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What works good for me is books and self analysis. It's a dangerous area if you tend to self delude, which I used to. Tennie McCarty has an excellent book I am reading. Geneen Roth, a few others. Bible time/prayer/devotions work too for me.

Thank you everyone for your words. I wi**** was pain, I just cant deal with the foamies and wretching/ vomiting. I was in the hospital 5 days post op then another 5 days for dehydration. I cant eat or drink, I think I may end up back in hospital if this doesnt get better.

 oh ok...thanks ,-)

so rushing thru your meals! .......yeah a major disordered eating behavior with me PRE and POST op as well.   Its so common in overeaters...it takes a while for our brains to get the message...ya've overdone it....SO definately slow your eating down chewing to liquification 20 times per bite...count! .HELPs slow it down...and wait for it.....so your brain gets the message your done! ..Do an OH search lots of techniques to help master it! 

Changing our behaviors is the solution!

I'd suggest you WRITE all your eating disordered BEHAVIORS down somewhere in your journal perhaps......that led to your obesity...because if YOU don't tackle em NOW during the rapid fat loss phase....while ya got yer training wheels on...they may come back n bite yer butt....thru-out your journey 

Every single disordered eating behavior I had pre-op...I had em post op too!...only caged by restriction!  Me...I suffer from SORES! yup  ...SORES!! I made an acronym of my eating behaviors ...to remind myself EVERYDAY....  its amazing how much I have em under control...since I recognized em! Here's my sores breakdown..

S top
O vereating to discomfort...  so what its a bite or two more ...its still overeating!
R ushing thru meals..not chewing to liquification
E ating while distracted...tv puter reading talking ...not paying attention to my satiety
S kipping meals...overeating next meal,  a culprit in weight regain...cuz our insulin gets so outta      whack

It helps me anyway!  Having a PLAN and strategies in place to conquer my eating behaviors help me too!  i.e. When on the road...I have snacks beef jerky,/protein bars/roasted edamame/sf gum in the trunk of my car. At home I have my go-to foods...if Im horribly hungry..instead of eating my DHs 
cheesecake pastries starin at me...I'll eat a few chicken strips/greek or carbmasters yogurt w/ a scoop of protein powder...and it quiets the beast...because they're safe foods for me....and I can then control that beast called hunger...instead of it controlling me! 

If ya have a counselor, therapist great too! On that stalls n plateaus blog...some links on emotional eatin too may help! 

Im sorry Sara....we all make so many many easily correctable mistakes, as you have found and you do seem to grasp the concept...that this is a whole new RElearning process.....I don't want ya to feel like Im puttin ya down for making your mistakes either ok!...read as much as ya can....tools are everywhere...which one you pick up n use, that WORKS effectively for YOU... is ultimately UP TO YOU! ..............CUZ BABY YOU WERE BORN THIS WAY!!.... get on the right track...and rock that sleeve!!         http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wV1FrqwZyKw&ob=av2e  

Apologies in advance to the longish rant:

I am so tired of the all the hoop-jumping.

I initially saw my surgeon at the beginning of February after attending an information session in January. I started all the pre-op appointments almost immediately. It took a while to get them all finished, but I am done. I lost the required 20 pounds (and then some), I had my head shrunk, I slept with wires on my head, I had a camera shoved down my throat, etc. The problem is that my nutrition doctor aka captain of the douche titanic who cleared me at the beginning of April hasn't sent over his notes. I have called and stopped by in person, my surgeon has called, and the nutrition guy still hasn't done it. Nothing can be submitted for insurance until my surgeon's office gets them, so basically I have to wait until he finally gets around to it. They can't put me on the schedule until I have insurance approval.

I'm getting married in September and I want to be well past the initial few weeks after surgery so I can actually enjoy my wedding and not feel like a zombie (It's a very DIY-style affair and we're doing a lot on our own to make it happen) or still have unhealed incisions under my white dress. Since I had been on track to have the surgery in May or June, I am most likely going to have to postpone surgery until October because having it in July is just cutting it way too close for my comfort. (what if I have complications?).

I'm just so completely frustrated. I am so jealous of all of you that have your dates and have gone on to actually having the surgery. The support group meeting that attended had several people in it that were in my information session and they were all scheduled for May. I've managed to maintain my initial loss, but I've been comfort eating all the anger/disappointment and it shows. I'm too embarrassed to log into myfitnesspal and track everything because it's been terrible. I just stopped caring.

I know my time will come eventually and it will be worth it, but I am so tired of feeling like everything is on hold, not to mention the fact that I feel like an idiot at work because I had given people a heads up that I will be out for a couple of weeks sometime this spring/summer, but I still can't tell them if/when.

Thanks for reading.

Personally I wouldn't wait a month.  Is the ER an option for you?

Yup! 30 pounds is a good job :)  Congrats!

That's what I do in the mornings. I do 1 scoop chocolate protein powder, 1 scoop of click, 1 cup of almond milk, and some SF salted caramel syrup. For some reason I don't like the taste of the chocolate isopure powder, so I doctor it up. Now I love it! But I don't know if I can do that in the afternoon too?!? I know I will probably like the caffeine boost! Lol! 

I am not adding anything to my water. I am just downing it and hating it. I have been drinking it room tempurature and I noticed that helps a LOT! But I really don't want to drink it. Weird, I have never had that problem before. So it's forced. Have you tried Vitamin Water Zero? I was drinking that before but got burnt out on it.

Just wanted to get a feel on amount of food you are able to eat in one sitting. Now that I am pretty much at goal I have begun to introduce some regular foods back into my diet. At first I introduced fruits and now I am introducing green stuff like salads. I am doing this very cautiously and still avoid all white carbs like the plague.

I will on occasion eat out. I do allow myself things like pizza and burgers. I am just curious about the amount of food I am able to eat. I can eat a whole banana and some yogurt no problem. I am able to eat 2 pieces of pizza in one sitting. I was able to eat most of a big salad with chicken in it. I am also able to eat a big burger bun and all with all the fixings. Do any of you have this kind of room in your sleeve. I am tall so I guess I have a long sleeve.

For me personally this is not a bad thing. I am glad I am able to enjoy a normal sized meal. I am into bodybuilding now so it is important I am able to get lots of good solid protein in. Besides, I was a volume eater and it was not a couple of slices of pizza that got me obese. 

Again I am very active at the gym and still watch the carbs and watch the scale every few days to make sure I am maintaining. I have pretty much reached goal and all I have left is some fat on my stomach but It is mostly excess skin. I think my original goal of 190 is too thin for me especially now that I am into bodybuilding.

So how much can you vets eat? Am I some bizarre exception? Thanks for the input guys.

Wow! Amazing! SO glad for you!!

I have always seen a difference when I eat less sugar and drink more water, on other diets, I have the same result. So glad you are seeing such positive changes!! Good for you!