One year post-op - Feeling pride and shame all at once (pics)
May 31st was my one year surgiversary. I didn't post about it because I felt so ashamed that I am not being as successful as I hoped I would be with this surery. In my mind, I would be at goal, or at least in the century club by this point. But as we all know, the surgery was on our stomachs, not our heads. And therein lies my problem.
I have discovered over this past year that this surgery was no miracle cure. It is working for me just like every other diet I have ever attempted has. They have always had a 6 month expiration date. I can't seem to "stick with it" beyond that point and slip back into old habits. I know what to do. I know what not to do. I just can't seem to get myself to obey the rules. RNY is no miracle cure. I have to do the work. And I am fighting to overcome my own food demons. I have good days and bad days.
My highest weight was 268 pounds. I was 254 on the day of surgery on May 31, 2011. By the end of November, I was down to 180 pounds. I had lost 88 pounds in 6 months. I was overjoyed.
But then I lost nothing in December or January. A plateau I thought, ignoring the fact that I let a lot of no-no foods and mindless eating slip back into my diet. I wasn't eating large quantities, so what's the problem? I decided that I needed to exercise to break the stall. Jolt my body into burning fat again.
So I started running with the C25K program in February and ran my first 5K on April 21st. It felt AWESOME! But the scale still has not moved. My clothing size has not changed. Am I done losing weight at 40 pounds from my goal, I thought? No. I just need to get my eating back under control.
An example of my food crimes: Last night I ate a whole "king size" portion of Twizzlers with a 16oz glass of 2% milk before going to bed. WTH? And I paid the price in stomach pain and wishing I could make myself throw it back up.
So when my surgiversary hit last Thursday, I was ashamed and disappointed in myself. I have not lost a single pound in 6 months. I am failing, I thought. Then something happened on Saturday and I thought to myself, "I am not failing! I am 88 pounds lighter than I was one year ago and I am healthy! And I am a runner, dammit!" So what changed my mind?
I ran another 5K. And my children (4 and 2) and husband were at the finish line cheering me on. My 4 year old daughter ran up to me when I crossed the finish line and gave me a big hug and said, "Mommy, I am so proud of you!". And that right there was it. One year ago when my surgeon had me write down the reasons I wanted to have RNY surgery, number one on my list was to be healthy and set a good example for my children. And I believe I have achieved that. :)
Hamming it up for the race photog:
Taken one year before, on the day I came home from the hospotal:
If you're having difficulty with the food demons (and God knows I can empathize!), maybe consider seeing a therapist who specializes in food issues? Or at least make sure you're going to support group(s) regularly. Connecting with others isn't gonna change what you put in your mouth, but the act of investing in yourself can help you reframe & think twice about if the choices you make are doing yourself justice.
First ultra: Stone Mill 50 miler 11/15/14 13:44:38, First Full Marathon: Marine Corps 10/27/13 4:57:11, Half Marathon PR 2:04:43 at Shamrock VA Beach Half-Marathon, 12/2/12 First Half-Marathon 2:32:47, 5K PR Run Under the Lights 5K 27:23 on 11/23/13, 10K PR 52:53 Pike's Peek 10K 4/21/13, (1st timed run) Accumen 8K 51:09 10/14/12.
Unfortunately I cannot find a support around here that fits in my schedule which has been tough. And I'm not convinced that a therapist can help unless he/she is at my side 24/7 slapping the food out of my hands. ;) I don't eat for any emotional reasons. It's all about the taste of food for me. If something tastes good to me, I will continue to eat it to the point of stomach pain, ignoring fullness cues. Maybe a hypnotist can help? If that stuff really works anyway.....
On the topic of envy - please don't. I haven't run a 5K. There's a saying I like alot: "Comparison is the theif of joy". I completely understand that we're our own worst critics and have amazing powers to minimize our own efforts/accomplishments but can say great & supportive things to others. Hell, I institutionalized that ability into a career! But never forget, that every word you say cutting yourself down falls on those little ears - - you owe it to yourself & your kids to show the world some kick-ass self-esteem!!!
First ultra: Stone Mill 50 miler 11/15/14 13:44:38, First Full Marathon: Marine Corps 10/27/13 4:57:11, Half Marathon PR 2:04:43 at Shamrock VA Beach Half-Marathon, 12/2/12 First Half-Marathon 2:32:47, 5K PR Run Under the Lights 5K 27:23 on 11/23/13, 10K PR 52:53 Pike's Peek 10K 4/21/13, (1st timed run) Accumen 8K 51:09 10/14/12.
First ultra: Stone Mill 50 miler 11/15/14 13:44:38, First Full Marathon: Marine Corps 10/27/13 4:57:11, Half Marathon PR 2:04:43 at Shamrock VA Beach Half-Marathon, 12/2/12 First Half-Marathon 2:32:47, 5K PR Run Under the Lights 5K 27:23 on 11/23/13, 10K PR 52:53 Pike's Peek 10K 4/21/13, (1st timed run) Accumen 8K 51:09 10/14/12.
Debbie
Keeping track of my progress without a scale...Starting size: 28-Current size: 6-Goal size: 14
SAND...it's not a club...it's a frame of mind...
You are right once in a while they eat A Twizzler maybe even a couple.
Not a king size pack with two glasses of milk.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't get why people make others feel good about doing things which will hurt them. Why blow sunshine up someones butt?