I just need to put this out there...(long rant.. feel free to ignore.)
Those doctors saved my life. My parents agreeing to let ME make the decision to have surgery, saved my life. And people say my parents are bad parents, and my doctors are ignorant, for allowing me. It was my decision. If people are going to attack anyone, it should be me. But even then.. it gets tiring firing back at these people.. I feel like if I don't respond, then they win. It shouldnt be a win/lose situation.. because different things work for different people... But.. I don't know.
The only thing getting me through this right now is realizing.. If these adults are attacking me, they must be extremely arrogant.. And quite frankly, stupid. AND very insecure.. to be attcking a 16 year old who is just putting out there information, i'm not trying to sell surgery or say its the best.. I'm saying it's an option. And If you've tried every other option, teenagers should be allowed to have this option if the cir****tances are right.. Having most of your stomach removed isn't something anyone should take lightly. I certainly didnt. and if not being gluten free or vegetarian like peopel are suggesting were the only reason i was obese.. I wuoldn't have had surgery. It's not that simple.
Stupid people really get on my nerves... I get it everywhere.. I have peopel constantly questioning me and trying to make me feel stupid, even though I know i'm not.. Online and in person. and It's getting really old very quickly.. And I'm going to have to deal with this for a long time...Bleh. I know everyone that has WLS or anything even slightly questionable by anyone, they get **** I'm just getting **** not only towards me, but my family and doctors.. and the numerous friends I've made that also had/are having the same surgery.. Anyone I've helped, and anyone that has helped me. It's wearing me down. Ugh... It's been a long day... I need to find a better way to deal with everyones crap...
"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle."
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Hey Ashley....
I read your posts.....and frankly......I am always impressed and really can't believe those words are coming from a 15/16yo. I think I was still kicking rocks when I was your age.....
You just keep doing you......don't let those people effect you. Shut them up with results and better health.
frisco
SW 338lbs. GW 175lbs. Goal in 11 months. CW 148lbs. WL 190lbs.
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Just a quick note to tell you, welcome to life. From here on out, you'll be living in the a world where some people never left high school (emotionally). Stupid people are everywhere and they don't go away or grow up as you get older. It's the way you handle them is what sets you apart. My friends and I laugh that instead of being lactose intolerant, we're idiot intolerant.
At some point you're going to either ignore the nay sayers, or become a leading expert on teen WLS. Personally, I'm hoping for the latter. You are a smart girl with a bright future don't let the losers get in your head or bring your emotionals state down. Consider the source.
You are a strong girl and I am so proud of you. Continue to be strong and inspire others. I wish I was able to tackle my weight loss years ago. I can't tell you how many miserable years I wasted walking aroung obese. As far as the negative people just let it go in one ear and out the other. You did what is best for you and what they think doesnt really matter.
Take care - Shayne
I know people worry that a 15 or 16 year-old might not be mature enough to take proper care to be sure their WLS is successful. That's a fair concern but only the teen, parents and doctor can really know, not strangers looking in from the inside.
I think folks also have the "easy way out" mentality - like maybe you should have "tried harder" for a while (I hate that idea - like we're lazy slobs who just won't "try"). It sounds good, but the science says that WLS was your best shot. The right age for it was a private decision for your family and your doctors.
Your best answer is to smile, move on and let your success prove them wrong.
Highest weight: 335 lbs, BMI 50.9
Pre-op weight: 319 lbs, BMI 48.5
Current range: 140-144, BMI 21.3 - 22
175+ lbs lost, maintaining since February 2012
One way to deflect the negativity, however, is to be very unemotional and calculated when responding particularly to the adults. I haven't read your blog, and you may well be doing this already, but I'll put it out there anyway :) People sitting behind the safety of their keyboards can be pretty 'brave' (much like drunks are brave), and a lot of the 'hating' that goes on is projection. People hate themselves and project their own issues an insecurities onto others to prove they are 'not alone.' Nothing shuts it down faster than failing to rise to the bait.
Science and logic are on your side. Don't be afraid to use that to your advantage. For example, per the National Institutes of Health (NIH), only 5% of people who are Morbidly Obese (MO) can lose and maintain weightloss into the 'normal' BMI range long-term. Even if you 'lost it on your own,' statistically you are more likely to put it back on plus some than keep it off. Rather than spending the next 10 years yo-yo dieting and doing irreperable damage to your body, self-esteem, etc., , you're intervening at a point where you can make a difference in the entire trajectory of your life.
Kudo's to you, and best of luck on your contining journey.