Had an oopsie... Yikes

So yeah, I am two months out and we had a condom break yesterday.  Not sure how to react.  I know that it kinda freaks me out but at the same time, I have a calmness about me.  As soon as we realized it (after the fact) I ran to the bathroom to try and wash up and hope that gravity would do its job.  I'm sure even at this 290 or so pound range my odds are still really bad.  Even at this weight we TTC before I had surgery. Nothing happened.  So I am kinda sitting here wondering what to do.

The thought of taking the "morning after pill" makes me incredibly upset. I dont think I could even fathom taking it.  My husband thinks it would be overkill, since I could not concieve before.   If it did happen, maybe there was a reason. I am of the religious inclination that everything happens for a reason.  But I definately know that it would be very hard on my body and dangerous for the baby right now.

I'm sure my period will come in the next month as usual.  But I needed to get it off of my chest to people that might understand.  AND AGAIN I CAN NOT STRESS ENOUGH... THIS WAS AN ACCIDENT!!!!!

 You are religious and I am not, but if it was me I would take the pill anyway to be safe.  From what I understand, you can become somewhat ultra fertile... maybe before you weren't able to conceive and maybe now you can.  Maybe everything happens for a reason, but personally I already lost a baby at 7 1/2 months along, and that wasn't even being high risk.  I couldn't even think of having a baby at 2 months out from RNY.  That seems so dangerous and irresponsible to me.  Anyway.  That's my two cents.  I know it was an accident, and you should definitely not feel bad about it, but I would rather be safe than sorry, you know?  :)  Good luck.  

I agree here.

Two months out from RNY and pregnant (potentially, that is) is a real health risk for both the woman and a fetus.

I don't necessarily believe "everything happens for a reason."  I think a sperm meets an egg and then there's conception, etc. It's just biology and it's cause and effect.

I agree. the morning after pill only prevents the sperm from getting to the egg. it's not killing anything. If you are okay with using condoms, you shouldn't have a problem with the morning after pill.

good luck!

 Did you use a spermicide with it also? Ok, if you have never conceived before, is it because you can't or it just hasn't happened?  Alot depends on so many factors.  Even at your weight, many women concieve when they haven't before.  I am not trying to scare you, but there are alot of oopsie babies running around. I do not know your age, and many women heavier than you have carried babies with the right care and doctor.  This is a controversial dicussion and you may get all kinds of info from carrying the baby, to the morning after pill or an abortion.  This has to be your choice, but be prepared to what might be suggested on here.  Best of luck, Jane 

 I know how you feel. LOL I thought that I wouldn't get pregnant, but it did happen. I now have Avery precocious 19 month old, and I wouldn't change anything. I figured out that since I was losing weight, and my periods were somewhat regular, it was just bad timing. 

Don't do anything that makes you question your beliefs. If you don't feel comfortable taking the Morning After pill, then don't. You'll find out in a few weeks if you are pregnant, and you can figure out what to do next. Good luck!

There are more reliable BC methods than condoms. Depo is a great choice. Take care since most would think you are too early out to have kids so both mom and baby would have the best outcome.

Lots of us get IUDs too. Besides somewhat heavier and longer periods on the copper one, I love it.

 Thank you for your posts.   To answer a few questions:  I am 30 years old, been married for 6 1/2 years.  We had tried to concieve for 3 years with nothing, never a positive. We spoke with a fertility specialist who said I might have endometriosis, but without a laproscopy, they would not be able  to tell.  We started trying when i was 280 lbs all the way up to 350 lbs with nothing ever happening.  The specialist also stated my egg stores were low for someone my age and that I would more than likely concieve through IUI and clomid. Part of the reason I had surgery was to help me to ovulate again after being big for so many years.  I do not believe in abortion unless it is in cases of rape or incest.  Like I said, if on the huge off chance that I did concieve the resulting child would be very much loved and wanted, but on the other hand I dont think mentally I can handale a miscarriage or a stillbirth.  Im kinda stuck between religious inclinations and how much my family wants a child/grandchild.  I do take my vitamins religiously and have just had my levels checked, including thyroid during my hospital stay and everything except my copper is awesome.  That being said, I will pray and speak with my husband and see the next steps I need to take.   Kinda wishing my insurance had covered VSG now.  What a mess... 

While I realize this must be so stressful I have a few things to point out. You have been TTC for sometime and never got pregnant. Your hormones are out of whack from the surgery and weight loss. This might throw off your ovulation timeframe. Did you have egg white discharge the day before or the day after or the day you had sex? That is another sign of ovulation I never paid attention until we were TTC and I thought how did I miss that all these years LOL. You have 3 days roughly a month you can get pregnant the odds are in your favor that you will not be pregnant. I hope your not pregnant but I do believe in God and know that everything happens for a reason. It is part of his master plan so try to relax and I hope your period shows up sooner vs later. Hugs