks! -Kim open RNY 7/17/01 -147
— KimBo36
November 2, 2002
I am 5'2" - In my 20's I looked good at 115. In my 30's 125. In my
40's could hold 156 and looked and felt good. (All this time gaining and
losing, of course). Now - after wls a yr ago - my goal is presently 175.
But I am 67 yrs old and get more wrinkles the more I lose. Now I am 189 -
and could stay there and still be ok. (296lbs at wls time). As my surgeon
says "Listen to your body". (I say look in the mirror also)
— charlene M.
November 2, 2002
My original goal was 160. I lowered it to 145-149. I have been maintaining
at 145 for months. I look at my clothes and they look so small to me, yet I
look in the mirror (naked) and feel like a fat cow with elephant wrinkles.
But, I got my health back. My health was my main objective in having wls. I
truly believe that I would be dead by now. I was so sick, for so long. All
of the comorbidity issues, each and every one of them, have been resolved!
— Barbara B.
November 2, 2002
I am so thankful every day with how good I feel. Initially my goal was 142
for 5'6"(by the AMOS chart). My surgeons goal was 160. I am now at
150 and feel good right here. If I lose more, fine. If not, thats fine
too. I have my health and just waking up feeling refreshed is such a
feeling of freedom. Walking around without it being such a chore is such
freedom. I could go on and on. We should all be thankful with our
accomplishments and what we have gone through for being healthy. I will be
1 year post-op in 7 more days and I will be celebrating!!
— Cheri M.
November 2, 2002
I am only 6 weeks post-op, but down 56 pounds! I am "planning" on
160/165 pounds though most charts say I should be around 140/130 (at 5'5).
I feel no need to be real small. When I get to 165, I will decide if I want
to continue a little more. Ya never know! I have noticed as I was looking
through before and after photos here on AMOS, that MANY women state they
weigh an amount, yet they look 40 pounds lighter! It has to do with the
fact that we carry our weight differently after being so heavy for so long
so alot of times we actually look less than we are! Cool, huh? YOU decide
where you wanna be. All that matters is that you are happy with YOU! Good
luck!
— karmiausnic
November 2, 2002
Hi Deanna! Haven't spoken to you in a while. Another thing to consider,
according to what I've read, is that we post ops often look much lighter
than what the scale reads. Because we've been obese for so long, our bones
have increased density in order to support our weight. So, I think it's
normal to revise your goal weight as you get closer to it. A weight chart
made for the masses might not be the best goal weight for YOU and if you're
happy at the weight you're at now, isn't that what it's all about?
Sandy
— sandsonik
November 3, 2002
hey surgery twin!u know my history so i wont repeat it. i am stuck at 164
lbs but WHO CARES??!! lol. its a whole lot better than the weight u & i
started at, isnt it? the bottom line is all the points u made...happy,
healthy etc. i happen to think u look fabulous just the way u r. i know if
i never lose another pound that will be just fine with me.
— sheryl titone
November 3, 2002
I am almost 11 months out, I have lost 115 pounds, and now weigh 168
pounds. I have surpassed the 70% excess weight loss goal my doc gave me (I
am at 77% lost) and my ultimate goal would be to lose 85% of my excess
weight. That would put me in the mid 150's as a maintenance weight. That
is ideal. If it happens. IF it does not, I could care less!!! I am off all
meds, I am feeling great, i lok god (with clothes on) and I am working on
insurnce approval for a TT And breast reduction. Good Luck to you. What
made me feel better was to go to that site where it tells you your
increased chance of dying becasue of your excess weight. When i started, I
had a 95% increased risk of death due to my weight, now it is like 20% or
something like that. So, I feel that i have really met my personal goals.
Good Luck to you!@
— Vicki L.
November 3, 2002
I was 280 before surgery. Lost 100 lbs by my 1 yr anniversary. Was 180
lbs and looked great. I am 5'8" and was a perfect size 14. Mentally
180 was too close to 200 but people kept saying don't loose any more. The
begining of my 3rd yr, I lost an additional 10 lbs down to 170. Charts say
I should be 145-155. I would be skin and bones at that weight. I have
continued to loose body fat this year even though my weight has stayed at
170 since March. My chest, shoulders and face are much thinner. I am
thrilled with my body (even without the clothes). Have been blessed that I
could very happily live without any plastic surgery. I was a very solid
weight person as opposed to very loose flabby on abdomen/hip/thigh fat. So
yes, you can weight more, look less and be absolutely happy whereever you
stop even if it is over 'the charts' or not at your goal.
— Elizabeth K.
November 3, 2002
I applaud you on being able to be happy with yourself at any weight. I've
lost 122 lbs now and I'm still not happy. I bought a pair of size 4 jeans
yesterday and still see a fat girl in the mirror. I'm envious of you being
so sure with yourself. If you're happy with what you have, don't push
yourself. Life is too short - just be happy.
— Goldilauxx B.
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